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eddiesmommy
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by eddiesmommy
Its not distorted, it was brought up and addressed. POint being, despite what you see and the questions you ask, at some point it has to come down to your comfort level and your level of faith and trust in the parents. No one said dont ask about it, dont be vigilant, but that sometimes, you will never really know for sure and you have to leave it to trust.
why does this "point" even need to be argued? it this not a natural..a given in any circumstance we would ever come across in life? 
you are actually the person who brought up "looking under the mattress" and other people talking about "inspecting"
I don't think anyone who said they'd make sure to go to the house at least the first time said anything about this...but the way I am reading it, it's turned in to another thing to blow out of proportion.
people are defending themselves against the notion and that is just silly.
i just brought it up in response to the gun mentioned, I did not initially mention the gun. And again, the point was not to debate the gun issue specifically, but it was an example I used based on it coming up in another post, to ask the question, at what point do you just leave it to trust.
And are we going to do this again, bc I chose to use the word inspect??? Instead of "check out the homes of"?
Talk about having to defend or blowing things out of proportion. Hello pot, meet kettle.
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by eddiesmommy
Talk about having to defend or blowing things out of proportion. Hello pot, meet kettle.
pleased to meet you.
though I don't feel what I am writing is out of proportion with the annoyance I feel reading all this "inspection" crap. 
but ftr, I never ever said I would "inspect" anyone's home. I said my son would not visit anyone's home that I had not visited. people can blow that into whatever they want to if they don't feel the need to be as vigilant. party on. but it's not what I am really saying, and I don't want it to get lost in the telephone game we are playing.
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by eddiesmommy
Talk about having to defend or blowing things out of proportion. Hello pot, meet kettle.
pleased to meet you.
though I don't feel what I am writing is out of proportion with the annoyance I feel reading all this "inspection" crap.
but ftr, I never ever said I would "inspect" anyone's home. I said my son would not visit anyone's home that I had not visited. people can blow that into whatever they want to if they don't feel the need to be as vigilant. party on. but it's not what I am really saying, and I don't want it to get lost in the telephone game we are playing.
forget it, Im over doing this with you. Its ridiculous.
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by eddiesmommy
I dont think anyone said theyd let their kids go to just anyones home without knowing the parents. I was one that I think you are referencing but have misinterpreted the response.
I didnt say, nor do I think anyone did, that we wouldnt know or speak to the parents first.
Of course I would talk to the parents first, but what I did say was that I would NOT inspect or visit the home of every friend my child has before going to their house.
There is a big difference. Im talking late elementary, early middle school, BTW not now as a small toddler.
Ditto.
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by eddiesmommy
NO ONE said you did. I used the word inspect to mean check out. that is all! I dont know why you feel the need to constantly nit pick my choice of words. I was having a perfectly civil conversation and you had to make it personal as always.
I just want to point out...I was not even referring to YOUR post. I said YOU said "look under the mattress" but I was referring to ALL of the OTHER references to "INSPECTING" in the ENTIRE thread.
so......I was NOT nit picking at your choice of words. YOU chose to get DEFENSIVE with what I wrote (should I say as always, or leave that for your big "ding" on me..hmmm ) even though it didn't necessarily pertain to you.
and that is all. 
ETA: I also want to add that I took it personally b/c I feel what I wrote was being mischaracterized by the then made exaggerations. why this is such a crime, I do not know. but c'est la vie, I suppose.
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
nevermind again. Im not going to engage you in this. If you want to perpetuate this AGAIN, be my guest.
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
To answer the OP question - Yes, I definitely plan on meeting the parents and asking some questions. I will be a nervous wreck anyway, I'm sure!!
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by Ophelia
somehow going over the get to know a house is changed in to "looking under the mattress".
obviously there is always an element of surprise. you can never be 100% sure.
but that doesn't mean that you can still be vigilant.
I agree completely....
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pinkandblue
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
how does EVERYTHING turn into a battle here???
you do what works for you, period
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Can I ask a question then? since things are being taken out of all sorts of context on such a silly thing. . .
What exactly does going over to "check out a house" mean then? Are you CHECKING out a house (ins & outs), eyeing it over or are you simply asking parents questions? Maybe that needs to be clarified b/c now I'm just curious.
I think the "checking under the mattress" comment was not meant to be taken literally. Well, at least I hope so, I would DIE if my parents did that
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DRMom
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
I think everyone should read the OP again. I never said "check out" "inspect" "look under the bed or in closets" The question was-would you let your children go to a persons home you have never met and or been inside their house. 
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by DPerotti
Can I ask a question then? since things are being taken out of all sorts of context on such a silly thing. . .
What exactly does going over to "check out a house" mean then? Are you CHECKING out a house (ins & outs), eyeing it over or are you simply asking parents questions? Maybe that needs to be clarified b/c now I'm just curious.
I think the "checking under the mattress" comment was not meant to be taken literally. Well, at least I hope so, I would DIE if my parents did that
checking out the house means going over, sitting down with the parents, looking around common areas a bit (without being too obvious) and just getting a feel for the environment
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by DRMom
I think everyone should read the OP again. I never said "check out" "inspect" "look under the bed or in closets" The question was-would you let your children go to a persons home you have never met and or been inside their house.
no ******* way
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Ophelia
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by DRMom
I think everyone should read the OP again. I never said "check out" "inspect" "look under the bed or in closets" The question was-would you let your children go to a persons home you have never met and or been inside their house.
but of course, if you wouldn't let your kid in, that is the next logical step. a total white gloved inspection
Devon, answering your question, what it means to me is going over, talking to the parent, giving it the once over etc.
maybe I'll stay for coffee while they play and see what they'll be spending their time doing. maybe i'd ask before hand if there are any animals that might be an issue ,etc. things that can be seen at first glance.
I'd also take the time to talk to the parent (I see you have a pool, but Sally just got over a cold so I don't want her in...OR I see you have a trampoline situated over that embankment....please don't let my kid anywhere near that area )
I won't sneak into the bathroom to look in their medicine chest for oxycodone bottles.....or, will I?
hopefully this explains better what my concept is.
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Re: Spinoff to trampoline post-Do you plan on letting your child play at houses where you do not know the parents(or the house?)
Posted by DPerotti
Can I ask a question then? since things are being taken out of all sorts of context on such a silly thing. . .
What exactly does going over to "check out a house" mean then? Are you CHECKING out a house (ins & outs), eyeing it over or are you simply asking parents questions? Maybe that needs to be clarified b/c now I'm just curious.
I think the "checking under the mattress" comment was not meant to be taken literally. Well, at least I hope so, I would DIE if my parents did that
For me, checking out the house means just that, checking it out. No I don't need to go in every room and look under their kitchen sink but I'd like to get a feel for the place and them.
Like what you do when you go for consultations when you're choosing a pediatrician (or any doctor). You want to meet the doctor, check the office out, see how you like it. Same concept.
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