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maybebaby
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Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
They were talking about this yesterday (I never watch but it caught my interest).
For example, moms that tell their child every little thing that is going on. Say if you were in the grocery store...would you go "Now mommy is getting apples, now we are going to put the apples in the cart.." etc.
I had to laugh because I hear this ALL the time when I am out. Moms talking up a storm to their baby...giving them play by play accounts of what is happening.
I'm not coming down on anyone who does this..but I definitely don't. I am not SILENT...I will say "Alright Johnny, lets go grab some cookies" but it pretty much ends there.
The women on the view were pretty much making fun of it and saying how kids dont need to be told every little thing....I have to agree. My mom never did that, we definitely absorbed so much without that!
Any thoughts?
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
I don't go around telling them play-by-play, but I do talk to my kids and involve them in what I'm doing on a daily basis. I think it helps them in terms of understanding and helps them when they speak and to correlate things, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
Posted by bicosi
I don't go around telling them play-by-play, but I do talk to my kids and involve them in what I'm doing on a daily basis. I think it helps them in terms of understanding and helps them when they speak and to correlate things, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
ITA> And I think it does help with his language development.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
I talk to her in the stores, but it's more of chatter, kwim? not like "here is the detergent." etc. I like to watch her look around and take it all in.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
Posted by bicosi
I don't go around telling them play-by-play, but I do talk to my kids and involve them in what I'm doing on a daily basis. I think it helps them in terms of understanding and helps them when they speak and to correlate things, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
Me too. I think that is why my DD is so aware of things at just 9 months old. She is very "verbal" and can follow some commands already. I have always interacted with her in some way - there is rarely any silence when we're together!
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maybebaby
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
I agree..I talk to Johnny a lot. Just not EVERY SINGLE thing that will be happening at every moment.
I can't even think of the example they used on the show but it was pretty humorous...I've heard moms do it before, and always wondered why the need to say every single tiny thing. Lol. I guess to each their own!
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maybebaby
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
Posted by saraH
I talk to her in the stores, but it's more of chatter, kwim? not like "here is the detergent." etc. I like to watch her look around and take it all in.
Exactly. I think its great to talk and chatter...I do the same.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
I don't do the play-by-play at the store, but I"m sure I make an idiot out of myself. YEsterday I took DD to the store and in the fruit aisle we were going over names & colors- b/c we were just doing it in the store.
I really don't care if I come off like a fool, because at almsot 16 months DD has about 45 words... so I think it works.
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Janice
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
honestly, I do it. Not on purpose, just because I am a lonely chatterbox anyway.
When I cook, its "now its time to chop the green pepper"
"hold on, let me wash as I go"
"not too much salt, you know daddy complains"
"time to wash your arm"
"here is your white left shoe"
I have a guilty feeling that I am igorning him if I don't. He also isn't into TV at all, so I am his entertainment. If I have to stop playtime to cook, then he follows me anyway.
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| Posted 2/19/08 12:43 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
Posted by Sassyz75
I don't do the play-by-play at the store, but I"m sure I make an idiot out of myself. YEsterday I took DD to the store and in the fruit aisle we were going over names & colors- b/c we were just doing it in the store.
I really don't care if I come off like a fool, because at almsot 16 months DD has about 45 words... so I think it works.
A big difference for me though is that my kid doesn't have much of an attention span. I could say "Now we pick up chicken for dinner..." and he's playing with a toy or looking around the store. He is an oblivious boy, lol.
Maybe if he were an attentive and relaxed kid I would work more on it...and I don't care who looks at me or what people think...I guess sometimes it appears silly to me when I see people who give a blow by blow account to their 2 month olds...and people do this all the time.
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maybebaby
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
Posted by Janice
honestly, I do it. Not on purpose, just because I am a lonely chatterbox anyway.
When I cook, its "now its time to chop the green pepper"
"hold on, let me wash as I go"
"not too much salt, you know daddy complains"
"time to wash your arm"
"here is your white left shoe"
I have a guilty feeling that I am igorning him if I don't. He also isn't into TV at all, so I am his entertainment. If I have to stop playtime to cook, then he follows me anyway.
Janice, I do the same things at home, lol!
NOT that Johnny pays attention. Or cares. But I find myself going "ok put on your left shoe now, there you go! Now goes on the shirt! Now we put on the pants!!". Its good for them to hear it.
But I guess I just don't do it much in stores and very loudly for the world to hear. Not that it matters I guess...but I could relate to what they were saying on the view...that most little babies listening to their moms go on and on are like "huh? leave me alone already". Lol. I found it humorous!
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Janice
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
Maureen, that's true. Josh is always looking at me or right near me. The other boy I watch could care less what I am doing and runs from me.
If Johnny was staring at you the whole time you cooked, you would be talking too.
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maybebaby
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
Posted by Janice
Maureen, that's true. Josh is always looking at me or right near me. The other boy I watch could care less what I am doing and runs from me.
