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lvdolphins
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She Has Arrived (TBAF)

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She decided to visit last night...She really is mean!
I am going to start charting I think!!!!
What is the name of the book that helps you through the process?
TY ladies for all your support!
Jan. 12th is DH's bday..Maybe, by some miracle, He will find out he's going to be a daddy!
TY again ladies! You all are fantastic!
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Posted 12/14/05 4:43 PM
 
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mommy2bella
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Posted 12/14/05 4:46 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

I'm so sorry!

The book you are looking for is "Taking Charge of your Fertility". I didn't read it though. I use www.fertilityfriend.com for data imput in regard to my temps.


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Posted 12/14/05 4:47 PM
 

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Its a really good book to read- it explains everything about temps, CM and when to time BD...

I'm SO sorry AF came! Here's to a January of special announcements to DHs for all!

Posted 12/14/05 4:59 PM
 

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Sorry Dawn!! I was hoping she wouldn't show for you!

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Posted 12/14/05 5:12 PM
 

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So sorry about AF!!! She seems to have a way of sneaking in on all of us!! Sending lots of Baby Dust for a January BFP!!!

Posted 12/14/05 5:16 PM
 

chris
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I'm sorry to hear that. Good luck next month. I just started charting too. maybe we will all have new years luck!!Chat Icon

Posted 12/14/05 5:44 PM
 

redstar
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I think there is too much emphasis on bfps on holidays, birthdays, anniversaries ....

Personally I don't care if I have to tell my dh we are pregnant on April 1st.

I don't think we should put dates on our pregnancies it just adds more pressure. I know a girl who did that. I worked with her mom...and every cycle I heard...oh it would be nice to tell my mother on her birthday , or dh's birthday or uncle harry's anniversary etc

I think we lose sight of the whole thing, this is not about when we tell someone or how we tell someone it's about having a beautiful healthy baby to love...

I am so sorry about AF :( I hope it's the last of her...!! Much baby dust to you in your next cycle ! ....

Posted 12/14/05 5:47 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by redstar

I think there is too much emphasis on bfps on holidays, birthdays, anniversaries ....

Personally I don't care if I have to tell my dh we are pregnant on April 1st.

I don't think we should put dates on our pregnancies it just adds more pressure. I know a girl who did that. I worked with her mom...and every cycle I heard...oh it would be nice to tell my mother on her birthday , or dh's birthday or uncle harry's anniversary etc

I think we lose sight of the whole thing, this is not about when we tell someone or how we tell someone it's about having a beautiful healthy baby to love...

I am so sorry about AF :( I hope it's the last of her...!! Much baby dust to you in your next cycle ! ....



i agree but its so hard to not do that i mean with christmas coming its really would be sdo nice to have a bfop on xmas og f course it would be nice to get a bfp on any day liek you said but i thinki it makes it extra special when it is sometign like christmas or an anniversary or birrthday

Posted 12/14/05 5:50 PM
 

kat813
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Posted 12/14/05 8:04 PM
 

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Posted 12/14/05 8:16 PM
 

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So sorry, best of luck to you in the next cycle

Posted 12/14/05 8:16 PM
 

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Posted 12/14/05 9:32 PM
 

lvdolphins
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TY ladies so much!!!
I think any day is a special day to tell dh, and our families. Like other posts said, just makes the holidays "Extra" special, thats all.
TY for all your advice and support!
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Posted 12/14/05 9:36 PM
 

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Sorry.. sending lots of Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/05 8:06 AM
 

dooodles
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by redstar

I think there is too much emphasis on bfps on holidays, birthdays, anniversaries ....

Personally I don't care if I have to tell my dh we are pregnant on April 1st.

I don't think we should put dates on our pregnancies it just adds more pressure. I know a girl who did that. I worked with her mom...and every cycle I heard...oh it would be nice to tell my mother on her birthday , or dh's birthday or uncle harry's anniversary etc

I think we lose sight of the whole thing, this is not about when we tell someone or how we tell someone it's about having a beautiful healthy baby to love...

