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KateDevine
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Sex Question-Pretty TMI
So, about a month ago, I had some bleeding after sex and after a trip to L&D it was established that I have a vaginal polyp. The baby is fine, but due to the blood loss, DH and I are not allowed to have sex.
Now, at first that sounded fine, but I miss having sex with my husband. He has also started to become, lets say, snarky, about it. He isn't MEAN or anything, just misses sex with me as well. And I know there are "other things" that at least DH would enjoy, but I don't feel like doing that ALL of the time  Obviously, we are not going to do anything that would put our child at risk, but we just don't know how to deal with the emotional side of this.
I am sorry if this is too TMI for everyone, but it is making me sad and I just don't know what to do about it.
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Posted 1/19/07 12:46 PM  |
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
Try the "other things" simultaneously if you know what I mean. Are you affectionate with each other at other times?
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| Posted 1/19/07 12:47 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
Posted by melijane
Try the "other things" simultaneously if you know what I mean. Are you affectionate with each other at other times?
I can't do ANYTHING. That is the problem, so I guess its me kind of feeling unloved. We are very affectionate together, both physically and emotionally.
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| Posted 1/19/07 12:50 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
I am in the same boat. We have been on pelvic restriction since October
I try to distract him by listening to the baby's heart beat. That is usually a good enough turn-off
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| Posted 1/19/07 12:53 PM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
With DD i was on pelvic rest for 10 weeks starting at 26 weeks, and then after the ban was lifted, DH didn't want it cause he was afraid he'd break my water. His worst nightmare!
Be romantic, be carressing, leave love notes around, hug, cuddle, touch.
A playboy magazine and some private time for DH wouldn't hurt either.
My DH made it through, there's so much you can do besides actual penetration that still bring you closer physically and emotionally.
I never did the "other" thing either.
I got pg again pretty quick, so it's not like your pelvic rest is permanent thing
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| Posted 1/19/07 12:57 PM |
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TiggerBounce
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
I was not put on any restrictions by my Dr, but DH has volunteered to stop having sex b/c of an incident that occured 2 1/2 weeks ago, which I don't even think was sex related, just a matter of coinsidence.
It's a whole lot easier for him than me. I enjoy the closeness with DH, and miss it. He has no problemsdoing "other things" and is standing his ground with no sex. No fair!
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| Posted 1/19/07 1:36 PM |
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by melijane
Try the "other things" simultaneously if you know what I mean. Are you affectionate with each other at other times?
I can't do ANYTHING. That is the problem, so I guess its me kind of feeling unloved. We are very affectionate together, both physically and emotionally.
By anything you mean ANYTHING, or just things that involve any kind of penetration. What about things that happen on the surface? Would that be OK???
Message edited 1/19/2007 2:00:19 PM.
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by melijane
Try the "other things" simultaneously if you know what I mean. Are you affectionate with each other at other times?
I can't do ANYTHING. That is the problem, so I guess its me kind of feeling unloved. We are very affectionate together, both physically and emotionally.
Oh so no ****** at all? huh. How much longer until your baby's born?
ETA I said orga$m
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waytogo
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
Being in the 6w pp wait and feeling way too good for having just had a baby, I can kinda understand. We do other things, especially the 3 bases before the home run Smooching has become a new pasttime we've rediscovered...
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| Posted 1/19/07 4:55 PM |
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Re: Sex Question-Pretty TMI
My BF and her DH weren't allowed to have sex for 11 months  while she was pregnant and post pregnancy due to both some pregnancy complications (constant bladder infections, gallbladder issues) and a few other health issues post-partum.
It was not easy for them. He's very into cycling and well, the bike rides got much longer
I hope you can come up with a solution that works for you
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| Posted 1/19/07 5:01 PM |
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