Time is so precious...don't rush it (Long but there IS a point, I swear)

My mom was always the mom who was crying hysterically at our "milestone" events. It always made me and my siblings sooooooo embarassed. And she would say "well, you are still my baby and I just get so sad when I look at you growing up." Of course, we would just and .

Now, with a baby of my own, I know exactly where she was coming from. And he is not even a year old yet! I see him becoming his own little person. First rolling, then sitting, then crawling, then cruising and now walking Those are sooooo many new accomplishments in a short 9 1/2 months. I can't believe it. I want to cry whenever I sit back and watch him.

The reason I am sharing this is because I have been reading a lot of posts lately from new moms (well, I'm a new mom, but newer than me, LOL) and but I never respond because I feel it's really none of my business what people do with their kids.

But now I feel like I have to say something. Please do NOT rush your kids into doing things. They WILL do it on their own. They will roll over when they are ready. They will sleep through the night when they are ready. They will walk when they are ready. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE stop rushing your kids. Because before you know it, you will be sending them off to school. Then, you'll be watching them graduate. Then you'll maybe watch them walk down the aisle. At that point, you'll be wishing for those times before they had teeth and couldn't roll over, when you had to rock them every 4 hours. You will wish for them to cry when you leave the room. You will want them to only want to be held and cuddled by you.

Sorry, but I am getting sentimental since I only have a little over two months before my baby is one year old. I think it's that and the walking that is really getting to me.

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I remember when I was pregnant vowing I would never wish away any minute... ever. Even if he is up all night, I never wish that time away. Time passes so quickly whether you wish it away or not....

I totally agree with you - thank you for this!!!

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I know exactly how you feel. John is 8 months and just the other day my DH finally put the playmat away and I cried. We both realized he is growing up really fast. Good post!

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We are in the process of buying a new car seat for him - no more infant seat - and he is getting too big for his swing!!!


Not to mention he grows out of another piece of clothing everyday


I saw a size 1 diaper the other day and it was like a foreign object to me....

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Posted by pmpkn087

But now I feel like I have to say something. Please do NOT rush your kids into doing things. They WILL do it on their own. They will roll over when they are ready. They will sleep through the night when they are ready. They will walk when they are ready. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE stop rushing your kids. Because before you know it, you will be sending them off to school. Then, you'll be watching them graduate. Then you'll maybe watch them walk down the aisle. At that point, you'll be wishing for those times before they had teeth and couldn't roll over, when you had to rock them every 4 hours. You will wish for them to cry when you leave the room. You will want them to only want to be held and cuddled by you.

Sorry, but I am getting sentimental since I only have a little over two months before my baby is one year old. I think it's that and the walking that is really getting to me.

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you are going to make me cry! I would love to carry my ds with me all the time but alas my poor back is giving out, he is getting so big! we went for a walk yesterday with him in my sling by the time I got home I could hardly move my shoulder thanks for the post, def. makes you think

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i AGREE !!! A friend of mine compares her daughter to every kid - especially in the supermarket - which child is alert, which is cooing, etc. and she is always asking about my dd (older than hers) when she hit certain milestones....who cares?? let your baby be a baby ! The doc will tell you @ check ups if there is really something to worry about.

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i feel the same way. I am in no rush for my little Kailyn to grow up. I want to enjoy every minute.

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I agree! DD is going to be 1 next week...and I realize she is getting to be so big. I remember wishing she would fit into all the cute clothes I had for her, but she only fit into preemie clothes. Now...I look at preemie clothes and I can't believe she was that small.

For me...I know I will not be having another baby...this is the last of the line for us as far as babies go.

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I think that this is a great reminder and I agree completely.

But I now feel the need to defend a previous post where I asked about rolling over. I know that you are not pointing fingers but I feel the need to be very clear...when I ask these questions about how to help him it's not to rush him but rather to calm my own fears that he might be behind. I hear stories of babies rolling over at his age and wonder "is something wrong with my little guy" or "is the fact that I am a working mom interfering with the time I should be spending helping his development"

Usually the answer is always to let him do it on his own and that he is fine...but since this is my first time around I need the chance to worry and find the answer. So for me and only me I want it to be clear that I do not want to rush my child nor rush the time but rather to do the very best that this inexperienced mom can do for him.

Typed words never come out the way they are intended so please know that I know you are not pointing fingers nor trying to be judgmental and at the same time please know that I am not trying to come off in any way other than sincere and honest.

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I feel the same way. On the bad days I daydream about how they will eventually be in school all day, then I feel very guilty for wishing this baby time away. It is so hard sometimes, but you blink and the time is gone. It is definately something challenging to deal with.

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Yeah I know what you mean. Before DS turned 1 DH would always say "oh man I just want him to start walking and talking already so we can play sports."...yada yada yada. And I was always like "don't rush him" And now that he is wallking he's always going to the coffee table where DH always leaves his stuff on top of. Stuff he doesn't want touched but of course a curious and walking one year old will touch anyways. So DH gets frustrated after repeatedly telling DS not to touch his stuff. When I hear him saying "No don't touch that, come on Matty stop busting my chops"...I'm always like "aren't you the one that couldn't wait for him to walk, well the moment is here you should be rejoicing!"... "You can go out and play sports now"...

