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Stacey1403
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Posted by MrsRivera
I don't know...I'm not convinced that what the TA said was totally out of line. Granted, your DS is still young enough that thumb-sucking is pretty common, but it doesn't sound like she yelled at him, or told him that he HAS to stop sucking his thumb or else he'd be punished.
I guess as a teacher, I'm thinking of the reasons that she WOULDN'T want him sucking his thumb. If he's in a school setting, obviously there's a greater potential for spreading germs because he's touching things after his finger has just been in his mouth.
I'm sorry your DS was upset, but I don't see a reason to get angry over it. It IS a pretty bad habit--my SIL actually had to have braces when she was 7 because her top front teeth grew outward due to her thumb-sucking. 
Sorry but I completely disagree. He is under three years old. IMHO a different set of rules apply then if he was older than say 5 or 6. Not the teachers place at all.
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Being the mommy of a thumb sucker, this would really annoy me. DD sucks her thumb, and it doesnt really bother me at all. But if someone embarassed her or made her feel bad about it I would probably flip.. I would definately speak with the director. 
ETA: About the braces thing.. the dentist told me not to worry until about 5 or 6 years old. It would have no effect. I did it till i was 7 I believe.. no braces here 
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Ang-Rich
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
I have a real problem with people that treat children that way...he's still a person and deserves respect...to do that in front of the other kids really bothers me.
Poor Andrew 
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CkGm
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Posted by krissy888
Posted by Stacey1403
I would be talking to the director so fast the TA's head would spin!! No one who publicly humiliates a 2/3 year old( I'm sorry I forgot exactly how old Andrew is) should be working with small children. Plus she should take into account that you have a new baby at home and Andrew may be regressing a little bit which is completely normal!! I am so angry for you right now!!!
me too, I would rip that TA a new one! 
ITA! That is just wrong! poor Andrew
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| Posted 3/11/09 7:36 PM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
I'm sorry!
Poop little guy!
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| Posted 3/11/09 7:37 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Posted by jaysee00
I'm kind of surprised she didn't discuss it with you privately first. I would think that she would want to know your feelings about it.
ITA!!!!!
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| Posted 3/11/09 7:38 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
I don't really think it was right, and it surprises me a TA with kids that age would say something like that..
Maybe he was touching something dirty and then put it back in his mouth and that is why she felt the need to scold, you know?
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| Posted 3/11/09 7:40 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Posted by MrsRivera
I don't know...I'm not convinced that what the TA said was totally out of line. Granted, your DS is still young enough that thumb-sucking is pretty common, but it doesn't sound like she yelled at him, or told him that he HAS to stop sucking his thumb or else he'd be punished.
I guess as a teacher, I'm thinking of the reasons that she WOULDN'T want him sucking his thumb. If he's in a school setting, obviously there's a greater potential for spreading germs because he's touching things after his finger has just been in his mouth.
I'm sorry your DS was upset, but I don't see a reason to get angry over it. It IS a pretty bad habit--my SIL actually had to have braces when she was 7 because her top front teeth grew outward due to her thumb-sucking.
i agree that it's a good idea to talk to the TA BEFORE you yell or get angry. he's 3 years old and still quite young, and his perception of what happened *could* be different than what actually occurred. obviously he's upset so you should ask. andrew deserves respect, but so does the TA since all you have is a 3 year old's word on what happened. if after talking to the TA you feel she's lying, or she admits it, then i might say something to the higher ups.
i teach 8 year olds and had a parent, just today, tell me something that their child said. i laughed because it was *so* far from the truth that it was funny (it wasn't anything that i did--rather it was a story that was completely wrong). but it was the child's perception, which is totally legit, but it was still an incorrect perception.
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rose825
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Guess I am too laid back. I would have told him she was right, and sorry it made him feel bad. But other than that I dont think I would have thought twice about it.
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browneyedgirl
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Posted by rose825
Guess I am too laid back. I would have told him she was right, and sorry it made him feel bad. But other than that I dont think I would have thought twice about it.
see that's my initial reaction as well. but i'm very laid back with things. i only really get on the defensive if things are very serious (DS said TA hit him). i know that yelling doesn't get you anywhere... but that's me.
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| Posted 3/11/09 8:32 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Posted by browneyedgirl
Posted by rose825
Guess I am too laid back. I would have told him she was right, and sorry it made him feel bad. But other than that I dont think I would have thought twice about it.
see that's my initial reaction as well. but i'm very laid back with things. i only really get on the defensive if things are very serious (DS said TA hit him). i know that yelling doesn't get you anywhere... but that's me.
While I agree with the teachers motive on getting him to stop, the issue was to say it in front of everyone. Granted it comes for a 3 year old & maybe completely off base with the actual events BUT there will be plenty of times in a thumbsuckers life for them to be ostracized by their peers. I have a 5 year old & am waiting for that day. When an ADULT says something to the child, it's much worse.
It might be me projecting my feelings when a grocery store cashier told my kindergartenbound 5 year old she won't have any friends in school because she sucked her thumb, but I think an adult (particularly a TEACHER) has a greater responsibility.
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GreenGirl05
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
As a teacher I would have totally spoken to you about this before approaching your son. He is VERY Yuong and I feel it needs to be a discussion between the teacher and parent.....but that's me!!! I feel bad for him though!! 
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Re: TA told Andrew that he needs to stop sucking his thumb!
Posted by Ang-Rich
I have a real problem with people that treat children that way...he's still a person and deserves respect...to do that in front of the other kids really bothers me.
Poor Andrew
ITA!
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