Weird cycle? How to tell when I'm 'O'ing

I use to always track my cycles and they were always between 24-28 days. But I usually spot a day or two before my actual 'flow' starts.

I got married this past July so with all the confusion going on I always forgot to write it down.

In the end of Oct we officially started TTC. So I started writing it down again.

Since Oct these have been AFs visits
Oct 5
Nov 1 - 26days?
Nov 23 - 22 days?

How can I figure our how long my cycles are? Do the 'spotting' days count? I'm trying to figure out when I 'O'

We BD'd EVERY day except 3 days this month I think I have to sign DH up for swimming lessons!!

Re: Weird cycle? How to tell when I'm 'O'ing

I would suggest getting on "my monthly cycles" and starting to keep track of your periods. It's a free site and it can be very helpful.
As far as spotting - I have read on this site as well as others, that your first official day of AF is the day you actually have a "flow". Light spotting is not really considered Cycle Day 1. I sometimes get a very light brownish spotting a day before AF rears her ugly head. I used to count this as CD 1 but I have since started charting it as the first day where I actually need to insert a tampon.

HTH