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justthe4ofus
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So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
As some may know I have not seen my father since Dec 06. He has chosen to be mad at me for something my brother did and take it out on my kids. This has been his choice all along. All the while I have maintained a relationship with my grandmother (his mother) my daughter has grown up knowing her GG and loves her. My grandmother has always been a cold woman and was not a wonderful grandparent but my daughter loves her.
Well today I was supposed to take my kids to see her and when I called her, she told me she doesn't want to see them since my father can't. I explained to her it's not that he can't he chooses not to and she told me I was and am still a little shyt and that she is not going to see them. I told her she can be mad at me but shouldn't take it out on them. Nope she won't so I had to explain to my daughter that GG isn't feeling well.
I hate family. I am just done. So today I mourn the loss of my grandmother because I will not forgive this and being that she is 84 I am sure she will not be around for much longer. She has yelled at me about this infront of my kids. She told me she purposely didn't send them Christmas cards because of this. (not that I care my kids do not want for anything). I am just done.
My head is done, someone just needs to explain this to my heart.
Message edited 12/29/2008 11:15:57 AM.
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lorimarie
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
Awww Jamie - I'm so sorry.
I have issues with my dad's father - he's a real piece of work. He may be family but I don't have to like it.
I guess what I'm trying to say is people are people, family or not. It just sucks a bit more when they are.
You're always going to be the better person and its a shame that she wants nothing to do with your 2 beautiful children - unfortunately its her loss.
Hugs sweetie 
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| Posted 12/29/08 11:01 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
 I'm sorry she's making a bad choice.
Cutting off family is always unsettling & I'm not sure there is any explanation for for it for your head or your heart.
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| Posted 12/29/08 11:02 AM |
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Melissa77
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
Jamie - I am so sorry especially for Dee. Family sux.
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| Posted 12/29/08 11:27 AM |
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Faithx2
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
Sorry Jamie
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| Posted 12/29/08 11:29 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
OMGosh Jamie, I am so sorry she's making such a bad decision!
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| Posted 12/29/08 11:31 AM |
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JennasMom
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
I am so sorry Jamie, you would think at her age she would treasure all the time she can spend with her GC. Family suck$ sometimes.
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| Posted 12/29/08 11:37 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
jamie i am so sorry - it just isn't fair that she is doing this.
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| Posted 12/29/08 11:37 AM |
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justthe4ofus
I hate hypocrites!!!!!
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
Thank you guys. I am very sadden by this. I have had a long talk with my hubby today and I have to stop expecting people to love my kids just because they are family. I was wrong to expect that. I am just so blessed though to have the friends that I do have who love my kids so much.
Melissa Mom has Dee now I am going to ask her, when she gets back and I will call you later.
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| Posted 12/29/08 12:58 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
Oh Jamie. I am SO sorry your family is doing this to you. You're right, family stinks sometimes.
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:03 PM |
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ILJ619
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
This is so sad. It was very big of you to tell your kids grandma was sick instead of telling them the truth which was very hurtful. I just pray she changes her mind one day and they come to their senses, if not it is truly their loss.
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:05 PM |
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sweetie101
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
sorry to hear. it truely sucks when people put children in the middle of adult problems. the children suffer not them.
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:11 PM |
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
I'm so sorry to hear this...so many obstacles in life, I wish I knew how to help...all I have are
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:19 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
OMG, that is horrible. You would think she would want to find some middle ground, considering these are her great-grandchildren. It goes to show you that the apple has not fallen far from the tree and her ability to cut off her heart from your children has been passed down to her miserable son. I wish there was something I could say that could make this easier for you. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you; to have your children rejected by what's supposed to be people in their lives who SHOULD be offering them unconditional love. Be thankful that you and the kids have the love and support of your Mom. I don't know how, but somehow you need to find the way to emotionally disconnect yourselves from these people. I hate seeing them have such an impact on your happiness
Be glad that you don't have to put yourself in an uncomfortable position anymore for the sake of "familial appearances". She's a misery, like her son. If she's capable of cutting off two beautiful children, be well rid of her (and him).
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:33 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
people make bad decisions sometimes, even family.
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:34 PM |
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mommy2bella
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
I am in a similar situation Jamie and it certainly does stink.
My mother and I do not speak because of a laundry list of things, and my grandmother will not speak to me or visit with me because of it and actually sent me a letter just about 12 years ago that was rude and nasty. That was it for me...we have not reconciled.
Not even after my uncle died in 2001 and my DH and I went to the wake.
I know as she is also in her 80's with failing health that one day we will get a call that she has passed....and I will cry. Not because I feel guilty, but to mourn what could have been. Bella will never know her great-grandmother, and it is so ridiculous why.
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:46 PM |
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Deedlebugs
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
I am so sorry. You and your child do not deserve that. 
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:51 PM |
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
Aww, Jamie. I am so sorry. You do not deserve this, it is so unfortunate that your grandmother chose to take sides and to cut off you and your kids. I know, and you know, that SHE is theone missing out, not Dee and Squish.
And no, you shouldn't expect people to love your kids, but the people who you are talking about SHOULD. I'm sorry you are so upset.
Once you make your peace with it, it will start feel better.
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| Posted 12/29/08 1:58 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
how sad....when my parents divorced, my dad's side of the family cut me and my sister out of their lives....their loss.
I am sorry you have to deal with this, she will regret this decision one day
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Eireann
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
What a sorry situation! I am so sad for you and your children. Famiily just sucks sometimes...
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steph4777
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
I'm so sorry you're going through this and that you have to explain it to your DD. It's their loss bc they are missing out on seeing your DC grow up.
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Lucky
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
So sad but you don't need that kind of negative energy in your life!
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littlejoy06
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
Awe Jamie, that is terrible. I just hope she changes her mind soon.
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wowcoulditbe
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
I completely understand hon....we just saw my own mom on sat to celebrate christmas since she was "too worried" about black ice (you know when it was 50 degrees out  ) on christmas and cancelled on us the tuesday before.....
i am sorry for your dd b/c she will never understand, thankfully...and have to suffer like you do....but all in all, its better in the long run for you and them...hang in there and anytime you need a friend to vent or talk to who is there with you, let me know!
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| Posted 12/29/08 2:20 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: So today I mourn my grandmother and my children's only great grandparent
I can relate a little.
DH's grandmother LOATHES me and will not acknowledge my DD if I'm holding her - only if someone else is. I don't let it affect me because at the end of the day she's not my blood. I know she's a crazy old bat and my DD is better off without that kind of toxic person in her life. DH, on the other hand, suffers because of it.
Hopefully, you can shield your DD from the truth of the situation so her feelings don't get hurt.
I think it's cruel of your grandmother to make children suffer unnecessarily because of adult situations.
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