So sad

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I don't have experience with m/c but I've had a loss myself.

I want to send you hugs and encouragement. This is the hardest thing you will ever go through.

Have you asked the docs about testing? B/c you've had 2 losses? I'm sure there are other ladies who will have more info for you.

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I am so sorry.

Everything that you are feeling is normal, but we can't blame ourselves for any of it.

I hope that you find yourself pregnant again as soon as you are ready and that you go on to have a happy, healthy baby. People keep reminding me to be positive and believe it will happen - it's SO hard, but we have to try.

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I'm so sorry

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I'm sorry i dont have happy stories to share... i have the same problem as you. Its so easy for me to get pregnant... i never imagined i would have 3 losses in less than a year...

I am now seeing an RE, so hopefully i will have a happy ending soon!

Message edited 11/1/2011 9:17:55 PM.

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I'm sorry!!!

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I just had my 1st miscarriage so wanted to say how sorry I am. It's not easy. Plenty of girls on here say their dr's said they could start TTC right away. My doctor suggests I wait 2 cycles which will be like 3 months...it seems so far away to me. I guess it depends on the doctor - but my dr. did say there would not be a problem if I came to him in a month and was pregnant. He just suggests letting your body heal and get your cycles back on track before trying again.
Good luck and sending you lots of ...this board is amazing and has been such great support for me over the last few weeks.

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I have a happy story for you! I had 2 losses within 3 months of each other - the first was at 8w (no hb) the second was at 11 1/2 after seeing a hb (later found out it was Triploidy). I found that after the first I just chalked it up to bad luck and was looking to try again ASAP and got pg with my second loss and was completely devestated much more than my first loss b/c I think I had the dread of "what if this can never happen for me and it's not bad luck?". I needed a break and wasn't mentally ready to try again until I was totally ready to accept another loss (the sad reality of m/c) and also wanted to have testing done and didn't want to get into pregnancy again until I knew that I had all of my bases covered medically. Well, I am now the proud mom of an almost 3 year old son, who manages to light up my life in ways I never imagaine. I feel like if I never went through hell, I wouldn't have him and would go through it all again for him. After all I had been through, it made it that much sweeter to take home a healthy baby and to have a great pregnancy, not just for me and DH but also for all of our family and friends who were there for us throughout it all. Having been through so much I feel like I really don't sweat the small stuff, b/c I know how insignificant some of the stuff people somplain about can be.
I suffered another loss while TTC #2, but it's been completely different in dealing with it. I've also consulted an RE after this loss.
Best of luck to you and hoping you get your happy ending sooner than later

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First, I want to say I am so sorry for you loss!

I just wanted to give you some comfort in knowing that you will have a baby! I had a m/c and then had a beautiful healthy little boy who just turned two. I recently found out I was pregnant and just found out last Thurs. that I lost the baby. I just had a D&C today. I wanted to share to give you that encouragemnt that it will all work out!

Stay strong and many hugs!

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I'm so sorry.

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I am so sorry. I am hoping that the third time is a charm for you.

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Message edited 11/1/2011 9:11:36 PM.

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It really does stink so much........

I always imagined it would be hard for us to get pregnant, because I was told I had PCOS when I was a teenager. I never imagine STAYING pregnant would be so hard I lost my first baby at 17wks, then lost triplets at almost 8wks. It's just horrible, I wish I had something more to say....... Have you considered seeing a doctor to hopefully find out what's contributing to the multiple losses?

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I am so sorry for what you are going through

I know how sad it is- I had two losses back to back. I took a break and was shocked to get a BFP. I had my DD and she was 100% healthy.

Don't give up!!!! You WILL be a mommy!

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I am so truly sorry for your loss I can remember mine like it was yesterday there is a light at the end of the tunnel though! I miscarried in May at almost 7weeks got preggo 2mths later and Im now 12 weeks and everything is going great! You'll get that baby soon, I know waiting those 2mths feels like an eternity but its best to give your body time to heal.

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I'm so sorry

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Message edited 11/1/2011 9:10:02 PM.

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It will get a little bit easier with time.

I can relate though... I don't have a lot of close girlfriends locally (my college friends are my BFFs but they live out of state) but the two closest friends I have here are both pregnant - one due exactly a month before I was, and one due exactly a month after I was.

It's HARD. It's a constant reminder - I always think about how much fun that would have been. I am already worried about going to visit the one due before I was when she has the baby because it is the hospital I would have delivered in and I thought about how crazy it would be go to there 8 months pregnant knowing I'd be back...

But I don't know when or if I will become pregnant again, and so I have no choice but to face these things (showers, shopping, talking about baby stuff) and move forward, because I am truly happy for them and can't skip this stuff forever.

I hope we all have good news to share soon.