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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by Blu-ize
Can you find out if they planned to provide a babysitter perhaps in the bridal suite? I think that's a valid question. You are one of a few people with young children, you are traveling and one of them is in the bridal party. What do they think you will do with a 2 year old for an entire black tie wedding?
They have not mentioned a babysitter so I doubt it. All of the groom's friends are mostly single. A few guys are married but most of the guys are bachelors. DH is the only dad.
I was in a very formal wedding last yr. My friend offered me a babysitter but I declined. DH went up to NY with me for the wedding but they didn't actually attend. They stopped by cocktail hour to say hello but they did not come to the ceremony or stay for the reception.
this time older DS is the ring bearer so circumstances are different.
But you are close enough that DH is in the bridal party and they know you have a young child.
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Jacksmommy
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
I was just curious about Amtrak to see how much it would cost. I would go to the wedding, leave after cake is cut with my children, and, by myself, take a 4:40 am to Washington DC. Every Monday, that option is less than 100 dollars (depending on the week, only 49 dollars). I would sleep some more on the train and be able to make my meeting in time. I would assume, leaving at 7 is very early, possibly not even after dinner. I think that would be very rude. Either don't go to the wedding, or tell the bride and groom that you are only going to the ceremony, etc.
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| Posted 8/28/13 3:25 PM |
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lj923
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Sunday weddings and work
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| Posted 8/28/13 3:43 PM |
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Aries14
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by MrsO
Is the ceremony at 4:30 or is that the reception?
I would not have dh leave the wedding early. If anything would it be to much for you to leave dh behind and you take the kids and just drive home. I would feel bad having him leave early or have him keep the kids at the wedding.
I will assume the meeting can't be rescheduled?
Ceremony starts at 4:30 but it is at the same location as the reception.
I am assuming the wedding ceremony will be over around 5:30, cocktail hour and then dinner at 7 or so.
DH did not get the schedule for before the wedding.
Hmmm, I really dont think dinner will be served at 7. thats way too early. If cocktail is at 5:30-6:30.. I would think dinner would be more around 9. I've worked in catering for many years and I would imagine they would just be doing speeches and first dances by 7.
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| Posted 8/28/13 3:45 PM |
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peanutbutter2
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Is there any possibility that you can take off on Monday? This sounds like any option could be a bit stressful.
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| Posted 8/28/13 3:54 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by Jacksmommy
I was just curious about Amtrak to see how much it would cost. I would go to the wedding, leave after cake is cut with my children, and, by myself, take a 4:40 am to Washington DC. Every Monday, that option is less than 100 dollars (depending on the week, only 49 dollars). I would sleep some more on the train and be able to make my meeting in time. I would assume, leaving at 7 is very early, possibly not even after dinner. I think that would be very rude. Either don't go to the wedding, or tell the bride and groom that you are only going to the ceremony, etc.
4:40am is way too early! I was just thinking even the 6:00am is way early. Ugh.
I don't care about saving a little money.
I think I am going to fly for $440. I'm just afraid of flight delays. I feel like the last 3x I flew there was always a delay.
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| Posted 8/28/13 3:59 PM |
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Bridex100
Two Under Two Mommy
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by peanutbutter2
Is there any possibility that you can take off on Monday? This sounds like any option could be a bit stressful.
I was just thinking that all the options stink.
I am already taking off a few days for Disney at the end of September and another day for a wedding that I am a MOH for.
Plus I took 3 weeks off in August for surgery.
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| Posted 8/28/13 4:01 PM |
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Jugglemom
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Given that you are already out for surgery etc. can you just call into the meeting instead of attending in person. I know in most of our meetings there are people in at least 5 locations at any given time on a call.
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| Posted 8/28/13 4:06 PM |
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Bridex100
Two Under Two Mommy
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by Jugglemom
Given that you are already out for surgery etc. can you just call into the meeting instead of attending in person. I know in most of our meetings there are people in at least 5 locations at any given time on a call.
It is actually a 6 hour meeting.
I had DH ask the groom and it turns out they have some 10pm after party on a boat. DH said if we leave around 8:30, it should be fine since the wedding will be over at 9:30.
The groom is one of DH's best friends. However, groom is very used to DH retiring early. The entire time they have known each other, DH has always had a super early schedule of needing to wake up at 5:30-6 so DH always stops by places and heads out earlier than everyone else. DH is a close personal friend but not one of the groom's party friends. DH insists that it is fine to leave early.
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| Posted 8/28/13 5:21 PM |
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blustar214
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
I would go with B if I couldn't postpone the Monday morning meeting.
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| Posted 8/28/13 8:19 PM |
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MrsM84
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Sunday weddings and work
Personally, if my DH was good enough friends with someone that he was chosen to be a groomsmen, I wouldn't make him leave the wedding early. I would figure something out for myself and the kids.
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| Posted 8/28/13 8:26 PM |
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kimmaymb20
a year of surprise
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Sunday weddings and work
Just take Amtrak
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| Posted 8/28/13 8:34 PM |
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AllyMally
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Sunday weddings and work
I would just leave with the kids and let DH stay. He is in the wedding and you guys already booked a room for sat and sun. Did the meeting just pop up? Has dh always know it would be a later in the day wedding?
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| Posted 8/28/13 11:36 PM |
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trebambini
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
I vote for plan B. A wedding is a once in a lifetime experience and not something you or your husband want to be at and watching the clock for when you have to leave. I would enjoy the wedding, enjoy the hotel and get a very early start Monday morning and let the rest of the family sleep in and drive back at their leisure. To be honest I would love to have the opportunity to travel by myself for a few hours. Heck these days having little ones, I look forward to having my teeth cleaned just for the time alone! 
Good luck with whatever your decision and enjoy your trip!
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| Posted 8/29/13 1:58 PM |
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angnick
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by MrsYankeeGirl72
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For me, B would be the option.
If he and your DS are in the wedding, I would not expect DH to leave the wedding early and as the bride/groom, i'd be really disappointed if one of the groomsmen left the wedding a few hours early.
to me, a 4:30 invite, means the ceremony starts at 5 - goes til 5:30 or 6. Cocktail hour is from 5:30 - 6:30, then reception 7 - 10/11.
I would go to the wedding and then you leave the ceremony with your kids (or at least the 2 year old) around 8 and go back to the hotel.
If you have to be back for a 10 am meeting, then you leave the hotel super early and get a train back, while your DH and the kids can sleep in and drive back as planned.
I agree.
i like this option
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