Update! Okay now I really need some help (talking to your 6 year old about sex)

So yesterday I posted about hearing Damien and his friend talking about sex. So today DH and I are going to talk to him. Of course I am anxious about how much to say let alone what to say. Any BTDT Moms have any advice? TIA


UPDATE:

So we sat him down and I told him that I heard him and his friend talking about sex. I asked him if he knew what it was. He said it was when you kiss a girl when she's naked. We just told him sex was a "special cuddling" that 2 grown-ups do when they love each other, and that sometimes a Mommy and Daddy do it to make a baby. He was all over the place about other things and wasn't even slightly interested in what we had to say. We told him if he ever has questions he can ask us and that we want him to know the truth and not a silly story. He talked about a girl in his class that kissed him ( ) He was so embarrassed to tell us. So I don't think he is ready for a full on conversation but at least we have started to lay the groundwork. I actually have a parent/teacher meeting with his teacher on Friday so I am going to bring it to her attention since it is happening on the bus and at school.
Thanks again everyone I really appreciated all your advice

Message edited 1/31/2010 12:03:48 PM.

Re: Okay now I really need some help (talking to your 6 year old about sex)

I obviously have not been there yet, but I am wishing you luck!!
I'm curious to hear what others advise you to do. I think about what i'll say to Ava, too

Re: Okay now I really need some help (talking to your 6 year old about sex)

My DH took SS (13 now - 8 or 9 at the time) for a ride in his mustang. They talked as basic as possible. Asked if he knew what it was, how serious it is, safety, etc. Then just asked if he had any questions and reassured him that he could come to him with any future questions or concerns. I think at 6, you really have to keep it simple. Good luck, I feel for you!

Re: Okay now I really need some help (talking to your 6 year old about sex)

It's amazing right? Robbie and No both started talking about sex and I have NO IDEA where they got it from.

I would suggest that you first ask him what he knows.. or thinks he knows.. prepare yourself because he may have been given more information than you would have thought.

The conversation really kind of moves from that point in my opinion. I have been really honest with my kids in answering their questions - I was shocked by what they knew from other sources (SO YOUNG!) and basically just confirmed some stuff (yes.. sex is something that mommies and daddies do to create babies) and disabused them of other notions (no.. women's breasts are not penises.. ).

I'll be honest.. at this point Robbie pretty much knows most of what there is to know short of the mechanics. I just don't have the comfort level to go into that much detail.. and I really don't think he needs to know. And I was a little less than honest.. I told him sex is something that is reserved for adults who love each other very much and want to create a baby that will need a lot of attention, cries a lot and poops all the time.

Re: Okay now I really need some help (talking to your 6 year old about sex)

I am no where near that stage yet. I think what I would do in this situation is ask him what he knows about s e x. I would then correct anything that is inappropriate for him to be repeating or wrong. I would try to do it at an age appropriate level after knowing what it is he already understands. I don't think a six year old needs all the gory details.

Re: Okay now I really need some help (talking to your 6 year old about sex)

I would keep it simple but truthful. I took a class on sexual abuse and this was part of it. She really emphasized how important it is to use correct names of body parts and what happens but in very basic terms. Also to say two grown up people vs saying a man and woman. If you're having the talk you want him to know what it is so that if sick as it sounds someone tried to abuse him he would be able to know that it's wrong and not something that his age should be doing. There are books that are age appropriate too. I don't have the list in front of me though.
Odds are he'll think it's gross at his age and that will be the end of that.

Re: Okay now I really need some help (talking to your 6 year old about sex)

Posted by monkeybride

I would keep it simple but truthful. I took a class on sexual abuse and this was part of it. She really emphasized how important it is to use correct names of body parts and what happens but in very basic terms. Also to say two grown up people vs saying a man and woman. If you're having the talk you want him to know what it is so that if sick as it sounds someone tried to abuse him he would be able to know that it's wrong and not something that his age should be doing. There are books that are age appropriate too. I don't have the list in front of me though.
Odds are he'll think it's gross at his age and that will be the end of that.

Re: Update! Okay now I really need some help (talking to your 6 year old about sex)

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