so afraid to TTC again

I know it's still early and I guess it's totally normal to feel this way after a m/c but I just want to know that I'm feeling "normal" things. As much as I want a baby, I'm so terrified of TTC again and having this happen again. What do I do to calm my fears? My dr. said that since I m/c on my own and don't need a d&c I can start trying right away but i'm worried that my body needs to heal a bit?

Ugh I don't wish this on my worst enemy, no woman should ever have to go through this, it totally sucks

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Ugh.. I know exactly what you mean. I said the exact same words to my dr. today. We must try again though, in order to be successful

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I will be honet with you, its the scariest thing to be pregnant again after a loss. But everyday i go to bed one day closer to holding my baby and it gives me stregth the get through another day. You will do it too just be positve and believe you will get there. <3

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Yea... it's hard to not have that fear.

I DEF have it.... but the truth is... I can't let it get me... I can't let it beat me... I can't let it stop me from trying. A month turns into 2, into 3 into 6 into 12 etc. I feel like if I put it off because of fear than it will just remain that way.

I also feel like if I get pregnant again and it does stick and it's within the time frame that I would have been pregnant.... than at least there was a reason for this to happen. It's one of the few ways I feel like I can put it into perspective.

I know exactly how you feel.

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YOu have to try when you were ready...I know when it was time for me to be "allowed" to try again I was scared. Even when it was time to BD for the first time after the D&C it was scary and emotional...so you have to do what you are ready to do.

Its so sad that going through this forces us to lose the excitment of pregnancy and stuff..but I am going to do my best not to allow it to be taken. So try to enjoy it. We all have to remember that most of the time its just a bad egg...and that 80% of pregnancies are healthy!

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I completely agree with you. I really don't think I want to TTC again. There is no way I can handle another miscarriage. I am so upset. I did not have a D&C and the process is so disgusting. I also don't think I can handle another pregnancy. I can imagine the anxiety and the constant worrying if everything is ok. I have one DC and I think I will just be happy with what I have.

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I had my mc 3 months ago. I started trying the very next cycle. Good luck!!!!

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I totally understand what you mean....I m/c in August and we are finally starting to TTC again(I needed time physically and mentally) but DH and I are both super nervous about getting preg. and then having this happen again...you are definitely not alone with those feelings!