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Re: So I had the 'talk' with AJ last night about grandpa
This is the saddest story... I am so sorry for you and for your family. I can actually relate to your daughter a little. I was five years old when I lost my grandma, my mom's mom. My poor mom cried a LOT and I can specifically remember hearing her crying in her room and me going in there, climbing on her lap and giving her tons of hugs and kisses. I didn't like seeing my mom cry. I also knew my grandma, who I saw every single day and loved very much, would never be back. It was sad and I also remember wishing on a star that she would come back. If this comforts you, I still remember playing with her, hugging her, talking to her... I will never forget her and I don't think your DD will either. I can also tell you that while I was sad, it was very different from losing people as an older child or an adult. As a 5 year old, it was just different. I was sad but I wasn't traumatized. So try to take comfort in that your DD is very resilient and likely will not be traumatized by this. I am so sorry you had to do this and I am so sorry you lost your dad. You are in my thoughts.
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Re: So I had the 'talk' with AJ last night about grandpa
Posted by Xelindrya
The last words my father said to me were broken, very hard to hear but was this..
"What will you tell AJ?"
I lost it then in the hospital room, but I told him "I will tell her that you love her and you will always be in her heart"
But those were the last understandable words he had for us. It was haunting me for a week. What will you tell AJ? The question hurt so bad.
She seemed fine this morning. We'll see how she fares through the services. But I'm glad I told her the truth.
I think you absolutely did the right thing by telling her the truth. Children are little people and deserve to know the truth so you handled that perfectly. Other posters are right - children handle things differently. I think she will be okay during services. She will likely see cousins/extended family who will keep her occupied.
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Xelindrya
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Re: So I had the 'talk' with AJ last night about grandpa
Posted by laurenandmike619
This is the saddest story... I am so sorry for you and for your family. I can actually relate to your daughter a little. I was five years old when I lost my grandma, my mom's mom. My poor mom cried a LOT and I can specifically remember hearing her crying in her room and me going in there, climbing on her lap and giving her tons of hugs and kisses. I didn't like seeing my mom cry. I also knew my grandma, who I saw every single day and loved very much, would never be back. It was sad and I also remember wishing on a star that she would come back. If this comforts you, I still remember playing with her, hugging her, talking to her... I will never forget her and I don't think your DD will either. I can also tell you that while I was sad, it was very different from losing people as an older child or an adult. As a 5 year old, it was just different. I was sad but I wasn't traumatized. So try to take comfort in that your DD is very resilient and likely will not be traumatized by this. I am so sorry you had to do this and I am so sorry you lost your dad. You are in my thoughts.
Thank you.
That means a lot. I really love my dad. He's my best friend and closest confident. I called him every single day since 9/11 and always ended our calls with "I love you" even if we were mad at eachother.
I wanted so much for her to know him like I did. To play with him, learn to play guitar from him, color, paint and build with him.
There's an sailboat he got for her and him to make, but its never been opened.
I really want her to remember him. I wish they had more time together but I have a good number of photos and videos of them when they were together.
I hope when she grows up she remembers him with a smile.
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So I had the 'talk' with AJ last night about grandpa
OMG!!! First of all I am so sorry for your loss!!! My heart is broken reading this. AJ is adorable and you did a GREAT job. I'm crying here.
And PS - I do the same thing you do after someone passes. I do pray when things are hard at home but I like to talk to those that have passed. Keeps that connection a little longer.
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Re: So I had the 'talk' with AJ last night about grandpa
my heart broke reading that.
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