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I guess i always knew that i would put her well being befor mine but when she was born its actually kicks in that you would die for this little person.

i never realized how a little girl could make my worst day at work disappear from my mind by just hearing her giggle or seeing her big smile.

your turn.... i never realized......

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I never realized that everything I used to think was a SUCH big deal is now so trivial. The only thing that matters in the world is my baby...then other things. No matter how much you love DH and your family, it does NOT even compare to the love you have for your child.

One more...

I realized that people who do not have children should NOT comment on how others should raise thier kids

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I never realized just how many stupid things I'd do just to make my babies laugh.

I never realized how strong I was until I held it together while my son had a very painful and invasive procedure done so that he wouldn't see me upset. I did break down in the shower later that day though.

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I agree- I knew he would become the most important thing in my world but I never really understood how he would be foremost in mind all day long- really nothing is important until I am assured that he is safe, fed and happy.

Truthfully, I must also admit that I did not understand AT ALL how hard it would be to be a mom. I used to have only have one mommy friend- she is a SAHM and I must admit that I used to think- what the heck does she DO all day- she must sit around and watch TV- her life is so easy because she doesn't work! How ignorant I was- now I know being with an infant all day is the hardest (and most wonderful) thing in the world!

ETA- I have a well meaning, childless friend- when I told her how hard it was to be home with Matty when he was 2 months she looked at me like I was weird and said, "just try and relax- I'll send you some good books to read!" That's when I knew- you just can't get it till you have a baby!

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I never realized how much I would care about someone pooping or not and how much I would welcome a dirty diaper.

But on a serious note, I never could have imagined the sheer magnitude of my love for my family and how it can just continue to grow every single second of every single day. It's truly humbling in the most incredible way.

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Another post- I guess I am feeling philosphical today!

That it would physically hurt to hear him cry.

That I would be so excited to go to his well visits to hear how much he has grown.

That when he sat on his own for the first time that I would be prouder than I ever was of anything in my whole life.

That every mommy secretly believes their baby is the cutest one they have ever seen....

That taking care of a newborn is a physical endurance test- how long can you hold a newborn (without putting it down because he will cry) on four hours of sleep- you are not allowed to brush teeth, shower and can only eat what you can grab with one hand. DH will be gone from 7am to 7pm- can you survive?

That you will learn to not sit down to nurse until you made sure you had a glass of water, the remote and the phone nearby- newborns will fall asleep on the booby and it will be your only break in the day- you will not move if he is asleep on your boob unless there is a fire!

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That it can never get boring just looking at one another

How simple and dificult it all is at the same time

Everyone will ALWAYS have an opinion, and a comment on your parenting style. No matter what it is about!

How each change, each milestone, each dscovery you make on your child is like finding treasure over and over again

That every minute is the most precious... you will never get it back!!!

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I learned that nothing is more important than your kids. It has changed my point of you regarding everything. Your job is just a job, the dishes can wait until they are all asleep in bed, the laundry can wait another day.

My mom had this needlepoint she made 20 some years ago with a poem.

Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tommorow for babies grow up we've learned to our sorrow.

So quiet down cobwebs and dust go to sleep , I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep.


I never truly appreciated that poem until I had my own kids. They really do groe so fast. My first baby will be 4 next week.

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I should have that embroidered over the pile of crap that is accumulating in my living room!!!



I totally agree! i want one too.

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How precious good health is...I never appreciated that fact until this past week

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Posted by nrthshgrl

Posted by KAbs

My mom had this needlepoint she made 20 some years ago with a poem.

Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tommorow for babies grow up we've learned to our sorrow.

So quiet down cobwebs and dust go to sleep , I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep.

Great poem

Besides all of the above...

I've learned to see things through the eyes of my kids - everything from the "monkeybars" on the train to a mean tone I use when I'm angry. The wonder, the excitement, the curiousity...it's all for them.

I've learned how little I knew about having children until I had them. All of the babysitting & being an involved aunt doesn't prepare you for your own child..how a screaming child in a store isn't a sign of a bad mother, but could be a overtired child, how hard it is to figure out how to discipline your own child.

I've learned how important it is to let things go in terms of child rearing. It all doesn't have to be done "the right way' aka "my way". Benign neglect is a good lesson for kids to learn.

I've learned that having a baby or a BTDT doesn't make you an expert either. What works for one baby does not always work for another baby, what worked for one generation doesn't always work for another either.

I've learned how truly precious family time is to me. Making family plans to do things & making family plans to do nothing on the weekends are equally important.

I've learned that I have some horrible personality traits that I would hate to see passed down to my child. (I've also rediscovered some good ones).

One of the hardest lessons I learned is how important it is to take time for yourself, to do the things you want to do, to find something just for yourself. It's easy to lose pieces of yourself along the way. Have something important for you outside of your family.

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i never realized that my life would NEVER be the same again...I mean, its better---but I am happy I had my twenties to run around and have fun!!

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I also learned how calm I am as a mom... that I can just have fun with a baby by sticking my tongue in and out.. I tought I was going to be a wreck... but I'm having so much FUN!

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All that has been said above and some personal observations:

I learned that I am better at being a mom than I thought possible- I have learned patience, strength and calmness- traits I wasn't known for in the past.

Finding the love for this person is more overwhelming than any other- that it really does take work to keep your relationship with your husband as special during the first few months. I am just so in love with DD that it is hard to fit him in.