Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

I really just don't understand this.

I have this (ex)friend who I've known since the 7th grade. At one point we were very good friends, but had a falling out around 7 years ago.

Last year when I was getting married we got in contact again, since she heard the news through the grapevine, and she came to the church of my wedding. We saw eachother a few times after that, dinner dates, etc....

She had always been a friend who called me OFTEN, like 3-4+ times a day. Back in HS and college that was fine, we'd talk on the phone...but as we got older I felt like I grew out of that but she still called me all the time.

However, after my daughter was born and I had less time to talk on the phone all the time, she started leaving me ultimatums on the phone.

She'd call me sometimes 5 times a day, and I'd call her back every few days, but not daily. THen one day she started leaving me ultimatums --- saying that if I didn't call her back within a half hour she would never speak with me again and stuff like that.

Well, my daughter was a few weeks old, I was a new mom trying to figure things out, and suffering from PPD, and I just couldn't deal with it. I called her back a few days later and left her a voice mail saying not to call me again, that I can't deal with her ultimatums and that I almost felt as if I was being stalked by a weirdo ex-boyfriend or something. Honestly that's what it felt like.

So we haven't talked now in over a year. Yet she constantly sends stupid e-mail forwards to me...the kind of things you got like 5 years ago and don't even open -- just delete.

She also recently sent me an invitations to a tastefully simple party at her house---and I can't understand how she'd want me at a party at her house if we haven't spoke in over a year and if we left off on not-good terms.

Does this seem weird to any of you?
Am I being insensitive?
It just seems SO WACKY to me.

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

I would have done the same thing you did. That's ridiculous!

Maybe she invited you to her party to try to patch things up. Maybe she feel stupid about what she did and wants to be friends again.

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

seems wacko to me too. Like she just doesnt get it at all....

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

If I were you, I'd block her email and send the inviation back marked return to sender. You made it clear that you had no intention of continuing the friendship.

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

you are not being overly sensitive..no friend should ever tell you that if you dont call them back in a specified amount of time they wont talk to you again...no one needs that stress in a friendship...as far as the emails go I still get emails (the FWD type) from people I no longer speak with because sometimes people send it to their whole address book...i just delete them...

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

Well remember those parties generate free stuff for the host...the more people the more things she gets...thats what I would think her reasoning would be...what an idiot though

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Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

I wouldn't bother. While I think some people mature & grow out of that high maintenance personality, it doesn't seem like she has.

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

I agree with the other posters.. I would just ignore her and not respond. She seems like a high maintenance friend. I have a friend like that and I know how draining it is.... I would just let it go and move on.

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

Message edited 11/17/2006 12:54:25 AM.

Re: Friendship question....(long -- tell me if this is weird)

Does she ever send you personal emails, not just forwards? Is it possible that she's forgotten that you are on her address list? If she hits "send all" then everyone gets the FWD.