Sometimes I do miss the days when he was a newborn...

Message edited 8/30/2007 12:44:32 PM.

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Ang, there is no need to explain yourself

We have ALL found ourselves saying "I wish his/her teeth would come in already" and "Little Johnny is saying mama, why isn't Steven saying it." It is so easy for us to forget that they, just like us adults, do things on their own time. Not when we think they should do it.

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Message edited 8/30/2007 12:51:10 PM.

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Posted by lipglossjunky73
so funny that you wrote that - I was also thinking - hmmm - is this about me? Because of my post the other day about worrying that I'm holding him too much and he is becoming passive...

I'm sure every mom reads this and thinks - d'oh - its because the other day I posted about....



I'm sure it was not aimed at anyone specifically. Just because we worry as moms doesnt mean we ever wish the time would speed up or milestones to be hit, but we will always be on top of what milestones are hit at appropriate times

In the field I'm in, if moms were like - "eh, he's not talking yet, but so what, I dont want to rush anything," or, "he's not playing with toys yet, but so what, why rush him," then they would not have gottent their children evaluated, discovered they had autism, and gotten them crucial early intervention services so everything needs to be taken with a grain of salt...

We all post here with the best of intentions. We give advice, reassure each other that some things are normal, tell each other to not worry, not rush anything, but if your gut is truly telling you something is wrong, then always look into it - always. Don't ever let anyone make you feel guilty that you are pushing your child, rushing your child, or not appreciating who he/she is right now in their lives...

OK, PSA over... lets resume being the teary eyed mommies we have become on these baby-growing-up threads....

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I could have written the same post.
I was so upset yesterday when I showed DH our sons new clothes for the fall and DH says whos are those??!! The look so big. THEY BELONG TO OUR LITTLE BABY!! Our little baby who wore the tiniest clothing at birth is now a big boy and going to be 1 in 2mths!!


The grow way too fast and you will long for those times when your DC was not rolling/crawling/walking/sitting up because once they reach all those milestones and want to do what "they want to do" you will miss those moments they sat in your arms and snuggled or slept or didnt try to escape when you changed them!

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I know it wasn't about anyone specifically and I don't want you to have to defend your feelings. I just felt the need to say hey I'm new at this and sometimes I wonder or get concerned (not in a bad way - more of I have no idea what I am doing way) and just need to be reminded that it's okay. I am sure by #2 that at least half of these things will not even come on my radar as a concern.

Bottom line - I agree with you completely - these moments fly by and sometimes I feel like if I blink I might miss something. Time really is precious.

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ITA!! I never understood my friends who are planning their kids first birthday party when they are 6 months old. I try to just take every day as it comes. I looked at my baby girl the other when DH picked her up. Her legs are now the size that her whole body was when she was born.

Now Jordana loves me and wants to cuddle with me and hang out with mom and dad.

There will come a time when her friends will take priority over us- and then she will be embarassed by us- then she will hate us- and eventually love us again.

I don't want it to pass. I want my baby to stay a baby forever.

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bump for the night crew.

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Maybe it's because my kids are older but I love the new milestones (except for when I wonder we we ever taught them how to talk). Not that I'm wishing their years away. We definitely cherish the moments in my house. I look forward to the new things they learn, the new stages in their life.

I was tearing up at the bus stop sending my son to kindergarten but was more excited for him rather than sad about his growing up.

Each stage is my favorite stage so far. I can't wait to see the next one of theirs & mine because as they grow, I've found I'm growing too.

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I totally agree. I am only going to be a mom to babies for a very short span in my hopefully long life. I soak it all in.

I don't get sad though. I think its exciting. I love to see him blossom into a little person.

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I try to grab Jared and rock him like a little baby. He wants nothing to do with that anymore. It makes me sad because he used to love to snuggle up to me as I rocked him...

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Posted by Stefanie

I try to grab Jared and rock him like a little baby. He wants nothing to do with that anymore. It makes me sad because he used to love to snuggle up to me as I rocked him...

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Well I do look back at photos and video of my little monkey sandwich when he was first born and those first few months.. and although I can't believe how small he was, and how much he has grown, I do not wish to go back to those times. I may be the odd man out here, but after a very difficult first year with my DS I am finally enjoying him now and find myself looking more forward to when he is 3, and 4, and 5...

I want to see his eyes light up at Disney world when he is old enuf to understand, and bring him to playdates where he actually plays with the other kids and is having the time of his life!

So while many cherish every moment with their newborn/infants, I will be honest and say that I did not. I truly wished each day to come and go as quickly as possible so he could be older and out of those horrific first months. But now that he is older and coming up on 2, I am happy to report that I am finally cherishing the moments...