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Bri
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Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
My 1 year old is going through a very devilish phase. I am hoping to keep my hair intact (feels like I have been pulling it out a lot lately ) She seems to think all attempts at discipline are a joke or is just not catching on. Please take me through the strategies/routine that worked for you when your DC was around this age!
ETA: Please include while out in public/out to dinner as well!
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
At this age - you really are most effective with a firm NO, then placing her on the floor and walking away briefly. This worked like a charm with Cailen, and I have seen it work consistently with other babies.
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Bri
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
I am getting the feeling my kid is EXTREMELY devilish- Anyone else have a child that is going through or went through a beastly stage at around 1?
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Bri
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
Posted by lipglossjunky73
At this age - you really are most effective with a firm NO, then placing her on the floor and walking away briefly. This worked like a charm with Cailen, and I have seen it work consistently with other babies.
Ok, I will try incorporating the walk away part, because she normally goes right back to what she shouldn't be doing (she is walking all over like a pro at top speed.)
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
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Posted by lipglossjunky73
At this age - you really are most effective with a firm NO, then placing her on the floor and walking away briefly. This worked like a charm with Cailen, and I have seen it work consistently with other babies.
Ok, I will try incorporating the walk away part, because she normally goes right back to what she shouldn't be doing (she is walking all over like a pro at top speed.)
Then put her in an empty pack n play, or her crib.
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
I find that distraction works best with my DS. I also tell him No and remove him from whatever is causing the problem. He seems to understand, but smiles at me and keeps doing whatever I told him not to. It's part of normal development a this age to test boundaries.
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Bri
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
Posted by Lola
I find that distraction works best with my DS. I also tell him No and remove him from whatever is causing the problem. He seems to understand, but smiles at me and keeps doing whatever I told him not to. It's part of normal development a this age to test boundaries.
I do know it is normal development. I just get frustrated that it seems like I say no all day long just to get laughed at or a "hi" and a rub on my cheek. She melts me on the inside but I stay firm on the outside. I get more concerned outside of the home and in restaurants. We went to dinner at California Pizza tonight and no matter what it was- crayons, menu, food- it was getting thrown everywhere and there was a lot of whining and screaming going on. I guess it is par for the course, but I just feel like I see other little ones so quiet and behaved and then we are the ones getting the looks with our not so quiet love of our lives.
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twicethefun
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
Posted by Lola
I find that distraction works best with my DS. I also tell him No and remove him from whatever is causing the problem. He seems to understand, but smiles at me and keeps doing whatever I told him not to. It's part of normal development a this age to test boundaries.
I agree.
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
Posted by Bri
Posted by Lola
I find that distraction works best with my DS. I also tell him No and remove him from whatever is causing the problem. He seems to understand, but smiles at me and keeps doing whatever I told him not to. It's part of normal development a this age to test boundaries.
I do know it is normal development. I just get frustrated that it seems like I say no all day long just to get laughed at or a "hi" and a rub on my cheek. She melts me on the inside but I stay firm on the outside. I get more concerned outside of the home and in restaurants. We went to dinner at California Pizza tonight and no matter what it was- crayons, menu, food- it was getting thrown everywhere and there was a lot of whining and screaming going on. I guess it is par for the course, but I just feel like I see other little ones so quiet and behaved and then we are the ones getting the looks with our not so quiet love of our lives.
Rest assured its more than likely the well behaved child was at one time the roudy one. Re-directing and or distraction worked for us at that age. I even started a "time-out" where I would say no and put him on a certain spot and say no we don't hit not that I expected him to stay there, but it also helped pave the way. Not that I never would ,but I personally didn't confine him,but I didn't need to. That would probably be MY last resort. If he was at the table throwing stuff he wouldn't get the stuff back. I can only really remember once when DS was really misbehaving at a restaurant,he was tired and cranky and no distractions were helping. I took him home. DH got a ride with my IL's.
She probably gets it more than you think. Hang in there
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
Ah Bri I saw you posted this last night and all I wanted to do was post back 
but stopped myself (I didn't want to come off the wrong way)
DD isn't walking yet but she is a speed crawler and when I say no she gets this devilish look and does it again
what you posted above that she smiles and say hi is exactly what she does too
I just keep reminding myself that she is learning and she is going to test things I just keep repeating, I do distract but I'll have to try what others posted too
GL
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Wendy
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
Ann usually laughs hysterically when I tell her no ...  But I keep it up and try to distract her from whatever it was or move her to another spot.
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
DS got a few warnings and then a 30 second time out. I calmly explained to him that he did uh-ohs and gave him a hug. At 2 1/2 he still gets time-outs - 2 mins now and then he has to come over to me and explain what he did and give mommy a hug.
When DS was that young and was touching things he shouldn't have sometimes we hit his hand a little. Usually just re-directed him.
My friend once told me that when her son was about 2 and would act up when they were out she told him he'd get a TO when they got home - 1/2 the time she forgot and the other 1/2 of the time he had no idea why he was there. I just put DS in TO wherever we are. He got one in Friendly's and Macy's. Just find a quiet (ha) corner and make his do his time.
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Bri
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Re: Take me through your successful "discipline" routine/strategies for your 1 year old (past or present)
So I think for the most part I am doing all the right things, but that maybe my expectations are too high. I think we also have to increase our threshold for her tantrum throwing if we are out. We are of the philosophy that she will have to adjust to our lifestyle and not the other way around (we won't stop doing things because we are worried how she will behave- she will just have to adjust.) I think we start to panic when we are out and after trying a million and one distractions it becomes a game for her.
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