If Johnny was staring at you the whole time you cooked, you would be talking too.
You're very right. I WISH sometimes he'd give those things the time of day. But all he wants is to play and do his own thing. I know he is absorbing vocabulary...even if they aren't vocalizing it, they are retaining it in their rapidly growing brains, that I know!
If Johnny stared at me when I cooked, I would eat it up! Lol! Maybe someday 
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bicosi
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
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Posted by Sassyz75
I don't do the play-by-play at the store, but I"m sure I make an idiot out of myself. YEsterday I took DD to the store and in the fruit aisle we were going over names & colors- b/c we were just doing it in the store.
I really don't care if I come off like a fool, because at almsot 16 months DD has about 45 words... so I think it works.
A big difference for me though is that my kid doesn't have much of an attention span. I could say "Now we pick up chicken for dinner..." and he's playing with a toy or looking around the store. He is an oblivious boy, lol.
Maybe if he were an attentive and relaxed kid I would work more on it...and I don't care who looks at me or what people think...I guess sometimes it appears silly to me when I see people who give a blow by blow account to their 2 month olds...and people do this all the time.
ah see, I think you are wrong there. Although he may seem like he's not listening/paying attention, he most certainly IS! my kids do NOT sit still, but their minds are little sponges and oftentimes, DD/DS will surprise me when they ask me about something or tell me something that they heard me say that I didn't know they even heard!
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
I do it, but it talk a lot anyway
Like when we get dressed, I'll say, take your right hand and put it in your right sleeve...that sort of thing.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
I really never did, I just gave a general description... Like, ok lets go in the car, Lets get some apples... Now I make a serious effort. Its more like... Lets get some apples, apples are red, mommy is buying 5 apples, you love apples right? you had apples yesterday. He by the way is not paying attention to me at all, and I'm sure both of us are thinking how annoying I sound. 
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maybebaby
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
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Posted by Sassyz75
I don't do the play-by-play at the store, but I"m sure I make an idiot out of myself. YEsterday I took DD to the store and in the fruit aisle we were going over names & colors- b/c we were just doing it in the store.
I really don't care if I come off like a fool, because at almsot 16 months DD has about 45 words... so I think it works.
A big difference for me though is that my kid doesn't have much of an attention span. I could say "Now we pick up chicken for dinner..." and he's playing with a toy or looking around the store. He is an oblivious boy, lol.
Maybe if he were an attentive and relaxed kid I would work more on it...and I don't care who looks at me or what people think...I guess sometimes it appears silly to me when I see people who give a blow by blow account to their 2 month olds...and people do this all the time.
ah see, I think you are wrong there. Although he may seem like he's not listening/paying attention, he most certainly IS! my kids do NOT sit still, but their minds are little sponges and oftentimes, DD/DS will surprise me when they ask me about something or tell me something that they heard me say that I didn't know they even heard!
Lol, I just replied that I know he is absorbing a lot...so I do talk a lot..
I think I prob worded some stuff badly a I tend to do, lol.
This show was more about the following scenario, and its something I just don't do cause I don't find it necessary.. (I am making up the following..)
Mom to child: ANd now I am picking up 3 bananas and now placing the 3 bananas in the cart because we will go home and make banana bread for daddy. Now I am picking up 4 red apple, the 4 red apples are going in the cart and we will cut these up tonight and eat them for our snack.
Lol. I will go "who wants apples? Yea for apples"! and leave it at that.
Nothing wrong with either, just funny I guess.
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maybebaby
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
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I really never did, I just gave a general description... Like, ok lets go in the car, Lets get some apples... Now I make a serious effort. Its more like... Lets get some apples, apples are red, mommy is buying 5 apples, you love apples right? you had apples yesterday. He by the way is not paying attention to me at all, and I'm sure both of us are thinking how annoying I sound.
Lol! I wrote an example scenario before I read your post..I am NOT making light of what you said  (just in case you wonder!!).
It doesn't matter who thinks what. I may be the fool who wishes she spoke more and dictated more...who knows???
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
I think DW and I do like a lot of the APs do. We talk to DC more than needed, but not every single detail. I do think it helps with language comprehension, but my brain doesn't work "out loud", so I either don't think of saying what I'm doing, or it distracts me when I need to concentrate on something.
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bicosi
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
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Posted by Sassyz75
I don't do the play-by-play at the store, but I"m sure I make an idiot out of myself. YEsterday I took DD to the store and in the fruit aisle we were going over names & colors- b/c we were just doing it in the store.
I really don't care if I come off like a fool, because at almsot 16 months DD has about 45 words... so I think it works.
A big difference for me though is that my kid doesn't have much of an attention span. I could say "Now we pick up chicken for dinner..." and he's playing with a toy or looking around the store. He is an oblivious boy, lol.
