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After weeks of ups and downs, it looks like this is the place for me. I have had weeks of problems with the baby and it's heartbeat and growth. Now at 10 weeks (this Saturday), I have pretty much lost the baby. I say pretty much because there is STILL the slightest, barely there heartbeat but the baby lost growth in 9 days. Sadly this baby seems to be very slowly dieing. It's heartbreaking, but there is no chance the baby will make it. I was given three options, to wait longer than the 3 1/2 weeks I have already waited for the baby's heart to stop beating all together. I told them since there is no chance, I can't take it anymore so I'm not waiting any longer for this painful process to drag out. Then I was presented with the option of taking a medication to induce the miscarriage and do it naturally or to have a D & C. I choose the D & C. I don't want to bleed for more than a week and watch as my baby comes out of me. Although I am at 10 weeks, the baby is measuring btwn 5weeks 5 days and 6 weeks (last Tuesday the baby was measuring 6 weeks 3 days when I was 8 weeks 3 days), so it wouldn't be as much tissue coming out as a ten week fetus, but I still don't have it in me. I go tomorrow to the regular OB for the consult with her and then probably D & C on Tuesday. They are going to try to test the baby to see if there were chromosone problems but the RE said that there may not be enough tissue for them to get results on. I have to wait through one full normal cycle before I can start again for my next IUI. I'm desperate to start again. I wish I didn't have to wait through one full cycle, although I understand why. It just puts me further away from the end goal, holding my healthy baby in my arms and that is hard. I'm sad and can't wait to put this whole horrible situation behind me and move on.

***Update****
Thank you to everyone for all the support. It's wonderful to be able to have support from those that have been there. I went to my regular OB on Friday (I've been going to the Reproductive Endo) and there was no longer a heartbeat which was a huge relief for me. I didnt want to go into a D & C with even the slightest heartbeat so this made it much easier. My D & C is scheduled for Tuesday. Unfortuntely today, Sunday, I have started bleeding and cramping. The cramping wasn't too bad during the day but now at 9:30 it hurts A LOT! I just took a Vicadon that I had left over from having my wisdom teeth out. I can't wait until it kicks in. Definately seals the deal for me when it comes to child birth-epideral the whole way!

Does anyone else have the experience of starting to miscarry on their own before you made it to your D & C date? I'm wondering if Im still going to have the D & C or if I will now do this naturally. I will call my OB in the morning. She said to call and come in on Monday if I started bleeding so I guess I will find out tomorrow.

Again, thank you all for your support and kind words.

Message edited 8/15/2010 9:26:17 PM.

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I'm so very sorry for your loss!

I know exactly how you feel with having to wait to try again. I just suffered my 2nd consecutive miscarriage and the waiting is torture.

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I am so sorry for your loss!
The women on this board are so supportive and all here to listen and help you!

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I am so sorry for your loss. We are all here to support you

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We're here for you! Sorry to hear about your loss.

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I've been following your story. What a horrible emotional road this has been for you We're here for you

Message edited 8/13/2010 1:28:15 PM.

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This past winter I was in your shoes. This board is very helpful. I agree with you the torture of teh up and down weeks was enough. I did the D&C and I have no regrets! It's an emotional roller coaster if you need anything FM me and we are all here (-:

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I am extremely sorry for your loss...we are all here for you since we've all been through similar situations...

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I was following your story on the other board and i am sorry for your loss....i also had a mc and now am 20 weeks along....so don't worry everything will work out.....take sometime to yourself.....all will get better....

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So sorry for your loss. I struggled from the beginning with my pregnancy and then miscarried around the same weeks you are. It is so hard. We are all here for you.
God has a plan for us, I believe we will all have our healthy babies soon.

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i am so sorry for your loss!!!

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

I did the DNC just because it could have taken a good amount of time to naturally mc. I didn't want to wait it out.

There were major cramps associated with my DNC as well.... just so you know that it's possible to have cramps either way you decide to go about it.

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I'm so so so sorry for your loss. I think it's good news you are m/c naturally b/c anytime you don't have to have a medical procedure is great (in my opinion) if you already started cramping nad bleeding I don't think it will last too long.

Call your OB but I'm thinking you won't have the D&C. I think they will let this happen and then check to make sure everything has passed and go from there.

Again I'm so so sorry

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss.


I had a similar situation in which I was scheduled for a D&C, but then started to miscarry on my own--at 9.5 weeks, so a similar time frame as well...

This started over a weekend. I called my OB and she prescribed cytotec--which is a medication meant to contract the uterus and expel its contents. I took it as a suppository. Actually, the worst of it happened before I even took it...the meds were no big deal, IMO, contrary to what I read on the internet.

I returned to my doctor a couple of days later (I guess that Monday?), and she determined that we could go ahead and cancel the D&C, although she did some uncomfortable stuff in the office in order to avoid that. Then I recall taking the medication again orally...

From then on it was like a period. I was so happy to avoid the D&C because I was petrified of it. I hope everything goes as relatively smoothly as it did for me...
Hang in there...

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I went to my OB this morning and I have miscarried on my own. The really bad craps were followed about an hour later with a big clot/tissue coming out of me. My doctor said that is typically how it occurs. She did a sono and saw that everything is out of me so we cancelled the D & C. I'm relieved about that and she was happy too because she was more in favor of giving me the meds to let it happen naturally. She said that there has been some research that shows that having D & Cs leaves scar tissue in your uterus making it more difficult for fetuses to implant in the future so she prefers avoiding D & Cs. She was fine with my decision to do it last week when nothing was happening naturally. I was happy about how she presented the options along with her opinion, but was fine with me making the final decision on what I felt was best for me at the time. She is a brand new OB for me, first time I saw her was on Friday and so far I LOVE her!! So now I will bleed for about a week, but so far between over night and today, there is hardly anything. I am relieved that this ordeal is over and I can finally put things behind me. It dragged on for four weeks and that was just torture. I'm ready to start healing and then move on and make a baby! Thanks again for all the support and sharing your experiences with me. It's so helpful!