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lmcmcl
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wedding - Yes or No
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Katareen
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wedding - Yes or No
No.
If it’s extended family and I’m basically sitting at a table with my DH and 3 other people that doesn’t sound so great. Plus I have to get dressed up, get a babysitter, and wear a mask to move around?
But if this is extended family and you’re in their top 50—It sounds like they very easily could have a very small wedding with immediate family.
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| Posted 7/29/20 12:16 PM |
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RainyDay
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Posted by Sash
Posted by RainyDay
Hmm if I had known it was only 50 people but again most would be strangers so not sure I would feel comfortable.
You aren't close, you won't really know anyone and you aren't comfortable because of covid.. because of this you shouldn't go. I don't see anything wrong with declining under normal circumstances because you aren't close and with this climate they can't be surprised.
If we were able to have my nieces sweet 16, we expected people to decline, it would be very small and intimate. My sister wasn't going to fault anyone for saying no.
Thanks. We have just been really cautious and I would hate to mess it up by going to something I don't want to go to in the first place. I hate weddings but its family so i felt guilty.
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| Posted 7/29/20 12:16 PM |
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PitterPatter11
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wedding - Yes or No
No, I’ve only seen my immediate family once and that made me uncomfortable.
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| Posted 7/29/20 12:23 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Only you know the answer to this. All of us could say we would go, but if you aren't comfy, then decline.
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| Posted 7/29/20 1:02 PM |
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ali120206
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
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Posted by Sash
Posted by RainyDay
Hmm if I had known it was only 50 people but again most would be strangers so not sure I would feel comfortable.
You aren't close, you won't really know anyone and you aren't comfortable because of covid.. because of this you shouldn't go. I don't see anything wrong with declining under normal circumstances because you aren't close and with this climate they can't be surprised.
If we were able to have my nieces sweet 16, we expected people to decline, it would be very small and intimate. My sister wasn't going to fault anyone for saying no.
Thanks. We have just been really cautious and I would hate to mess it up by going to something I don't want to go to in the first place. I hate weddings but its family so i felt guilty.
If you didn't even want to go to begin with - definitely don't go. This is a legitimate out!
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| Posted 7/29/20 1:03 PM |
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Deeluvsvinny
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wedding - Yes or No
I, personally, would not go. Unless the 50 people are immediate family and i know without a doubt that all of them have been practicing safety precautions. I am not judging what other do, but I wouldn't feel comfortable putting myself in that position, so I would decline. In these times, everyone has a right to do what makes them comfortable and not be judged for it.
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| Posted 7/29/20 1:08 PM |
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jlm2008
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wedding - Yes or No
Extended family that you aren't close to? No, definitely not. But then again even if I was close to the person, I'd still be a no .
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| Posted 7/29/20 1:17 PM |
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JME78
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wedding - Yes or No
Weddings are an easy no for me.
There is no way to guarantee social distancing, and a wedding with people sitting far apart, no mingling, no dancing, just sounds horrible to me anyway.
I feel so bad for anyone planning a wedding right now but the best bet is to postpone.
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| Posted 7/29/20 1:58 PM |
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beachbabe
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wedding - Yes or No
No I would not go.
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| Posted 7/29/20 2:16 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
No.
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| Posted 7/29/20 2:22 PM |
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queensgal
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No. But we won’t do indoor dining or many other things that seem to be allowed right now. I’d be so paranoid the whole night I would t have fun.
My best friend is planning a wedding end of sept. But I think her little party will be a bbq outdoor style with like 30 people so I’m considering that just for myself, not my whole family. But I would t go if it was indoors.
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| Posted 7/29/20 2:48 PM |
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beachgirl
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Nope.
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| Posted 7/29/20 3:28 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
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Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Sash
Posted by RainyDay
At a catering hall
So they are open on LI?
For up to 50 guests
Murphy is such an @ss. Lol. He’s killing his whole state because he’s following NYC. I can’t stand him.
Eta: sorry had to vent but carry on with the original topic. 
We've had indoor dining on LI for almost 6 weeks now I want to say. And no spikes from it. Go figure .
Side story- I was at a restaurant today having lunch with my work team and some guy comes in alone and sits at a table across from us. At this point, he and I are the only one's in the place as my team hadn't arrived yet and there was nobody else in there.
Right before he arrived, I was noticing how the AC was blowing right on me and I was cold. I was going to ask the waiter to either move or lower the AC.
So this guy says to me- excuse me ma'am but would you say that are you comfortable? So right away I think he is talking about the AC and I said- actually it's blowing on me, I might ask him to turn it down or to be moved.
He goes- Oh, no I meant are you comfortable dining here in general? It's my first time eating indoors.
I said- yes, I'd say so- I've eaten indoors about 7 or more times since we were allowed to and I'm still alive.
That must have eased his mind because he proceed to order 2 martinis and a big meal and ate inside.
LOL
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ave1024
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wedding - Yes or No
Just tell them you had to travel to one of the 20 states that have high COVID and are required to quarantine for two weeks. Done.
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| Posted 7/29/20 4:55 PM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Posted by OhBoyorGirl
Posted by RainyDay
I am not sure but I know my entire family has been super relax during this and DH and I have not been since we live in the same house as his parents. I just can't get over the fear of getting them sick.
