Today's RE visit - with a plan of action.(LONG)

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Today's RE visit - with a plan of action.(LONG)

Last night, I was a big ol' mess in tears and feeling very sad that we had to be "one of THOSE couples" needing to see an RE. I constantly joke about needing the "jaws of life" to get me (my cervix) open, but my heart has been sinking to the pit of my stomach in anticipation of today's visit - what I considered the first "official" step in the wonderful world of infertility.

DH and I had a consultation with Dr. Rosenfeld at NSUH this morning. We basically told him our story. He listened and responded very kindly to every word we had with great sensitivity. After the initial consultation, he did an exam.

He said that my cervix was in fact VERY stenotic and that it would be virtually impossible to do an IUI or an HSG without some form of dilation. He did an internal sonogram and saw that I ovulated from my right side and it seemed to him that THAT part looked ok. I have a minor fibroid, but nothing that interfered with my ability to conceive and not worth removal. The issue is purely because of the conal procedure I had a few years back.

Dr. Rosenfeld ordered CD 3 blood work (to be done later this week as my period is due any time now). I was also given an RX for Fragile X as that hadn't been done when I had my genetic testing before we were married (all other genetic tests came back negative - I am not concerned)

Here is the beginning of my planned course of action:

On May 3, I have to go for what looks like a D&C according to this paper I have in front of me- it says Diagnostic Laparoscopy and Hysteroscopy.

(Please forgive seemingly blase wording - it was very hard for me to absorb what he was saying and I asked him to repeat himself - DH still had to interpret for me - I have to take things in pieces)

Since he knows I had such a bad experience with the HSG, they will "kill two birds with one stone" and check my tubes at the same time. I will be knocked out under a general anesthetic and I have to take two days off from work to recover.

He does think that if the cervix stays open or even if he has to dilate again for an IUI, that IUI would pretty much be a slam dunk for us. He also said that IVF wouldn't work either if they cant get in - of course that makes sense. I guess we will know if we need it somewhere down the line, but right now, there is nothing that indicates we are candidates for it.

The doctor also wants me to start with the basal body temperature monitoring - UGH. I have to become a charter and temper. I know it will only help us in terms of diagnostics, but I guess it is something to get used to. He said he knows I ovulate, but he is using it for other purposes. Dr. Rosenfeld was very thorough and DH and I felt very comfortable with his competence.

Right now I am a little shell shocked. I wasn't prepared to require a procedure that will knock me out. I am not scared really, I just don't come out of anesthesia well AT ALL. Every time I have ever had it, I woke up nauseous and puked my guts out.

DH is being very strong as always, but I feel broken. I feel that we should be able to conceive with the intimacy of him, myself and G-d. Now it is the three of us and doctors and nurses and lab techs and secretaries and who knows who else. I suppose I could look at it in terms of G-d creating the science and scientists who will make this happen for us. But what hurts is that intimacy is out the window. There are many "what-ifs" left, but taking things one day at a time will surely get the best of me.

Thank you again so much for all of your advice and continued support. There is no way on this earth that without you all, I could make it through this process.

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Posted 4/16/07 11:27 AM