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princess99
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situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
I am so upset. I came home in tears yesterday, and just sobbing in my DH arms and calling my sister and crying to her too. My Mom passed in 1994. I saw my freind yesterday who came up for the holiday and another friend, we are all freinds since jr high, and still are. The next thing I know they are there with there Moms and daughters in the restuarant we were meeting at. I do not have children yet, I will eventually but I do not have my Mom. I was so upset. There moms are talking etc. When it came time for the bill, I knew there Moms were going to pay for them and it made me feel like crap- I can well afford it, I did not have my mom there. I left before they offically did, and tried to put down my share of the money- they would not let me, they refused to let me pay, which was nice, but I felt like a " charity case" becuase my Mom was not there and they took pity on me, and I know it should get better, it has been almost 14 years since my Mom passed, but it hurt so much yesterday. I normally would take my MIL with me to these things and she passed last year. I also was kind of angry I did not have a "heads up ' that it was a mother daughter lunch.
Dh has been very supportive, so is sister, but it HURT so MUCH.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Message edited 11/27/2006 10:01:40 AM.
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Posted 11/26/06 10:34 AM  |
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kathleeng
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
I emphasize as that would have hurt me as well.
As of late, I am having the most trouble with the birthday parties for our friends kids and seeing Grandma and Grandpa all happy knowing that it will never be like that for our kids.
It is normal to have these pangs now and again. It just sux.
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| Posted 11/26/06 11:21 AM |
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princess99
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
Thank you, it makes it a little easier to know I am not the only one.
Yes, it does hurt seeing all the grandmas and grandpas at these birthday parties. I was at my best friends daughetrs 6th b day party and I was pretty depressed afterwards becuase they were there all over the grandkids! ( I lost both my Mom and Dad).
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| Posted 11/26/06 4:23 PM |
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Christine
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
I am so sorry. Unexpected moments like that can really shake you up.
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| Posted 11/26/06 6:06 PM |
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twobabies
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
i definitly know how you feel. i have been in a similar situation. i lost my mom almost 11 years ago and it still hurts so bad for me. i think one of the worst days for me was going to buy my wedding gown. there was another girl there with her mom and the mom was crying and telling her how beautiful she looked and so on. i wish i had my mom there with me that day. and for so many others we missed out on togehter.
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| Posted 11/27/06 8:26 AM |
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princess99
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
Posted by twobabies
i definitly know how you feel. i have been in a similar situation. i lost my mom almost 11 years ago and it still hurts so bad for me. i think one of the worst days for me was going to buy my wedding gown. there was another girl there with her mom and the mom was crying and telling her how beautiful she looked and so on. i wish i had my mom there with me that day. and for so many others we missed out on togehter.
I had a similair experience. I was getting my fitting and I was alone, and there was a Mom and daughter and they were crying and saying... " I wish Grandma was here to see this!". I was like okay, it is sad Grandma is not here, but at least you have your Mom with you! I never went alone for another fitting again!
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| Posted 11/27/06 10:00 AM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
I know exactly how you feel, or rather, can share a time when I felt like a "motherless daughter."
I got married over the summer and right after I booked at Fox Hollow, I was told of this "perfect wedding planner" tea party. My dad was amazing -- he did everything with me. But this event was for women only. I just KNEW it would be moms/daughters rather than the bride/female friend (I was right) but I really wanted to go. My dad's girlfriend dropped what she was doing to come with me. She's so respectful of my mom...it makes me like her even more.
I genuinely wish I had a great relationship with my MIL, and that she could've helped me through all this. But my MIL is a crazy selfish b*tch and while I will always tolerate her, I will not be friends with her.
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| Posted 11/27/06 3:15 PM |
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Gumpslilqtpie
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
 Im so sorry sweetie. I know how you feel. My Mom passed almost 8 years ago and I wish it got better. Here's some
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| Posted 11/27/06 8:06 PM |
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antoinette
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
I know how that feels- I went shopping recently with a bunc of friends to a craft fair. They all brought their moms with them- it was really hard because I know that my mom would have wanted to be there with me...
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| Posted 11/28/06 12:24 PM |
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Jenhos
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
Anytime I see a mom and a daughter out my heart aches.
Having my son and being PG with #2 has been the hardest. I just want to know if she thinks I am a good mom.
On vacation this week this lady said your mom must just eat him up he is so cute. I almost burst into tears right there.
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| Posted 12/1/06 8:32 AM |
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AlohaMa
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
I find it hard when I am out with my twin boys and people say, "Does mom help out a lot?" "Does mom live close by?" It's so awkward to then explain that she is not here. I also am very aware of her absence when I see other moms of little ones out with the babies and their mothers. It's very hard and I try not to focus on it.
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| Posted 12/1/06 12:00 PM |
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AlohaMa
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Re: situations were you really feel like a " MOTHERLESS DAUGHTER"... Sorry need to Vent...
Posted by Jenhos
Anytime I see a mom and a daughter out my heart aches.
Having my son and being PG with #2 has been the hardest. I just want to know if she thinks I am a good mom.
On vacation this week this lady said your mom must just eat him up he is so cute. I almost burst into tears right there.
As my DH would tell me... you already know what your mom would say/do - you just have to think about it! I'm sure she thinks you're a wonderful mom - ask her and you'll know!
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