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NewlyMrs
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
too often people just can't find the ability to concentrate on their positives and enjoy who they are, that they miss out on enjoying life to it's fullest!
I was sickly skinny with an eatting disorder and unhappy and I was average and unhappy!
As I got older I realized that I am me! And if I love me than others will too. I also surround myself with people who don't comment about the size of themselves or others and I learned to block out the comment of others.
For me I enyoy working out and eating health because of how it makes me feel inside and out. I can find the enjoyment of a good meal and drinks during a happy even and I will not let it get me down.
Now that I am a PE teacher this is a goal I want to help other young girls learn, because I did not have good role models for this!
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Emily
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
While we were on this topic....
How do I get rid of stretch marks? I lost an obscene amount of weight after college and have this ugly crapp on my legs! 
I am not ashamed of my body but I think the stretch marks are yucky.
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by Emily
While we were on this topic....
How do I get rid of stretch marks? I lost an obscene amount of weight after college and have this ugly crapp on my legs!
I am not ashamed of my body but I think the stretch marks are yucky.
As an owner of some sexy stretch marks I must be the bearer of bad news and tell you you're stuck with em. It's a reality I've yet to accept.
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Jessica
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by prncss
Posted by Emily
While we were on this topic....
How do I get rid of stretch marks? I lost an obscene amount of weight after college and have this ugly crapp on my legs!
I am not ashamed of my body but I think the stretch marks are yucky.
As an owner of some sexy stretch marks I must be the bearer of bad news and tell you you're stuck with em. It's a reality I've yet to accept.
you slather on cocoa butter, nivea creme, vitiman e, and aloe ver gel 2xs a day
it will get rid of them within months
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by Jessica
Posted by prncss
Posted by Emily
While we were on this topic....
How do I get rid of stretch marks? I lost an obscene amount of weight after college and have this ugly crapp on my legs!
I am not ashamed of my body but I think the stretch marks are yucky.
As an owner of some sexy stretch marks I must be the bearer of bad news and tell you you're stuck with em. It's a reality I've yet to accept.
you slather on cocoa butter, nivea creme, vitiman e, and aloe ver gel 2xs a day
it will get rid of them within months
Can you talk to my stretch marks? They must be stubborn
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BigB
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
I accept my body for what it is. I eat healthy, exercise daily and my body doesn't change much! I have broad shoulders and big boobs coupled with being short!
I just make sure that I buy clothes that flatter me and try not to look at others critically!
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
our society makes you feel inferior if you are fat, "ugly" or any other way of being different
what's normal in hollywood is not normal.
i am so self conscious of my body when i am around people...i know i've been conditioned on feeling this way from way back in middle school. i remember it back then vividly
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| Posted 6/29/07 9:30 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by rojerono
I am not looking to have a perfect body. Perfect is an elite level. I am not ashamed because I don't look like Heidi Klum or any of the other 'models of perfection'. I realize that the reason that some people are on a pedestal 'looks wise' is because they are ABOVE the standard. Sometimes WAAAAAAAAY above.
I am ashamed because I am not a size 8 or 9 or 10 or even a size 12. I have thighs that look like a load of mashed potatoes stuck in a flesh colored garbage bag.
There is no shame in being normal. It is one thing to be attractive and wish you were MORE attractive. It is another to destroy your body with too many cupcakes and not enough activity.
I'm not any of those sizes either You don't have to be small or even small*er* to be attractive. You have to be confident!
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pmpkn087
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by NewlyMrs
too often people just can't find the ability to concentrate on their positives and enjoy who they are, that they miss out on enjoying life to it's fullest!
This is what I was trying to get at, but couldn't think of how to say it as nicely as you did.
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J9-13
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by Tracey
I have always been self consious of my body - and I really don't know why. I guess I have this pre-concieved notion of what I think it should look like and I can't allow myself to appreciate what I look like now
I am always on a diet. 
I could have written this!!! I know Iam way too hard on myself
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Alli06
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
I usually change my outfit 4 times, because I always think I look fat. I criticize myself all the time, and compare my body to others. I have been going to the gym for about 8 years. At times, I went at least 5 days a week, and I looked great. Yet, at the time, I felt I could look better. I wish I could have that body back.
