TTC and BD- are we the only ones?

Since TTC, me and DH seem to have problems BD'ing "on demand" during O time.

When we conceived DS, we were just having fun and seeing what happens, and it happened the first month (ah the good old days).

Now, we have been trying for 3+ months using CBEFM with no luck. It is hard for us to do it every day, or three days in a row, during O time.

Meanwhile, during the "low" days of my cycle, we can BD no problem because we are relaxed and having fun.

What should we do? Any suggestions frrom others who may have this issue?

Re: TTC and BD- are we the only ones?

Why don't you just stop the monitoring & BD every 2 days in the period in which you guys are more likely to be fertile?

It would take the stress away from finding out exactly "when."

Also, since you guys already have a little one, it is unlikely that you have a very low sperm issue...so every 2 should be fine.

Re: TTC and BD- are we the only ones?

Re: TTC and BD- are we the only ones?

I think you already hit the nail on the head - forget the tracking and the stress from HAVING to BD on certain days. BD every other day from the time your period ends. That is actually what my doctor told me that I should do to cover my bases. Remember that when you have EWCM you are likely more fertile so even if you don't want to BD every other day the entire cycle, then just make sure to BD when you have CM or especially EWCM.

GOOD LUCK!!!!

Re: TTC and BD- are we the only ones?

Thanks everyone! I did figure out from the four months I have been using the CBEFM that I ovulate around CD 18-20.

So now I know if we BD in that timeframe- we should hit the mark!

Thanks and to everyone!!

Re: TTC and BD- are we the only ones?

We had the same problem but just shortened the time we had to BD on demand. I found that I was Oing between the 13 and 15DPO so we just started at 12DPO and ended on 18DPO so it was really only 1 week where we had to BD on demand. If I O'd earlier or later in a given month, I would have extended the time but luckily we got our BFP the first cycle we used this strategy. I also only temped and didnt' use OPKs so I never knew in advance I was ovulating, I could only guess.