Re: telling everyone too soon

It's a personal choice. I only told people who I would want by my side if something bad happened.

I personally wanted to tell my family face to face so I chose to tell them early bc I knew it would be the only opportunity we would all be together for a while.

Re: telling everyone too soon

Personally, I couldn't tell people if I hadn't even gone to the dr. yet. I hate to be a downer, but I would be thinking in my head that I would want to make sure I saw a heartbeat. You are so early! I would just make up a family gathering if I really wanted to tell everyone together after the dr. appt.

Re: telling everyone too soon

Re: telling everyone too soon

Personally that would be too soon for me. Close immediate family is one thing, but extended family is another. I wouldn't be comfortable saying anything until I saw the heartbeat and knew everything was ok.

But I also know people who announced to everyone they knew the second they got a BFP and it all worked out, so it's really about what you're comfortable with.

telling everyone too soon

I agree that you have to do what's comfortable for you. We told my parents right away and my ILs at 6 weeks. Our siblings all knew by 7 weeks. I told those closest to me as I just felt comfortable. I knew if something were going to happen I wanted these people to know and to support me. I had a MC 2 months prior so I knew the supportive people in my life.

Re: telling everyone too soon

We waited. My first pregnancy, we told parents/siblings/(and through them, other extended family and friends) at about 9 weeks (we'd already seen the heartbeat and everything seemed fine.) At what should have been 11 weeks, we found out the baby had stopped growing. It was so hard, even though everyone was wonderful and supportive, I just had such a hard time telling people what happened. And family or friends - when I saw them and they told me how sorry they were, it just made me cry (which made them feel bad and then made me feel bad for making them feel bad and I'd have to try and laugh it off by telling them to stop being nice to me. I am a weirdo )

Wth DS, we waited till after 12 weeks. It was hard to hold it in, but just didn't want to go through it again if something happened.

This pregnancy, we wanted to wait till 12 weeks, but Christmas was around 9 1/2 weeks, and we wanted to do it for that so we told our immediate family then (plus I started to show earlier anyway.) I was very hesitant, but, so far it's fine. I will always worry though.