Should I feel guilty?

I have a chance to get away for a weekend with my best friend.

I would be leaving Friday night and returning Sunday night. Its only upstate and an hour flight. My dh will be home but my mom and sister would come to see the baby I am sure.

My mom said to me yesterday that she thinks its wrong that I get on an airplane and leave Megan behind. What if God forbid something happens. My thing is, a car is even more dangerous..I know I am taking more of a chance and it makes me nervous that I will be so far away from her but its ONE weekend. Ive NEVER done anything like this before. Its not out of state or country.

Should I feel guilty and cancel or just go? Now I feel like I am being a bad mommy if I go.

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You can't live your life based on "what if's."

Therefore you should go and enjoy yourself! You have nothing to feel guilty about.

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You should GO!

There is nothing wrong with you getting some "You" time!

Go and have a great time without any guilt - she will be fine!

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Posted by aliwnec10

You can't live your life based on "what if's."

Therefore you should go and enjoy yourself! You have nothing to feel guilty about.

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So at what age would it be appropriate to get on a plane and leave DD behind? I know this makes me sound like a smart a$$, but I am also sort of serious.

If your DH is OK with parenting solo for the weekend, then go and have a good time. A little time away will make you a happier wife and mommy, which will benefit everyone.

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No, I do not think you should feel guilty. I think you should go and enjoy yourself.

With your mother's think, you would never leave the house-or maybe you would because it could burn down

That is no way to live and you deserve a break every now and then.

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Pack your bags and enjoy yourself! You deserve it! No worries, no guilt. Ignore your mom!

You can't go through life worrying about what ifs and could've, would;ve, should've. GO!!!!!!

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You should go. You have to take time for yourself. This will make you a happier person and ultimately a better mother.

I have had to leave DD three times for business trips and it is hard. I understand the hesitation but you should not feel guilty.

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There are people who HAVE to travel for work, for family, etc. I think it's a ridiculous guilt trip - go, enjoy. You deserve it!

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Go, have a good time. If I were you I'd already be packed with my bags by the door!!!!



Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for taking some you time. We all need and deserve it!

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You should absolutely NOT feel guilty - I think our Moms just have a different way of thinking - it's a generation thing -
They didn't go on vacation w/o their husbands and they didn't 'leave their babies behind' -

You should GO - I'm sure your DH is perfectly capable of caring for his child for the weekend w/o an entourage of people to 'help' ........You should NEVER have to feel guilty for leaving your child in the care of their FATHER !!! -
Would anyone feel guilty to 'leave' the baby with his mother ??? KWIM ??

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Posted by aliwnec10

You can't live your life based on "what if's."

Therefore you should go and enjoy yourself! You have nothing to feel guilty about.

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if you dont want to i'll go for you !!

i say go and enjoy. anything can happen anywhere and if we live in constant fear we will never live !

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I would definitely go and enjoy yourself. And I think it is fuccked up that anyone is trying to give you a guilt trip!

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Your mom let you move out of the house.... what if something happens to you now? She's not there to protect you...

Definitely don't feel guilty about it. Once the umbilical cord is cut, you are two individuals. Yes, you both need each other, but you should also be allowed to be your own person, at least once in a while.

Are you allowed to sleep in a different room than DC? Can you go to the bathroom alone? What if an asteroid hits your house, and you are in the bathroom, and DD is in her room? At some point, you (aka your mom) have to let go of fears and live your life.....

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Absolutely not.

If this is something you want to do you should.

A happy mommy is a good mommy.



My mom has given me similar guilt trips in the past. You have to just remember that things were different when they were raising us and they don't "get" what it's like today.

Go and enjoy!!

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I go away every year with my best friend Thurs night-Sunday morning. I have ZERO guilt. None. I call 2x a day to see how everyone is and yes, I miss my babies but I come home SOOO much happier and less stressed.
My best friend always told me that it is important for your children to know that daddy can take care of them too..even if he does things differently. I follow that advise :)

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I say go for it!! Enjoy and have a good time!!

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Go, girl, go!!! Have a great time. DD will be in good hands!!!

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Go and enjoy yourself.

Don't let your mother make you feel guilty.

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Noreen, you and I both know that your mother is just guilting you out of her own anxiety. You should absolutely go and enjoy yourself. When was the last time you did anything for yourself?

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GO GO GO!! Have fun and dont look back while your gone!!