I am so sorry about AF :( I hope it's the last of her...!! Much baby dust to you in your next cycle ! ....



Dawn - First of all - I am so sorry TBAF showed up.
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Second - regarding your post Michelle:
I guess it's easier for you to not wish for a "special" holiday memory to want for your BFP. It's great to help others with advice and knowledge - but I don't think it's fair to always push your "personally" opinions onto everyone. I think we all know wishing and wanting so much can add pressure, you're not telling us anything new.

Am I losing sight of wanting to give birth to a a precious child to love because I hoped to give my husband his final xmas gift and had it been a positive pregnancy test? Am I also losing sight because now I hope to give him a BFP for our 1st anniversary?

No I am not. I am wishing and hoping. I couldn't care less what day of the week or year I find out I am pregnant if I ever do again. But I'd love it to have a special way to tell DH.

Message edited 12/15/2005 8:41:29 AM.

Posted 12/15/05 8:37 AM
 

boosh1002
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)


Second - regarding your post Michelle:
I guess it's easier for you to not wish for a "special" holiday memory to want for your BFP. It's great to help others with advice and knowledge - but I don't think it's fair to always push your "personally" opinions onto everyone. I think we all know wishing and wanting so much can add pressure, you're not telling us anything new.

Am I losing sight of wanting to give birth to a a precious child to love because I hoped to give my husband his final xmas gift and had it been a positive pregnancy test? Am I also losing sight because now I hope to give him a BFP for our 1st anniversary?

No I am not. I am wishing and hoping. I couldn't care less what day of the week or year I find out I am pregnant if I ever do again. But I'd love it to have a special way to tell DH.



Very well said, I totally agree Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/05 10:26 AM
 

casey31
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I see Michelle's point- At first I was wrapped up with my fantasy of getting a BFP on new years because it was when we got engaged. But now, that i'm not even ovulating this month, I don't care anymore. I just want to know that my body is working as it should so that I can eventually get a BFP - no matter when. It's totally natural though to want to have a special way of telling DH and friends, but an ordinary day will become the MOST special when you have a BFP!! It will be BETTER than Christmas or New Year's! Chat Icon

ETA: but yes, when new year's eve comes with no BFP, I will feel particularly sad because I had that little fantasy Chat Icon

Message edited 12/15/2005 10:52:25 AM.

Posted 12/15/05 10:50 AM
 

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Posted 12/15/05 10:56 AM
 

DebG
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Dawn, I am so very sorry that AF showed up. Much baby dust to you for next month!
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Posted 12/15/05 10:56 AM
 

redstar
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by dooodles

Posted by redstar

I think there is too much emphasis on bfps on holidays, birthdays, anniversaries ....

Personally I don't care if I have to tell my dh we are pregnant on April 1st.

I don't think we should put dates on our pregnancies it just adds more pressure. I know a girl who did that. I worked with her mom...and every cycle I heard...oh it would be nice to tell my mother on her birthday , or dh's birthday or uncle harry's anniversary etc

I think we lose sight of the whole thing, this is not about when we tell someone or how we tell someone it's about having a beautiful healthy baby to love...

I am so sorry about AF :( I hope it's the last of her...!! Much baby dust to you in your next cycle ! ....



Dawn - First of all - I am so sorry TBAF showed up.
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Second - regarding your post Michelle:
I guess it's easier for you to not wish for a "special" holiday memory to want for your BFP. It's great to help others with advice and knowledge - but I don't think it's fair to always push your "personally" opinions onto everyone. I think we all know wishing and wanting so much can add pressure, you're not telling us anything new.

Am I losing sight of wanting to give birth to a a precious child to love because I hoped to give my husband his final xmas gift and had it been a positive pregnancy test? Am I also losing sight because now I hope to give him a BFP for our 1st anniversary?

No I am not. I am wishing and hoping. I couldn't care less what day of the week or year I find out I am pregnant if I ever do again. But I'd love it to have a special way to tell DH.