Maybe if he were an attentive and relaxed kid I would work more on it...and I don't care who looks at me or what people think...I guess sometimes it appears silly to me when I see people who give a blow by blow account to their 2 month olds...and people do this all the time.
ah see, I think you are wrong there. Although he may seem like he's not listening/paying attention, he most certainly IS! my kids do NOT sit still, but their minds are little sponges and oftentimes, DD/DS will surprise me when they ask me about something or tell me something that they heard me say that I didn't know they even heard!
Lol, I just replied that I know he is absorbing a lot...so I do talk a lot..
I think I prob worded some stuff badly a I tend to do, lol.
This show was more about the following scenario, and its something I just don't do cause I don't find it necessary.. (I am making up the following..)
Mom to child: ANd now I am picking up 3 bananas and now placing the 3 bananas in the cart because we will go home and make banana bread for daddy. Now I am picking up 4 red apple, the 4 red apples are going in the cart and we will cut these up tonight and eat them for our snack.
Lol. I will go "who wants apples? Yea for apples"! and leave it at that.
Nothing wrong with either, just funny I guess.
I didn't see that until after I replied! lol
Us ladies always type too fast! lol
I cannot stand the women on The View... who finds making fun of how mothers interact with their kids funny? I'm sure if moms weren't doing that, they'd be making fun on the lack thereof. shame on them.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
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Posted by KerriSteve
I really never did, I just gave a general description... Like, ok lets go in the car, Lets get some apples... Now I make a serious effort. Its more like... Lets get some apples, apples are red, mommy is buying 5 apples, you love apples right? you had apples yesterday. He by the way is not paying attention to me at all, and I'm sure both of us are thinking how annoying I sound.
Lol! I wrote an example scenario before I read your post..I am NOT making light of what you said (just in case you wonder!!).
It doesn't matter who thinks what. I may be the fool who wishes she spoke more and dictated more...who knows???
No I didnt think that at all... I really do annoy myself!
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
Posted by bicosi
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Posted by bicosi
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Sassyz75
I don't do the play-by-play at the store, but I"m sure I make an idiot out of myself. YEsterday I took DD to the store and in the fruit aisle we were going over names & colors- b/c we were just doing it in the store.
I really don't care if I come off like a fool, because at almsot 16 months DD has about 45 words... so I think it works.
A big difference for me though is that my kid doesn't have much of an attention span. I could say "Now we pick up chicken for dinner..." and he's playing with a toy or looking around the store. He is an oblivious boy, lol.
Maybe if he were an attentive and relaxed kid I would work more on it...and I don't care who looks at me or what people think...I guess sometimes it appears silly to me when I see people who give a blow by blow account to their 2 month olds...and people do this all the time.
ah see, I think you are wrong there. Although he may seem like he's not listening/paying attention, he most certainly IS! my kids do NOT sit still, but their minds are little sponges and oftentimes, DD/DS will surprise me when they ask me about something or tell me something that they heard me say that I didn't know they even heard!
Lol, I just replied that I know he is absorbing a lot...so I do talk a lot..
I think I prob worded some stuff badly a I tend to do, lol.
This show was more about the following scenario, and its something I just don't do cause I don't find it necessary.. (I am making up the following..)
Mom to child: ANd now I am picking up 3 bananas and now placing the 3 bananas in the cart because we will go home and make banana bread for daddy. Now I am picking up 4 red apple, the 4 red apples are going in the cart and we will cut these up tonight and eat them for our snack.
Lol. I will go "who wants apples? Yea for apples"! and leave it at that.
Nothing wrong with either, just funny I guess.
I didn't see that until after I replied! lol
Us ladies always type too fast! lol
I cannot stand the women on The View... who finds making fun of how mothers interact with their kids funny? I'm sure if moms weren't doing that, they'd be making fun on the lack thereof. shame on them.
See....I found the way they were discussing it quite humorous. I have a good sense of humor and can laugh at pretty much anything even things I disagree with...they were just laughing at how over the top some of the dialogue today is. Nothing crazy and demeaning...Elizabeth was even saying how she will talk to her kids sometimes like that, but never over the top...
I don't know, I guess you had to see the episode. It wasn't that bad in all honesty.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
I wouldn't neccesarily call it a play-by-play, but I do talk to Ds a lot when we're out and about. It's mostly for his entertainment and to keep him engaged so he doesn't get bored and throw a fit. I've also been known to sing in public to him. I'm sure the View would rip me a new one, but I could give a sh!t less what they think.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
It may sound funny-but most "experts" recommend doing just what you are describing. It has been proven to help kids learn and absorb. I do it as often as possible, but I forget sometimes.
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Re: Telling your child everything you are doing (from The View yesterday)
We are constantly doing that with DS and during our appt with the pediatrician yesterday, he asked us what we do with him because he was impressed with all the words he knew at 16 months .Ds understands everything and if you ask him a question, he will answer you with either a yes, no or I do. We also dont baby talk to him~
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