Spinoff to my 1st Birthday post

My DD actual birthday falls on a Sunday.

We decided to have her Birthday Party on Saturday - the day before. And we really didn't make plans for the actual day of her birthday - we figured when the time comes we will make plans. Maybe have family over for dinner or just cake and coffee - even though they will all be there on Saturday.

Now we were invited to go to a confirmation party on Sunday for dinner - DD actual birthday. The dinner is for DH's niece and her actual confirmation isn't until Monday morning.

And quite honestly - I am not sure if I am being a beyotch - but I don't want to go to the party on Sunday.

I am not sure why she isn't having the dinner on Monday - the actual day of the confirmation.

Am I wrong? I don't know why this is really bothering me. But PLEASE tell me if this would bother you?

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I'd be annoyed in that I'd want to spend the entire day w/my son but if it's just dinner maybe you can have a nice day and then go to the dinner too?

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I would be annoyed too.

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ok- I don't know much about confirmations, but I don't understand why this is bothering you (no judgment at all- I just don't understand).

Are you not allowed to bring DD and you wanted to be with her all day? Do you just not want to do anything on DD's birthday that doesn't revolve around DD?

I guess the first thing would be to figure out why you don't want to go.

How does Dh feel about skipping his neice's confirmation dinner? Is it important to him? If its not a big deal, and DH doesn't mind just skip it. Do whatever you want.

On DD's first birthday we went to the Children's Museum and out to lunch. It wasn't a big deal. She doesn't get it, and we had a party the day after. But then again, we aren't so into exact birthdays in my family. IN fact, DH has never given me a gift on my exact birthday.

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Sorry, but I agree with Shelly. I'm sure they planned the dinner for Sunday because more people would be able to attend. Can you plan something special during the day with the birthday girl?

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Being that the actual confirmation is during the week which would make it harder for some people to make it, especially if you have to work, that they decided that Sunday would be better where a lot more people would come.

However why can't they just do it the sunday after the confirmation.

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This would not bother me at all.

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I would be annoyed, and she shouldn't give you a problem for not going! Its your DD's first b-day, she should of had it on Monday.

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It wouldn't bother me at all. In fact, I was invited to a communion on my son's second birthday (5/5) so I'm having his party on 5/6. I'll still be with him on his birthday, so to me, there's no issue.

As for having a confirmation dinner on a day other than the actual confirmation, how is that any different from having a birthday party on a day other than the birthday?

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Sorry but this would not bother me at all.

All matter of coincidence - your daughter's birthday falls on a weekend and weekends tend to bring family events/functions esp during peak months. The confirmation is a week night and I would expect the dinner/party would be a weekend to celebrate and I wouldn't expect them to plan around a 1st b-day esp if you aren't having a big bash. I can understand wanting to have a special day alone with your daughte but I woudn't let the party bother you.

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I wouldn't be upset. It makes sense to have the other party on Sunday since Monday's are usually tough for people.

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I don't think it is too much of a big deal - because we probably will not go to the confirmation dinner.

I guess I am looking at it - she didn't do anything for her son's confirmation - but now because everyone will be in town for DD birthday (most of the IL's live out of state) - she plans on doing it for her daughter

Thats fine - I just planned on having a quiet day with DH and DD and having everyone over for cake and coffee later.
I even just discussed this with my MIL yesterday. But I do see the point that alot of people work on Monday - but they will all be home for dinner.

I guess the part that bothers me is that it is my DD 1st Birthday.
If it was another one - I really wouldn't care.

And quite honestly - I am PMS'ing so it is making it worse

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Marcie, I totally understand your feelings. But I have to tell you- your child's first birthday is very anti-climactic. She has no idea. A 2 year old, 3 year old., etc... understands a birthday. A 1 year old doesn't. I had moments of reflection, of tears- but DD was totally oblivous.

As a working mom, I usually don't do anything on weekdays. My DH gets home so late, and its a PITA to travel with DD alone. So I understand them wanting to do it on the weekend.

But if its not a big deal to anyone, just do whatever you want to do.
Its really more your day since you were the one doing all that work a year ago