TTC vs Not Stopping Pregnancy - isn't it the same thing? Did you time your BD to get pregnant?

My friend thinks she is not TTC because she is not using ovulation kits and timing her BDing. However, they are having unprotected sex and would welcome a baby. I would consider this the same thing as TTC. I know that when we decided to "not stop pregnancy", that is when we decided we were ready to start a family. I mean if you have sex regularly (at least once a week), it's pretty easy to at least know which week you are probably most fertile.

Were you actively TTC when you got pregnant? Did you time your BDing?

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Sometimes mentally it can help you when you say your not TTC.. it can be stressfull when you say your TTC and dont get the BFP.. KWIM? so its easier to say not trying but not stoppping.. b/c its a "if it happens it happens" kinda attitude.. thats what I had. I never said dh and I were TTCing, we were not preventing..

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I wouldn't say we were actively trying........I basically went off the pill and said "whatever happens happens". We didn't think it would happen so fast but I basically got pregnant as soon as I went off the pill.

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No - I don't think it's the same -

I would say 'not trying' when you are NOT ready to get PG is the stupidest thing ever - b/c you can very easily get PG when you're not trying NOT to .......And then people are like HOW did this HAPPEN???
Ummm, ya had sex w/o any form of BC< that's how it happened -

but I don't think 'not trying' is the same as actively TRYING to get PG. -

Alot of couples are perfectly happy to forgo the BC and do their thing and welcome a pregnancy IF it happens before they're in the "Ok, NOW I want a baby and I'm going to actively try to conceive........" mindset KWIM?

Dh and I did this - we stopped the BC, but we didn't really pay much attention to when we had sex or whatever. - IF we got PG, great, if not ........(which is what ended up happening) when we decided "ok, we really want this now" - we went into full TTC mode and started paying much more attention -

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Re: TTC vs Not Stopping Pregnancy - isn't it the same thing? Did you time your BD to get pregnant?

Both times DS and I did not prevent pregnancy and we let nature take its course

To me, my definition of TCC is if I was at the point where I was buying ovulation kits, taking my temp etc

I planned on TCC after 6 months of trying just the old fashioned way and if nothing happened

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Well, the end result (pregnancy) may be the same, but the mentality is different. TTC stands for "TRYING to conceive", rather than "Being open to conceiving". People who are not using BC, but are not particularly concerned about having a baby either way, are not trying to conceive, but they are ok (and hopefully happy) to conceive. But they may be ok with not conceiving as well.

But in the end, if you get pregnant, you get pregnant and the end result is the same, whether you are trying to get pregnant or not.

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All I did was track my cycle and I consider that TTC. I don't think you need OPK to be considered TTC.
That's what I would call it, but everyone is different.

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I agree that they are two different things.

DH and I decided we were ready to have a baby so we did what we learned in 7th grade health class and are now having a baby.

I never considered us TTC. Never went on the TTC board, know nothing from betas, temps, OPK, DPO, EDPT, BFP, faint lines, etc. We decided in September, I bought a two pack of home pregnancy tests, got my period in September as apparently we decided too late for that cycle, missed my period in October, 4 days later peed on a stick and got a plus sign. I was not really surprised as I had no reason to think I wouldn't get pregnant if we tried but still consider us very very blessed that it happed right away.

TTC, I think of as really having health issues. I know there are some girls that are TTC for years. I was kind of under the impression that most couples should give it at least a full year before exploring any problems and full on considered TTC. I personally think, and JMO, that getting involved with the kits and early testing too soon before diagnosed with issues is a little much, too much stress, less intimate and not letting God and nature take it's course. When that fails after a good college try, then explore the testing/timing/temping TTC. Again, JMO.

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Re: TTC vs Not Stopping Pregnancy - isn't it the same thing? Did you time your BD to get pregnant?

we were actively ttc, i got off the pill 3-4 months beofre we started trying, we didnt use protection but we took measures not to get preggo like no bd during ovulation week and another stuff not to get explicit. and when we started to ttc we made sure plenty bd happened during o week, and now we are 3 months preggo.

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i was like your friend. and got prgnant and we are thrilled of course. so it was our way of TTC.... i was not quite ready to jump into the timing every BD, ovulation kits, etc. etc. I was lucky that it worked out this way. the only negative is that I have a long cycle and have had complications (one ovary removed) that I really don't know WHEN i ovulated or conceived. so, it has it's pros and cons. but to answer your Original question, i would say that going about it the way your friend is, it's like "TTC - Lite"

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Your friend is using the "Whatever happens, happens" approach. It's not actively trying but no preventing either. Many women will get PG this way.

Re: TTC vs Not Stopping Pregnancy - isn't it the same thing? Did you time your BD to get pregnant?

I always thought of TTC to be more concious like tracking ovulation carefully and timing sexual activity around this time. With just going with the flow, I felt like it was just that. If it happens it happens but you aren't totally tracking things and being more concious of ovulation, etc.

This is just my viewpoint. I just went with the flow and didn't track anything. I wasn't TTC just would have been happy either way.

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That is exactly what we did and we only had sex once that month !

Re: TTC vs Not Stopping Pregnancy - isn't it the same thing? Did you time your BD to get pregnant?