Honestly, I don't push views on anyone. How is anything easier on me ??? Nothing about this is easy. I am trying my best to cope with the biggest challenge of my life... and the way I do that is to help others.

When you find out you are pregnant, it's the most wonderful feeling in the world and I don't think a holiday can make it feel any greater, but again that's my opinion, I am not telling anyone to agree with it.

I think putting pressure on ourselves to achieve pregnancy by a certain date can leave us feeling like we failed to reach a goal, when in essence the goal is to become a mother and our dh's fathers, at least that's my goal.

I am not even wanting a single present this year, because of course the only xmas gift that I would value is a healthy pregnancy....and my dh the same. However, if I can't give that to him, I don't want to feel like I let him down. It just adds to the sorrow and grief.

I am sorry if I offend people with my posts, and I will no longer be a part of the ttc board....if that is the case. This is a support board, and I was lending my support, and giving advice from a 2 year perspective.

You don't have to agree with anything I say, but to respond to me insensitively, I find to be disheartening. Some people forget, that I may be the one to come to, when they are in a bind...but I am also here with my own struggle.

Dawn, I am very sorry, your post was turned into this. That was not my intention. You are a kind and warm hearted soul, that is very eager to be a mother, and hopefully, your bfp will happen next cycle !

Posted 12/15/05 11:02 AM
 

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Hugs and baby dust baby dust!!!! *******

Posted 12/15/05 11:53 AM
 

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I dont think Michelle was pushing her views on ANYONE!!!!! That comment makes me so madChat Icon
I agree, it does make it more special for a BFP around a holiday, but that was NOT her point.
I wanted to have a child at the end of my school year and unfortuantely didnt work out.
I would LOVE to tell people on Xmas that I was PG, but It wont happen this time, so when it happens it will happen.
Michelle has been nothing but helpful and so caring and listened to my Fm's when I had my M/c.
Michelle, you shouldnt have to NOT be a part of the TTC board because of one commentChat Icon

Dawn
Im sorry that AF showe upChat Icon

Message edited 12/15/2005 6:30:22 PM.

Posted 12/15/05 2:49 PM
 

casey31
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by Diane

I dont think Michelle was pushing her views on ANYONE!!!!! That comment makes me so madChat Icon
I agree, it does make it more special for a BFP around a holiday, but that was NOT her point.
I wanted to have a child at the end of my school year and unfortuantely didnt work out.
I would LOVE to tell people on Xmas that I was PG, but It wont happen this time, so when it happens it will happen.
Michelle has been nothing but helpful and so caring and listened to my Fm's when I had my M/c.
Michelle, you shouldnt have to NOT be a part of the TTC board because of one ignorant commentChat Icon

Dawn
Im sorry that AF showe upChat Icon





I agree entirely. Michelle is one of the most supportive women on this board. I really and truly don't think she was trying to push her views here- just trying to be helpful.

Posted 12/15/05 2:57 PM
 

2kids2cats
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by Diane

I dont think Michelle was pushing her views on ANYONE!!!!! That comment makes me so madChat Icon
I agree, it does make it more special for a BFP around a holiday, but that was NOT her point.
I wanted to have a child at the end of my school year and unfortuantely didnt work out.
I would LOVE to tell people on Xmas that I was PG, but It wont happen this time, so when it happens it will happen.
Michelle has been nothing but helpful and so caring and listened to my Fm's when I had my M/c.
Michelle, you shouldnt have to NOT be a part of the TTC board because of one ignorant commentChat Icon

Dawn
Im sorry that AF showe upChat Icon



I agree! I have been busy at work today and was getting upset that nobody has posted anything in her defense! I hope we all get BFP's real soon! Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/05 3:01 PM
 

calendargrl
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Michelle if you leave i leave, there is no point being on the boards when you answer all of our questions. I especially look at your responses to other girls because I value your insight. Don't let one person's comments make you leave.

Posted 12/15/05 3:23 PM
 
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