Spinoff to GodParent Post

Does any one have the problem of having NO ONE appropriate to ask to be godparents? I think godparents are a big deal and come with a certain amount of responsibility both spirtually and financially. Between the two of us, we do not seem to have any one that fits the bill. My brother thinks church is "stupid" None of my friends go to church. All of DH's friends are Jewish. We do not speak to DH's side of the family but for some exceptions. We COULD ask his Uncle but he's close to 60 and then there are his cousins (who I LOVE) but they didnt baptize any of their children because of a whole church/god thing. Which kind of only leaves DH's friends that live in Indiana (and who I do not think would be able to afford to fly in for baptisim). DH keeps bringing up his divorced sister but I have not spoken to her in over year as she has taken her parents' side in this whole family fued against me (and that would still leave me without a godfather). What happens if we dont have anyone to be godparents?

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We don't have to many "eligible" people....

I am not sure what we will do.

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We're in the same boat, sort of. He wants his sisters, I personally don't want them and the god father is so far a big fat????
It all depends on your church and how your planning on baptising your child. Our church will accept our godparent regardless of religion. I'm protestant and he's a non practicing catholic. so we decided to baptise protestant because the reverend will respect our wishes also.
I would see what the policy is in the church you plan on baptising your child in.

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Yeah I just posted on the other thread. We are on dc#2 and I am torn. Long story short we do a Baby Blessing since dh and I are from different religions. So we need a Jewish godparent and a Catholic one. But no one that is too religious because we want our children to know both families religions. Dh is an only child and my brother is super religious s it leaves my older sister (moderate Catholic) and we need to find a Jewish godfather.

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We had/have choices but none seems like a perfect fit.

With DD, we ended up going with my best friend and her husband. They are very good people and I know they will be great at the role and take it seriously.

For this child, we are thinking it all through again. I am close with my older brother and his wife so it will probably be them, but there is some history there and I'm not sure it will work out. But, there are not many choices.

Good luck-I find the whole process very stressful

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yes!

there are no godmother options that are religious... it'll have to be my sister for this baby(due to family drama)- but it really irks me because she openly said how she doesnt like the church- and i dont believe she goes on holidays even

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Yup! I didn't even think that Jewish people had g-dparents ( I didn't ) but I learned through DH that we can and he wants them
. That being said, My DH has no siblings, and my sister will be the g-dmother, but only in name, since she is disabled and will not be able to handle the responsibility . Majority of DH close friends are not Jewish and the two that are, I cannot stand .

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do you go to church? you might be able to meet someone there that could fill in- a deacon & wife?

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We are in a similar situation. We're having twins so we need two sets. We each have a brother so that's no problem, but the godmother(s) is a huge problem. I would like to ask my best friend for one, but there are really no other girls at all that I could ask for the other.

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It's not for lack of people... we both have great siblings that will make wonderful aunts and uncles. However, DH and I take our faith very seriously (we practice and in fact, DH wants to become a deacon!) and really none of our siblings do. So in that sense, we don't have anyone appropriate to ask to be a godparent. To me, I envision a godparent beign involved in the child's faith life... doing little things like taking them to Mass occasionally, being a good role model that way. However, none of the younger generation in our families, besides DH and I, still regularly practice the faith, so we are still having my sister and his brother as godparents, but it will be more as a symbol of our familial ties and knowing that the relgious piece of it won't be there as much.

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YOUR post said it perfectly...eligible!!! We have three eligible and perfect choices. DH wants a completely horrible choice for the last one and I will NOT have it! This person is completely inappropriate. I don't want to get into the laundry list of why but if you knew I believe you would agree.

Message edited 5/8/2009 4:03:18 PM.

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YES!!! I think about this all the time. The people we will use for our Godparents are really the only people who fit what I want for my child's Godparents.

It actually depresses me a bit, knowing that it is going to be very difficult raising my children in my faith, especially if I move back to New York. There is so much negativity directed towards religious people, it will be difficult to find people, besides my self and my husband, to offer positive spiritual guidance.

Unfortunately, Faith and religion are dying in this country.