After 25, I have hated all pictures of myself, including my wedding pictures. I feel like my whole face and body have changed. I still eat healthy and exercise, but I just don't have the time to go as much as a used too.
The world is obsessed with women being thin, and it is hard not to want the "perfect body".
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Emily
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by Jessica
Posted by prncss
Posted by Emily
While we were on this topic....
How do I get rid of stretch marks? I lost an obscene amount of weight after college and have this ugly crapp on my legs!
I am not ashamed of my body but I think the stretch marks are yucky.
As an owner of some sexy stretch marks I must be the bearer of bad news and tell you you're stuck with em. It's a reality I've yet to accept.
you slather on cocoa butter, nivea creme, vitiman e, and aloe ver gel 2xs a day
it will get rid of them within months
I don't want to wait months, lol. What about laser surgery or a dermatologist??
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CkGm
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by Jessica
Posted by nrthshgrl
I was always relatively thin (size 2-4) & then I got married and steadily gained weight.
Two kids later, I'm trying to find a happy medium. I never commented much on my weight when I was heavy because, honestly, it was too painful to talk about. The last thing I wanted was to talk about losing weight when I wasn't trying.
Now I'm trying. I've lost nearly 20lbs & am on my way to being the way I used to be. After years of looking in the mirror & seeing a charicuture of my former self, I'm seeing glimpses of what I used to look like.
In my quest for MILFhood, I'm looking at myself with a more critical eye. I'm not thrilled with everything I see, but I'm working on it. I also don't know how to take the compliments on my weight loss very well.
barb, ive seen recent pics of you
youre already a MILF
you're a hot lady, mother or not
I met you in person and I very much agree!
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DaniJude
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Ashamed? No.
Thrilled? Not really.
We are all our own worst/toughest/harshest critics. What can I say? I'm human and I always think there is room for improvement.
I watch what I eat and control my portions big time but I never really feel, even at a size four/six, thin enough. It's like it's never enough.
Then, there are my boobs-- or lack of boobs I should say!  That bothers me a lot. I feel like I'm not as much of a woman as other women are... I feel like a fake or something because I'm so flat chested. It's just not natural. I'm not looking to be Pam Anderson but I would like to feel NORMAL and I just don't. I've been planning on getting implants for a long time and I think I might finally do it after the wedding.
It affects me every single day.
Other than that- I am pretty happy. I guess I should be-- people tell me they would kill for my body all the time- I laugh and wonder.
Like I said, we are all the toughest and harshest on ourselves.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
I wouldnt say I am ashamed of my body, but I am definetely NOT happy with my body anymore. And I felt that way pre-pregnancy, just feel worse about it now.
I danced for 18 years, played a ton of sports and had a very athletic, slender body. I went to the gym and it made me feel good about myself. To be honest, I never really watched what I ate when I was younger b/c I never had to. I was so active with sports and dancing, I never gained weight. I was 5'6 1/2'' maybe 120 lbs before college and 130 lbs when I graduated college. Now I am definetely heavier.
I am angry with myself b/c after college I started working, dating someone and started to focus on everyone and everything else but myself. My ex-boyfriend used to get mad b/c I went to the gym alot and it would take time away from him, so i stopped going  (the stupid things we do). Than when I met DH a few years ago I just felt extremely comfortable with him and didnt feel like I needed to be super skinny or super in shape, he loved me the way I was. Now, much heavier, he still loves me but I DONT love my body. I feel uncomfortable, heavy, and not good about myself. Fortunately I carry my weight very well and very evenly throughout my body so most people dont think I weigh as much as I do but I still have 20 lbs of baby weight to lose and would like to lose an additional 10-20 lbs more after that.
ETA: I LOVE FOOD!!!! And unfortunately I dont love the healthy kinds 
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JustJack
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Because I am overweight, thats why!
