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Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
OK - I'm going to post this and then go out for a walk....
What do you think happens when you die?
I have to say, the thought of dying really terrifies me. I know I'm saying this now as a healthy 33 year old with a husband I love and a newborn baby, and things may change if I get sick, old, whatever to help me come to terms with the fact that I am a mortal...
The part that scares me most is the moment when I know I will have to "let go" of this life. It probably is what scares everyone about death - that you have to let go of who you are and what you know, and then wind up, possibly, in a different place.
I always think of the movie Jacob's Ladder, where his chiropracter (who was an angel) tells him that there are angels and demons in your life - and they are the same - they are there to help you let go of your stuff before you die - but the angels become demons when you refuse to let go....
Heavy sh!t, right?
Lets hear your thoughts on this....
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I think the though of dying really scares me especially because I would leave all those that I love behind, I don't want them to suffer because of me.
I can only hope that when I die, I will be reunited with those that have passed but I also believe in reencarnation and a second chance to come back again.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I haven't decided on my view of the afterlife. I think this is it, but from close friends I can see there is a lot of evidence pointing toward an afterlife.
The thought of dying doesn't scare me. It might be because I'm not there yet. I've had a great life.
I had the opportunity to see my kids, be loved, love with all my heart. The only issue I have with it is how it would affect my kids. Losing a parent is second only to losing a child. I wouldn't want my kids to go through that.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I don't know.. there is nice to believe there is more than just our time on earth, but the scientist in me has a hard time believing it.
I am more scared of my loved ones dying than I am of dying myself, and when I do think of that it is that I wouldn't want to leave my loved ones in pain.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I definitely definitely believe in something after this - I have had too many spritual experiences in this lifetime to believe otherwise...
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
First of all, the movie Jacob's Ladder was incredible.
As far as death is concerned, I'm not so scared of that last moment...waiting to let go of life. I'm more afraid of the actual "being dead." I told DH, I want to be cremated. How do we know that there is not SOME level of consciousness after we die. Imagine being buried in the ground? It totally freaks me out.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
i dont think i'm scared of the dying part (but oh geez i hope its not painful! ). I'm more saddened by having to let go...DH and i always say "the day you die is the day i die".
as far as the afterlife, i believe in heaven. i dont think its this place in the clouds where you fly around with wings and stuff. but i do believe its a place where you can finally be at peace and be surrounded by your loved ones. i also believe in reincarnation and that in every life you are surrounded by the same souls (family, friends, etc), just in different forms. i believe that my DH has been my DH in other lives and we continue to "find" each other everytime we go around.
it may be simple to some people, but it keeps me happy.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
i believe that my DH has been my DH in other lives and we continue to "find" each other everytime we go around.
I believe the same thing! 
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I am absolutely positively petrified of death. My DH can attest.
I'm not sure if it's actually the physical dying part that I am afraid of, but more that I will never again have these same emotions. The love I have for DH will never be the same. That is what saddens me.
I'm all depressed now. 
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
Posted by MikesWife
I am absolutely positively petrified of death. My DH can attest.
I'm not sure if it's actually the physical dying part that I am afraid of, but more that I will never again have these same emotions. The love I have for DH will never be the same. That is what saddens me.
I'm all depressed now.
oh nooooo! I'm sorry! 
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I believe in the afterlife, of a heaven and hell. I believe that this is it, one life no dress rehearsal, no reincarnation.
I am scared of the pain of dying, not dying itself. Do you feel pain when you die? That freaks me out because I am scared of physical pain. I don't know if I am making sense here.
I am scared of what me dying would do to my daughter. If I died on Thursday (my heart surgery) would she get so far gone because of the emotional pain of loosing her mom at such a young age (she is 1 year old)? Would she be on drugs? drink? Would her dad get her prom dress or wedding dress with her? Would she know how much I adored her? loved her? wanted her from the moment I knew I was pregnant?
These are the things that truly frighten me, if I die.
ETA: I hope it is like that movie "what dreams may come" or better.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I'm not afraid of death - but I'm afraid of the act of dying, if that makes sense.
I'm afraid of what it feels like, because I imagine that your soul has to somehow unattach itself from the body - and I don't know if that has a sensation or is painful.
I believe that after we die, there is more. We come back; we find certain people with whom we have special bonds again.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
My husband is pertrified of dying...I tell him he is crazy and he tells me that he hopes he goes before me so he doesn't have to live without me...we're all mortal...we live and then eventually we die...some sooner, some later...I definitely think when the time gets closer (as you age) it gets a little sad thinking about all the loved ones that you'll leave behind, but I mean we don't live forever...I'm sure many of us have had some contact with death (by seeing loved ones pass on etc) that I guess we should learn to accept it. I don't think about it...but thats just me.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I know I'm probably alone in this, but, as discomforting it is to think that you just live your life and then die, and that's it, that's what I think happens - nothing.
It's scary and discomforting to think that your short little life on this planet doesn't have some higher meaning, and that you live that life, and then that's it, and from that discomfort is what I think religion springs from (this is just my opinion). I think because we ARE higher creatures, with an ability to think and feel on an entirely different level, that we also need to have a certain level of psychological/mental comfort that other creatures don't.
