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gottaluvmusik
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Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
My inlaws bought Cadi the big Step 2 kitchen for xmas. So DH receives a call yesterday from my FIL and he says can you pick up the Kitchen we have NO ROOM FOR IT we have all the gifts here for the party.... I was upset. Dont you think they would want to watch Cadi open the gift they got her??? Also we decided we were gonna stay at my IL for the night well my MIL says I guess I will have to get the rooms ready for you. Why is it that Cadi is always an inconvience for them. DOnt you think they would want Cadi to sleep over. No they only want her when it is good for them. DH does not get it. He says oh are we gonna have room for it in the car. They have no room... are you kidding me they have 4 bedrooms, 2 living rooms... you cant stick it in there for 1 day... I AM SOO UPSET... am I wrong??
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Posted 12/23/08 11:03 PM |
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sometimesmommy
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
No you are not wrong. I think the relationships with IL are usually like walking on ice ready to be broken. Tread carefully as it is your DH parents and he may not get it and may feel pressure to take a side--I have been in that situation and poor DH was in the middle--I just adjusted/adapted to them and some battles I fight and some others I put in my two cents for DH to fight withhis parents. Others I just let go.
I wish I had better advice but I say let it go--I spoke up and its so uncomfortable now--moreso than when I didnt say anything But if you feel strongly about it maybe discuss with DH
Message edited 12/23/2008 11:16:57 PM.
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Posted 12/23/08 11:15 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
My parents bought Jack the Step 2 Deluxe kitchen and won't see his reaction when he sees it - I got it from their house last week and we put it together the other night. My mom wanted him to have it in the house on Christmas morning. Maybe they are thinking along those lines? That it's better for her to see it put together - then just a box?
Does your DH know how you feel about the ILS - and how they feel about Cadi? Maybe he can talk to his parents about it!
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Posted 12/23/08 11:21 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
Honestly Andrea, their stupidity is not worth upsetting you and ruining your Christmas.
Did they put the kitchen together already or they just dont want the box in their house?
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Posted 12/23/08 11:25 PM |
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gottaluvmusik
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Name: Andrea
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
Posted by jellybean1420
Honestly Andrea, their stupidity is not worth upsetting you and ruining your Christmas.
Did they put the kitchen together already or they just dont want the box in their house?
They just dont want the box in their house... i am just more upset that dh does not get it...
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Posted 12/23/08 11:27 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
Posted by gottaluvmusik
Posted by jellybean1420
Honestly Andrea, their stupidity is not worth upsetting you and ruining your Christmas.
Did they put the kitchen together already or they just dont want the box in their house?
They just dont want the box in their house... i am just more upset that dh does not get it...
If it's the box that's ridiculous! Either way it's stupid but I can see if they put it together and wanted to bring it over to her, even if it was the day before Christmas, but just b/c they dont want the box in the house is stupid.
That would aggravate me too but like I said before, dont let it ruin your Christmas with Cadi. I would sleep there either...just stay home and go there that morning and save yourself the extra aggravation.
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Posted 12/23/08 11:39 PM |
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sometimesmommy
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
Posted by gottaluvmusik
Posted by jellybean1420
Honestly Andrea, their stupidity is not worth upsetting you and ruining your Christmas.
Did they put the kitchen together already or they just dont want the box in their house?
They just dont want the box in their house... i am just more upset that dh does not get it...
It is his family--its hard to think that his family is hurting his wife intentionally so he is analyzing the situation differently than a non family member would. We never want to think the worse of a parent So the key is how your present the situation to him.
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Posted 12/23/08 11:52 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
I am sorry you are upset.
I would try to focus on the fact that they got this great gift for your DD and that your DD is going to love it. Your DD probably won't care who watches her when she first sees it-she'll be too excited and what's great is that YOU and your DH will get to see that excitement.
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Posted 12/24/08 9:01 AM |
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
Posted by CrankyPants
I am sorry you are upset.
I would try to focus on the fact that they got this great gift for your DD and that your DD is going to love it. Your DD probably won't care who watches her when she first sees it-she'll be too excited and what's great is that YOU and your DH will get to see that excitement.
I agree with this.
My parent's big gift for DS is a train table, they won't see him open it either, it's here already. DH and I set it up for him. I never even thought that that was weird. I mean, the box is just a box to her, KWIM? She won't get excited for that!
As for staying over there, adn this isn't a flame, but did you invite yourselves? Even though DD is their granddaughter, I can understand being a little annoyed when 3 extra people are sleeping over...especially on a holiday!
Don't let it stress you out
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Posted 12/24/08 9:08 AM |
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Re: Sitting here crying ( sorry soo long) let me know what you think??
Posted by CrankyPants
I am sorry you are upset.
I would try to focus on the fact that they got this great gift for your DD and that your DD is going to love it. Your DD probably won't care who watches her when she first sees it-she'll be too excited and what's great is that YOU and your DH will get to see that excitement.
ITA!!
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Posted 12/24/08 10:14 AM |
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