Perfect reason to decline.
If you know people are being lax and you live with at-risk individuals, then I definitely would not go.
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| Posted 7/29/20 6:29 PM |
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VickiC
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Posted by RainyDay
Hmm if I had known it was only 50 people but again most would be strangers so not sure I would feel comfortable.
Some catering halls are stretching the limits big time. Some are holding weddings indoors and outdoors to stretch the rules. I know someone who went to a wedding out East and it was around 150 people, and there was dancing and drinking. Masks at tables only. Catering Halls are willing to risk their license and hefty fines apparantly.
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| Posted 7/29/20 9:40 PM |
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Definitely not. I wouldn’t risk lives for people you aren’t close with.
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| Posted 7/29/20 10:01 PM |
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LMichele
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Posted by ave1024
Just tell them you had to travel to one of the 20 states that have high COVID and are required to quarantine for two weeks. Done.
As a December 2020 bride, I would be pretty insulted if one of my guests lied about why they could not come.
A simple "I appreciate the invitation, but do not yet feel safe at large gatherings" would be appreciated and understood by the couple.
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nycbuslady
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Posted by LMichele
Posted by ave1024
Just tell them you had to travel to one of the 20 states that have high COVID and are required to quarantine for two weeks. Done.
As a December 2020 bride, I would be pretty insulted if one of my guests lied about why they could not come.
A simple "I appreciate the invitation, but do not yet feel safe at large gatherings" would be appreciated and understood by the couple.
I agree! There's no reason to make anything up. Just say you're not comfortable with large gatherings yet.
On a side note, I'm surprised that so many people say that they don't like weddings in general. Why? Maybe I just have a boring life, but I love being invited to weddings and other parties and happily attend all of them. It's a social event, you get to dress up, have a nice meal, dance, drink, chat with people you may not see regularly, etc. What's not to like?
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I would just say that you aren't comfortable with large gatherings yet.
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| Posted 7/30/20 9:17 AM |
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LMichele
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Posted by VickiC
Posted by RainyDay
Hmm if I had known it was only 50 people but again most would be strangers so not sure I would feel comfortable.
Some catering halls are stretching the limits big time. Some are holding weddings indoors and outdoors to stretch the rules. I know someone who went to a wedding out East and it was around 150 people, and there was dancing and drinking. Masks at tables only. Catering Halls are willing to risk their license and hefty fines apparantly.
I don't think it's fair to put all of the responsibility onto the venues. And drinking is allowed.
But, tables are the only place where masks are not needed at restaurants and venues, so that should have been enforced.
But dancing is not being encouraged right now. I think the responsibility for that 100% falls onto the DJs. Especially the DJs who are doing all of these backyard weddings that are happening as a result of the restrictions on venues.
Personally, I think if venues were allowed to go up to 75 or 100, more weddings would be happening at a venue and less in people's backyards. I think the bigger risk is at these backyard parties because many are not following the 50 person gathering limit and I am not seeing many masks at these types of weddings. I think people feel more comfortable in someone's backyard than at a venue or restaurant and are easing up a bit on the masks and distancing, but the masks and guidelines can be enforced better at a venue.
Plus, there is way more space at a venue to social distance tables for 50-100 people than in most backyards.
I also don't see things like masks going away in the next year or so, so I think that's just the new normal unfortunately.
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NervousNell
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Posted by VickiC
Posted by RainyDay
Hmm if I had known it was only 50 people but again most would be strangers so not sure I would feel comfortable.
Some catering halls are stretching the limits big time. Some are holding weddings indoors and outdoors to stretch the rules. I know someone who went to a wedding out East and it was around 150 people, and there was dancing and drinking. Masks at tables only. Catering Halls are willing to risk their license and hefty fines apparantly.
Drinking isn't allowed now? Are we back to prohibition?
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| Posted 7/30/20 9:38 AM |
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Sash
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Re: wedding - Yes or No
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Sash
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Sash
Posted by RainyDay
At a catering hall
So they are open on LI?
For up to 50 guests
Murphy is such an @ss. Lol. He’s killing his whole state because he’s following NYC. I can’t stand him.
Eta: sorry had to vent but carry on with the original topic.
We've had indoor dining on LI for almost 6 weeks now I want to say. And no spikes from it. Go figure .
Side story- I was at a restaurant today having lunch with my work team and some guy comes in alone and sits at a table across from us. At this point, he and I are the only one's in the place as my team hadn't arrived yet and there was nobody else in there.
Right before he arrived, I was noticing how the AC was blowing right on me and I was cold. I was going to ask the waiter to either move or lower the AC.
So this guy says to me- excuse me ma'am but would you say that are you comfortable? So right away I think he is talking about the AC and I said- actually it's blowing on me, I might ask him to turn it down or to be moved.
He goes- Oh, no I meant are you comfortable dining here in general? It's my first time eating indoors.
I said- yes, I'd say so- I've eaten indoors about 7 or more times since we were allowed to and I'm still alive.
That must have eased his mind because he proceed to order 2 martinis and a big meal and ate inside.
LOL
I’m sure the Martinis help to take the edge off.
Idk Murphy keeping the state held state is ridiculous. Even FL & Cali have indoor dining. 
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