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Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
I feel very uncomfortable telling people to not touch Cailen. I know they mean nothing by it. I am actually impressed at how many people will come over, say hi, and NOT touch him...
But we were at a little church fair over the weekend, and Cailen was on the grass listening to music. This woman was fainting over him, but she was kinda skanky. And she had scabs and bandaids over her hands!!! It freaked me out and I prayed the entire time for her to not touch him... She touched his hands!!!  I said nothing, and wiped his hands off with one of these lobster wipes I carry around. She friggin did it again!
I finally said, please don't touch his hands, he puts them in his mouth!
But I feel really uncomfortable doing it. I mean, this woman's hands really looked awful for me to say anything, but I find myself at a loss when they start touching him. Even his bib... he puts that in his mouth too!!!
What do you guys do?
also - please share polite ways to say it - I know some people are fine with saying - keep your grubby skanky hands off my child  but I'm not!!! (but its what I'm thinking!)
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Posted 10/3/07 9:17 PM  |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
I feel the same way.
The other day we were at a fundraiser at a bar (I *never* thought I'd have my 3-month old at a BAR -- but it was a Sunday afternoon) ... anyway, I was standing outside with DD and this GROSS, drunk man came up to us and kept touching her!! First the back of her head, and I stepped back, then he tried her hand, and I switched arms ... I think he finally got the hint - but I wish I would have SAID something. Not sure why I didn't -- didn't want to insult the nasty drunk man I guess. 
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:23 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
With Sarah I used to ask "Would you mind not touching her hands? She chews on them a lot, you know how it is."
Andy has bad eczema on his face that really doesn't go away so people don't come near him, I guess they think it's catching.
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:24 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
i read that you should say the baby is sick, and contagious, even when they aren't. pretty awesome. people care more about protecting themselves from germs than your baby. but i too carry wet ones wipes to de-germify him.
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:25 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
I do NOT feel bad about telling people not to touch DDs. I tell them "Please don't touch them" and I go to push their hands away. Then they look at me funny, but come on - they are in the wrong. Then I chalk it up to being a first time mom and germaphobe!
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:33 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
I have said in that fake, "talking to the baby" voice, "uh oh - I KNOW you are going to put your hands in your mouth - better wipe them off!!!"
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:34 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
Posted by FireIslandLove
I do NOT feel bad about telling people not to touch DDs. I tell them "Please don't touch them" and I go to push their hands away. Then they look at me funny, but come on - they are in the wrong. Then I chalk it up to being a first time mom and germaphobe!
OMG - thats the thing - I could never push someones hand away!!! I wish I could!!!
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:35 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by FireIslandLove
I do NOT feel bad about telling people not to touch DDs. I tell them "Please don't touch them" and I go to push their hands away. Then they look at me funny, but come on - they are in the wrong. Then I chalk it up to being a first time mom and germaphobe!
OMG - thats the thing - I could never push someones hand away!!! I wish I could!!!
If you don't do that then it is already too late. So far I've only had to "block" not actually push.
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:37 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
It bothered me in the begining but Ive gotten so used to it. I talk myself down now. I realize that I would let everyone I know touch dd but bc I dont know them that makes them ill??? The people I was letting touch her have the same exact germs as those I dont know. I chalk it up to seconds of being touched by a stranger and if like you said they are skeeeeeeevy, I make a run for it...LOL
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:37 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
Posted by FireIslandLove
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by FireIslandLove
I do NOT feel bad about telling people not to touch DDs. I tell them "Please don't touch them" and I go to push their hands away. Then they look at me funny, but come on - they are in the wrong. Then I chalk it up to being a first time mom and germaphobe!
OMG - thats the thing - I could never push someones hand away!!! I wish I could!!!
If you don't do that then it is already too late. So far I've only had to "block" not actually push.
I've done the shift and body block, but as an unintentional oops....
I think I am better off being passive aggressive!!! 
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:38 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
Posted by PrincessP
It bothered me in the begining but Ive gotten so used to it. I talk myself down now. I realize that I would let everyone I know touch dd but bc I dont know them that makes them ill??? The people I was letting touch her have the same exact germs as those I dont know. I chalk it up to seconds of being touched by a stranger and if like you said they are skeeeeeeevy, I make a run for it...LOL
Usually I'm not too upset about it - but that woman with the scabs and bandaids on her hand - I dont know what the hell was going on there!!!
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:39 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
Posted by FireIslandLove
I do NOT feel bad about telling people not to touch DDs. I tell them "Please don't touch them" and I go to push their hands away. Then they look at me funny, but come on - they are in the wrong. Then I chalk it up to being a first time mom and germaphobe!
I've had to do the same and will do it again.
Way before I was pregnant I ran into a twin mommy in a grocery store. Her kids were only a few weeks old and she was desperate to run out and get a few things. I said "Hi, Congrats" when I saw the twin carriage. She looked at me in horror and later confessed why she not only had the sun shades down but completely covered the carriage in a knitted blanket, she was afraid I was going to be one of the many people who touch her babies.
I never forgot that. Don't think I was a baby toucher then but I will never touch someone's baby now.
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by PrincessP
It bothered me in the begining but Ive gotten so used to it. I talk myself down now. I realize that I would let everyone I know touch dd but bc I dont know them that makes them ill??? The people I was letting touch her have the same exact germs as those I dont know. I chalk it up to seconds of being touched by a stranger and if like you said they are skeeeeeeevy, I make a run for it...LOL
Usually I'm not too upset about it - but that woman with the scabs and bandaids on her hand - I dont know what the hell was going on there!!!
Oh yeah! scabs and band aids 
I wouldnt have let her touch me 
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| Posted 10/3/07 9:46 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
I know exactly what you mean.
My DS has some activities after school and his friends little brothers and sisters start touching Kara.
The first day we were at bowling and some little girl was playing with her toy. She didn't look the cleanest. (I'm not trying to insult). I just cringe. The min she walked away I washed everything.
I don't know how to say don't touch her. Tonight I had a little girl kissing her on her hand. 
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
When it comes to my daughters health, I have no problem telling people to wash there hands before they touch or hold her, with strangers I tell them to please not touch her hands cause she puts them in her mouth!
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| Posted 10/3/07 10:42 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to sometimesmommy's post about touching babies...
I try to say something before it even happens, for example, when they walk over one of the first things I'll say is, "It really drives me nuts when people touch his hands, especially since he is so obsessed with putting them in his mouth." They usually get the hint then and I don't feel like I am being rude.
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| Posted 10/3/07 10:45 PM |
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