Toddler - New baby and acting out

Those with a toddler and new baby, how long did the acting out stage last? DD is 26 months and I have a two week old. She has been crazy especially the last few days.

Some examples of what she has done. Stacked books in her room to climb her dresser and was hanging from her hutch. Moved her humidifier off the dresser, across the room and used it to climb onto her changing table. By far the most traumatic for me was last night when she jumped out of her crib and landed face down. She is also hitting and throwing things at her sister. She misses most of the time but she has come very close. Not sure how much more of this I can take. I am very patient but stern with her when she acts out. I make sure to have special time set aside for her and do activities she enjoys. She has been playing with her cousins and in the backyard, we have even had a playdate with one of her little friends. Not sure there is much else I can do. Just hoping this stage is fairly short lived or at least improves steadily.

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Not sure, but I hope it's not long.

DD isn't aggressive towards her brother (who is almost 1 month), but she sure is giving me a run for my money--scattering the cat food everywhere, dumping the cat's water, climbing up on the dining room table...

My OB says it'll take time, but pretty soon, she won't remember what it was like to be an only child. Here's hoping...

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DD is 2.5 and DS is 8 weeks. In the very beginning she was fine but now it seems to be getting worse

I don't know if it is just part of the terrible two's or a reaction to her brother but she is driving me crazy!!!!!

I'm sorry! I'm sure that is not what you wanted to hear.

She is really good with him. She tries to help feed him and burp him. However she is constantly into everything and has also started throwing things She never did that before.

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Posted by nicrae

DD is 2.5 and DS is 8 weeks. In the very beginning she was fine but now it seems to be getting worse

I don't know if it is just part of the terrible two's or a reaction to her brother but she is driving me crazy!!!!!

I'm sorry! I'm sure that is not what you wanted to hear.

She is really good with him. She tries to help feed him and burp him. However she is constantly into everything and has also started throwing things She never did that before.

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UGHHH So it gets worse.. Great! I appreciate the input and honesty ladies.

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We're in the same boat right now. with a 13 month old and 2 week old. it is definitly trying.

What i have found that has worked slightly for us, is that when she's climbing all over everything we try to make it like a game that she's not doing something wrong, and by the 3rd or 4th time she realized that she's not getting the attention telling her it's wrong, she stops doing it. Unfortunalty, she finds more dangerous things to get into after that....lol

good luck

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It does get better I promise!! Bradley will be 3 in Sept and Tyler is 8 months. At first there was A LOT of incidents where I wouldn't trust them together, but now that Tyler is becoming a "person" and standing/starting to crawl, Bradley is so much better.

They are beginning to play together and although sharing is not happening yet, I know it will...things will get better, keep your head up.

My advice is to try spending extra time with DS or have DH take her on a special daddy day date. I know that can be hard, but it might help!

Good luck!

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DD was 22 months when DS was born & initially it was great. She'd give him kisses and bring him his teddy and sit with me when I nursed him. Then around 2 months, she turned into sneaky sis.

She was hitting him and throwing things at him and anytime we asked about Jack she'd say, NO. We really had to watch her around him.

I think that lasted a few months. I know I started to see a difference around 6-7 months when he could sit up and I guess she realized he wasn't going anywhere.

Now she's 3 & he's 1 & she LOVES him to pieces. She's always hugging him and will bring him toys and tell him to come with her.

Hang in there.

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I'm in the same boat.

DS is 3 weeks.......DD is 32 months.

She has started hitting (me and DH) and now COMPLETELY ignores me. She is on top of DS like white on rice. DS was on the floor and I literally turned around for a second and DD was about to pick him up. He's a good baby. Sleeps at night. But the stress I get from her during the day is driving me crazy. I can't enjoy him and I find myself constantly telling her no and so on.

I hope the novelty wears off soon.

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Posted by babybug631

I'm in the same boat.

DS is 3 weeks.......DD is 32 months.

She has started hitting (me and DH) and now COMPLETELY ignores me. She is on top of DS like white on rice. DS was on the floor and I literally turned around for a second and DD was about to pick him up. He's a good baby. Sleeps at night. But the stress I get from her during the day is driving me crazy. I can't enjoy him and I find myself constantly telling her no and so on.

I hope the novelty wears off soon.

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mine is so good with her sister, but cries hysterically when the baby cries. it has gotten a bit better recently, but sometimes she seems almost panicked if the baby cries even the littlest bit. it is fine if someone else is home with us, but when it is just the 3 of us it can be bad. i try to tell her what the baby is crying for, but that only helps sometimes.