So DH is a little upset with me...

As many of you know I had digestive issues with DD. Unfortunately it looks like I do have long lasting side effects. Last monday I weighed myself and was a whopping 150lbs--I am only 5ft. However my clothing size did not go up. I am still in a 6. Well friday I was down to 139. When I delivered DD I was in the high 120's 6 mths ago.. My body is brusing-socks, watches, underwear EVERYTHING is leaving marks on my skin Plus my stomach is distended. I already know the signs that my digestion is slowing down and know I should call my GI but I am not ready to go back on water pills and medication. I really want to nurse/pump for DD. I feel like its something I have to do for both her and me but DH is upset with me becuase he thinks I am being stubborn. Really I am not. I just feel that she needs the antibodies in my BM. Am I wrong that I would put her health infront of mine..I thought thats what mommies did....

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What she needs most is a healthy mommy. BM is great, but you need to be well to take care of her. I say go to the dr asap. Maybe you can pump a bunch before your dr appointment to try and store a little.

I know how you feel but you really do need to take care of yourself.

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I'm going to be blunt.... your breastmilk won't do a lick of good for her if you wind up in the hospital or worse.

If you won't do it for yourself- think of what being seriously ill will do to BOTH your children and your DH.

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I can see how it is important to you to BF your DD, but you also want to be happy and healthy for her, which IMO is much more important than BFing in the long-run.

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I am so pro-Bfing...but you have to go to the dr. Take care of yourself.

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I have to agree with the above posters. I stopped BFing after only 2 weeks because I was not ready to go off my heart medication and my pediatrician found out that the drug is not as safe as I was first told it was. I would love to have BFed for as long as you have. Think of all you have done for her already and know that she will be healthy and that you should be healthy to enjoy her!!

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JMO, you need to go to the doctor. You could be doing long term damage to your body. While 'breast is best' formula these days is very advanced and will give your DD what she needs. I think the motivation to BF is more emotional and you need to possibly let it go if that is what the doc does indeed say. In any case, help your body, it sounds like it is crying out. It is not smart to let your bruising, distended body go unattended to.

Message edited 3/2/2008 9:47:17 PM.

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I agree with everyone else. BF is wonderful. I did it for 9months. However, your daughters need a healthy mommy. So if something is impacting that, it is best for you to take care of yourself because in the end, tyour girls will only want and need....a healthy mommy.

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thanx ladies. I guess I am not ready to let go

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First I commend you for BF so long and for going through all the stuff that you had to go through for your DD. But honestly I agree with everyone else...BF your DD is not going to do her any good if you are sick. I'm sure your DD would rather have a healthy mommy and some formula than a sick mommy that BF's. I know it's hard to let go but you are such a great mommy.....look at all you did and had to go through for your DD to be born

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Posted by sometimesmommy

thanx ladies. I guess I am not ready to let go

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Ann, I know EXACTLY how you feel. You made it this long. Now you need to get to the doctor. What you did for your daughter was beyond more than many moms out there could even endure. You went through so much to bring her into this life. Now make sure you are a happy and healthy mommy to watch her grow up.

I fought hard to keep BF DS. I begin weaning today, which I am very upset over. All I am doing is crying. I, too, am not ready to let go. But I have to take care of myself.

I am here for you. We can lean on each other. You need to take care of yourself.

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BM is NOT putting her health ahead of yours.

I had to be on a medication unsafe for BM when DS was 4.5 months. I was trying to battle an infection. It took 2 months to get rid of it. Mostly because I took 2 medicine that were not strong enough. And you know what, DS had to go on formula with no transitions at all. I was upset, wondered how he would do. He did fine!

I resumed BF after my medication but never to EBF. I nursed him twice a day only then stopped completelly at 6 months.

You have to take care of yourself. DD will adapt to the formula.

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Your DD needs a healthy mom, she will be fine without bm .

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Lots of babies thrive on formula, and yours will too. You BF for awhile which should help. I agree with pp's, your baby needs a healthy Mom more than breastmilk. Take care of yourself!

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You have a wonderful husband who obviously loves you...please listen to him! Your body is telling you something is wrong - you need to listen to it. You've sacrificed for this baby already..you've given her thr gift of life, and BFing for this long is amazing.
Now it's your turn!

(And...my milk never came in, so I never BF at all, and my daughter is thriving at 9 months old. Your daughter will be fine!)

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I have to agree with everyone..please your family needs you healty