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nov04libride
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Wedding issue (as a guest)...
We were just invited to a wedding in October and last night DH was asked to be in the bridal party. I think it was a last minute bridal party thing.
Anyway, we don't know the couple that well--have hung out with them maybe 3-5 times in the 6 years we have been together. We won't know anyone else at the wedding. When he called DH he said, "I remember hanging out with you in kindergarten and wanted you to be a part of my day..."
So, my problem is I know no one else going and now DH is in the bridal party so I will be going to the wedding alone (DH has to get there a couple hours early), and will be alone during the ceremony and cocktail hour while they are taking pictures.
Has anyone been in this situation before? I'm dreading it already. 
Message edited 7/27/2006 9:14:02 AM.
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
yes - and Rich said NO.
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:14 AM |
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Shanti
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Re: Wedding/bridal party question...
When DH and I first started dating, we went to his best friend's wedding and he was in the bridal party. It was the first time I met a lot of his friends and I did not get to see him really until the reception. His mom was at the church but it was only the 2nd time I had met her. It was a little bit awkward but all of his friends were supernice to me, and I just did my best to be social and talk to anyone who would talk to me
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:14 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Wedding/bridal party question...
My DH just had to deal with this. He said he felt really stupid walking up to the ceremony, but the few people he kind of knows (my friend's boyfriends) came over and said hello so he felt a little better. We had taken pics before the ceremony, so I was with DH from the CH on.
Unfortunately there's not much else you can do other than suckk it up. If there's anyone you know at all, make an effort to go over to them and say hello. Otherwise you just fend for yourself for a while until DH is through with pics.
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:15 AM |
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janet
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
i was at a wedding that keith was in and the same thing happen, but they had the bp and the so/guest sit with them. i went with him to take pic and stuff. i would have dh ask if you could sit at the table with him
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:16 AM |
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Emily
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Re: Wedding/bridal party question...
I know it seems like a huge ordeal, but I don't think it is. I had a small wedding and my MOH's husband sat with my grandma during the ceremony. It was very cute...they had only met once before. I have been to weddings prior to meeting dh where the three friends I went with were all in the bridal party and I was not...I sat by myself at the ceremony and during cocktail hour I stuffed my face!
It will breeze by...it is 2 hrs out of your life and I think you can do it! My DH goes on biz travel for longer than that!
ETA: If you are not going to be able to eat with him....thats a different story, I would throw a fit!
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:16 AM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
i dont see the big deal going to the church alone - the reception, he may be done with pics at that point, so id just try to find someone i knew and chat until dh showed up. im sure it will be fine.
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:18 AM |
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Sweetpea130000
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
I was, but I had met some of the other wives beforehand so I knew them a little.
But one of his friends came up to me at the reception and said "You must be Shandra" all I could do was laugh
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:18 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
I've had this happen and so has DH. At first it seemed awkward but it was fine. You'll be fine for a few hrs.
It's only one day/few hrs..try to envision it as a challenge. Do some people watching. Introduce yourself to some people that seem to be having a good time.
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:21 AM |
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
I did when DH and I were first dating. I went to the rehearsal dinner with him and met a couple of the other friends and their significant others at the rehearsal so it did make me feel more comfortable at the wedding.
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:23 AM |
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Karen
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
My hubby was best man a few months after we met. It wasn't a big deal at all to me. You're not really talking in church anyway, so it doesn't matter if you sit alone. At the reception we were able to sit together. I honestly don't remember him missing a ton of the cocktail hour.
Also, you will probably be invited to the RD, so I was able to meet a few of the wives/girlfriends beforehand.
I really don't remember it being a big deal at all.
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:26 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
Posted by Karen
My hubby was best man a few months after we met. It wasn't a big deal at all to me. You're not really talking in church anyway, so it doesn't matter if you sit alone. At the reception we were able to sit together. I honestly don't remember him missing a ton of the cocktail hour.
Also, you will probably be invited to the RD, so I was able to meet a few of the wives/girlfriends beforehand.
I really don't remember it being a big deal at all.
Oh, that's true! I had forgotten about the RD. I hope they are having one; that would be a good opportunity to meet other people. It's not like I am a shy wallflower (LOL) I just know sometimes weddings can be cliquey.
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| Posted 7/27/06 9:27 AM |
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Jackie24
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
i agree that you may just have to be alone during the church and part of CH it wont be that bad dont worry!
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| Posted 7/27/06 10:00 AM |
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skew
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
view this as an opportunity to chat w/ some new people. perople are always in a festive and friendly mood when there is alcohol involved (cocktail hour).
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| Posted 7/27/06 10:03 AM |
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salumunz
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
I was in a similar situation and the wedding was in California so I had to figure out how to get to the church and reception by myself which was a little stressful. I made friends with another girl whose boyfriend was in the wedding and also didnt know anyone. By the time we got the the reception DH was "off duty" and was able to hang out with me the rest of the night.
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| Posted 7/27/06 10:04 AM |
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kaklesmay
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
I would just show up at the reception
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| Posted 7/27/06 10:27 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
I went to a wedding where I didn't know anyone and DH was in the BP when we first started dating. It was fine. I came on my own.
If he has other reservations for declining, that is one thing. If he doesn't want to be in the BP because they are not close its one thing. But I wouldn't expect DH to turn down being in a wedding so I don't have to go there and sit alone.
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| Posted 7/27/06 10:39 AM |
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Ali1
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Re: Wedding issue (as a guest)...
This happened to me once with my DH friend when we were dating. I only knew one other friend and he was also in the wedding party. I didn't go to the church (it was in Brooklyn and pretty far for me), but i did go to the CH and boy was that uncomfortable. I knew no one. I sat by myself at a table and ate. Then my DH came down for about 15 minutes but then had to go back up to the room.
I sat with him at his table, but it took them forever to come into the reception and the two other significant others at the table did not say a word to me so i drank a lot of wine 
I would check out that you will be sitting with DH during the reception and if you don't meet anyone at the RD then go to just the reception (not CH). You can always go to the church alone too if you want to.
However, you DH should decide if he really wants to be in the wedding party. Seems kind of weird to ask someone you see so little of.
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| Posted 7/27/06 10:46 AM |
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