So, in essence - the only thing I believe in, unless and until I'm proven otherwise, is evolution and natural selection, and ultimately, the natural cycle of life. The only way in which I will live on is in people's memories of me, my impact upon my community, and through my children.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I, absolutely, believe there is something more after death. I believe in Heaven. Where I have my doubts is Hell. The ultimate punishment in Hell is a separation from God. I don't believe a God who is all loving and forgiving would create a place just to torture and torment people. What I do believe is that if we don't live the life we are supposed to here on Earth that, when we die, instead of going to Heaven to reap what is waiting for us, we are sent back to try again. We keep getting sent back until we get it right. That doesn't mean we have to be perfect here. It just means that we have to try our best to be what God wants us to be. If we are sent back, we are being separated from God, but, we are not condemned to an eternity of damnation. That would explain instances of deja vue. You know you've been some place or done some thing before, but, you can't explain it. Anyway, that's how I see it. I hope I'm right. Eventually, I'll find out.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I feel the same way. When your body dies, you're gone and that's it.
Posted by Bxgell2
I know I'm probably alone in this, but, as discomforting it is to think that you just live your life and then die, and that's it, that's what I think happens - nothing.
It's scary and discomforting to think that your short little life on this planet doesn't have some higher meaning, and that you live that life, and then that's it, and from that discomfort is what I think religion springs from (this is just my opinion). I think because we ARE higher creatures, with an ability to think and feel on an entirely different level, that we also need to have a certain level of psychological/mental comfort that other creatures don't.
So, in essence - the only thing I believe in, unless and until I'm proven otherwise, is evolution and natural selection, and ultimately, the natural cycle of life. The only way in which I will live on is in people's memories of me, my impact upon my community, and through my children.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I'm not scared of death...b/c I know its going to happen one day...Maybe scared to find out how I will die...
after we die..I really don't think anything happens per say...I believe in the after life, just not heaven or hell.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I hope it is like "The 5 People You Meet in Heaven" and then everything will make sense...and sometimes I imagine it like the ending of the movie Ghost where Patrick Swayze is surrounded by friends and family welcoming him....seems peaceful.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
I don't ever think about death and dying. Let's just say I'm not looking forward to it. Maybe my mind will change when I'm old and I have accepted it more. I believe that all my loved ones, family, friends, etc. will be up there waiting for me when I get there.
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
Posted by Maathy317
I, absolutely, believe there is something more after death. I believe in Heaven. Where I have my doubts is Hell. The ultimate punishment in Hell is a separation from God. I don't believe a God who is all loving and forgiving would create a place just to torture and torment people. What I do believe is that if we don't live the life we are supposed to here on Earth that, when we die, instead of going to Heaven to reap what is waiting for us, we are sent back to try again. We keep getting sent back until we get it right. That doesn't mean we have to be perfect here. It just means that we have to try our best to be what God wants us to be. If we are sent back, we are being separated from God, but, we are not condemned to an eternity of damnation. That would explain instances of deja vue. You know you've been some place or done some thing before, but, you can't explain it. Anyway, that's how I see it. I hope I'm right. Eventually, I'll find out.
Your belief in reincarnation is very Buddhist - that is what karma is, you living out the consequences of previous actions, so being reincarnated automatically means you didnt reach enlightenment in a previous life, and you are sent back to right your wrongs - hopefully!
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
Posted by Ellebelle1
I feel the same way. When your body dies, you're gone and that's it.
Posted by Bxgell2
I know I'm probably alone in this, but, as discomforting it is to think that you just live your life and then die, and that's it, that's what I think happens - nothing.
It's scary and discomforting to think that your short little life on this planet doesn't have some higher meaning, and that you live that life, and then that's it, and from that discomfort is what I think religion springs from (this is just my opinion). I think because we ARE higher creatures, with an ability to think and feel on an entirely different level, that we also need to have a certain level of psychological/mental comfort that other creatures don't.
So, in essence - the only thing I believe in, unless and until I'm proven otherwise, is evolution and natural selection, and ultimately, the natural cycle of life. The only way in which I will live on is in people's memories of me, my impact upon my community, and through my children.
I believe the same thing, too. I often think of hypotheticals, and twists on different ways of thinking, but if in heaven you are surrounded by those you love, what happens if those people don't love you? Who gets to spend eternity annoyed?
I know that many people find comfort in an afterlife, but for me, I find a lot of comfort in not having an afterlife. There are too many questions and issues that an afterlife leave for me. Do I really want to hang around and watch living relatives? How long do I want/get to hang around? After a few generations, there would be a crowd around each living person, all trying to push and shove for a view. Also, since many religions have conflicting ideas of the afterlife, and who gets to go and who doesn't, with my belief, everyone is equal. Nobody goes to heaven, because there is no heaven. It's the most fair and just system that I can think of. I definitely don't want to die, and as a diabetic, I always have to worry that I'll go well before DW, and I can't imagine what she'll have to go through if that happens. My wish for the "perfect" death is that we are both in our 80s+, and we just came back from the Dr. saying we are both dying of terminal cancer, and have a few weeks left. Then we get in a car accident where we both die instantly, and there was a rich drunk driving, and our family gets a lot of money. (I don't think about dying often, but the rare occasions I do, this is a pretty good way to go, I think. DW and I go at the same time, instantly, and at the end of our lives.)
OK, now back to some happy thoughts.... 
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Re: Spinoff to the God/religion post... Getting very heavy on a beautiful day
nothing scares me more than death. and I am pretty sure that is true for most people.
as for what happens after you die, I really don't know. 
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