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
I am ok with my body.....Yes I wish I looked like Mand Moore, but I could starve myself for years and work out every minute and I would NEVER look like that. I wish I was healthier, but besides that I don't care anymore what people think. I have been this size give or take 1 size and 10lbs since I was 15 so it's not going to change. I like that I can eat what I want and not feel to guilty I love that my husband adores my body and that he wouldn't care if I lost or gained 50lbs. I'm not ashamed, but I do wish I was healthier. I wish I could lift weights and jog with out wanting to die. Baby steps I guess, but I would only do it for me and no oneelse.
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Stefanie
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
I hate to be the b1tch, but I'm not ashamed at all. I'm very proud of myself because I've always worked hard to keep it the way it is. I'm also proud of the way I look after having a baby.
I don't want to sound like a "snob".....
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peabody
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by conigs25
I have a MUCH healthier view than i have in many years. I had a tterrible obsession for so long, and getting married made it worse bc i had these expectations. I did lose what i wanted and i had my "ideal" body for my wedding and HM, but since ive been married, i enjoy the gym still but do NOT make it a priority in my life. I make it there 2-3x a week now as opposed to 4-5x. Im up only about 5-6 lbs from my wedding. This is me!! I will forever be 126-127 if i work at it and eat well and thats fine. The 120-122 days are OVER!!!! I know to some people that doesnt seem like a big difference, but it isa a difference of pants sizes on me actually. And being 122 means 4-5x a week in the gym. Too much work imo
This is kinda me! I had always been 120 -125 (I am 5 4 1/2) and then last April I gained about 5 lbs and can not get rid of it.
I exercise 4 -5 times a week and decided to finally hire a trainer. I just met with her today and I think we figured out where the extra 5lbs came from, which I didn't even realize.
She asked me about my medical history and what medications I am on.
Well, what no one ever told me and what I just realized today is that the medication I have have been on for about 2 years caused the weight gain. A side effect is weight gain, I called my pharmacist and asked after she left.
I can't go off the medication, but I will be training 2 a week with her and focusing more on strength training. I'll still do cardio 3-4 times a week, but I can accept that I will be 127-130 as long as I am heathly.
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CouponKT
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by rojerono
My body is a MESS.
I am ashamed because my body is a reflection of how I treat myself. I don't honor myself. I overeat. I don't exercise enough - and it is evident when you look at me.
I agree with this TOTALLY! I am ashamed at the fact that I have no willpower - what does that say about me as a person??
I would rather go for the cookie than the piece of fruit. To me, I think I have a problem, and I realize it more lately. I actually get embarassed when I reach for that second piece of pizza or another cookie - yet I STILL do it... why??
If I spent as much time on my elliptical machine as I spend in LIF things might be different, yet I always opt for the lazy way out.
One day I kick myself, the next day I say "who cares, people around me love me, right?".
Most of my family is not stick-thin, but I don't need the bulge!
I also think the fact that I can no longer shop in regular stores is starting to bother me. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of plus-sized proportionate women who who shop at plus sized stores and look fab! It's just that I am very unproportionate in the belly and arse area and it's hard to find clothing to minimize/hide it.
Yes, I hate my body and yes I have low self-esteem for it. I guess thanks for letting me get that out
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Faithx2
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by MelToddJulia
Posted by Tracey
I have always been self consious of my body - and I really don't know why. I guess I have this pre-concieved notion of what I think it should look like and I can't allow myself to appreciate what I look like now
I am always on a diet.
I'm the same way!!
I guess gowing up with my mom who was always making sure she never gained a lot of weight didn't help either....
Same here. I wore a size 8 dress to a wedding lastnight and I still felt like a fatty  It's really sad.....
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SpiceGirl
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
I'm so self conscious of my body...it's terrible. I think women are generally just way more tough on themselves. I look at pictures of myself from like 5 years ago...and I think, wow...I remembering feelling SO FAT back then...but look at me, I was skinny! I don't want to spend my whole life feeling bad about my hips and thighs!
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conigs25
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Re: Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?
Posted by Stefanie
I hate to be the b1tch, but I'm not ashamed at all. I'm very proud of myself because I've always worked hard to keep it the way it is. I'm also proud of the way I look after having a baby.
I don't want to sound like a "snob".....
I dont thinkyoure a snob. I think its wonderful that you feel this way. More people should (myself included!)
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