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nferrandi
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What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
DS gets OT and PT twice a week. His therapists usually talk to me for a minute after just to let me know what they did in his session and how he was. Not every time, but often enough, they tell me he was being silly or they needed to refocus him, things along those lines. Am I crazy or isn't that the way a 4 year old should act?
He goes to school all morning and then he has an hour of therapy. They can't seriously expect him to buckle down for an hour and do everything they say perfectly. A lot of the therapy is play based (obstacles, jumping, hopping, puzzles, games, etc...) of course he gets a little silly.
Am I being overly sensitive, or do your therapists expect your kids to be calm the whole time also?
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Posted 10/30/14 10:28 PM  |
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MrsO
Big Brothers to Be
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
Maybe they are not saying it as a bad thing but just giving you information. I don't think they should be sitting still for the entire time. They may not be interested sometimes of what the task is.
Good Luck
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| Posted 10/30/14 11:17 PM |
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
After seeing how much DS changed from that age to 5, I strongly believe a lot of it is maturity.
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| Posted 10/31/14 5:43 AM |
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KarenK122
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What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
I think they just tell you that to set expectations on how much work was done during the session. I wouldn't take anything from it.
Personally I think that teachers/therapists hold our kids to higher behavior standards than typical kids and I have/had huge problems with this.
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| Posted 10/31/14 9:36 AM |
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Dolphinsbaby
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
My kids don't get therapy (yet). We just finished evals and are waiting for final reports but therapy was recommended. But, I totally agree with you!!! Even in the eval, for the OT part, there was a sensory gym with a huge ball pit, trampoline, etc. Well what do you think a 3 year old is going to do when he walks in the room???
Of course one of my boys jumped right in the bubble pit and was playing, laughing. Now do you think he wanted to get out and sit in a chair and do the puzzles, blocks, etc for the eval?? Of course no way. He wanted to play. And the therapist said he has a difficult time transitioning etc. ultimately we had to take him to a different place and out of that room to get the eval done. He was not happy and wanted to play but we settled him down with a snack and she was able to do the eval. She asked me if I was surprised. I said surprised that a 3 year old wanted to play in a ball pit instead of sitting in a chair? No.
So in answer to you, I agree. I think for your son that is a long day already and honestly being silly etc sounds normal to me especially when it is play based activity. Even if he was cranky, that would be understandable too. Sheesh, don't they put themselves in the kids perspective for a minute and think about that?
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| Posted 10/31/14 11:26 AM |
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starlitdragon
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What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
I think they're just informing you. I wouldn't take it negatively. As a prek teacher I would sometimes speak with parents after class and say X was being extra silly, or something along those lines, and needed to be redirected a few times. Just telling how the day went is how I would take it.
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| Posted 11/1/14 4:06 PM |
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PregowithTwins
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
Posted by Dolphinsbaby
My kids don't get therapy (yet). We just finished evals and are waiting for final reports but therapy was recommended. But, I totally agree with you!!! Even in the eval, for the OT part, there was a sensory gym with a huge ball pit, trampoline, etc. Well what do you think a 3 year old is going to do when he walks in the room???
Of course one of my boys jumped right in the bubble pit and was playing, laughing. Now do you think he wanted to get out and sit in a chair and do the puzzles, blocks, etc for the eval?? Of course no way. He wanted to play. And the therapist said he has a difficult time transitioning etc. ultimately we had to take him to a different place and out of that room to get the eval done. He was not happy and wanted to play but we settled him down with a snack and she was able to do the eval. She asked me if I was surprised. I said surprised that a 3 year old wanted to play in a ball pit instead of sitting in a chair? No.
So in answer to you, I agree. I think for your son that is a long day already and honestly being silly etc sounds normal to me especially when it is play based activity. Even if he was cranky, that would be understandable too. Sheesh, don't they put themselves in the kids perspective for a minute and think about that?
Dolphinbaby, What kind of therapy is recommended? What do they think he has if anything? My son has his OT/psych on Nov 10..................so curious how it will play out
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| Posted 11/2/14 10:02 PM |
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Dolphinsbaby
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
Don't quote me exactly because we are waiting on final report and I am trying to remember exactly what they said. The basic gist is both OT and speech were recommended for both (they told us during the evals). OT felt they both needed sensory breaks because they have difficulty transitioning from one activity to another and can't really sit still for too long which she said these sensory breaks will help them.
They both actually speak well, but they recommended speech for processing. One of my twins I think she said has rote processing. Which basically means he has just memorized stuff and is not figuring out things on his own. And the other one is only self-directed. He wouldn't talk to her at all! But he would grab a truck or book and start talking all about it. He wouldn't do her eval and kept throwing the books, etc. So she said he obviously has the skill but it is all self-directed (he does it when he wants) and he has to learn the interactive part.
So we shall see. GL next week.
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| Posted 11/2/14 10:14 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
My DS now gets services at a center based program but when he was getting therapy at home, his therapists would just inform me of what he did in the session, such as, we played x and he reacted to it this way, etc.... I don't think it was meant to say he was bad or anything if he was acting silly, probably just to inform you of what went on during the session.
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
Posted by KarenK122
I think they just tell you that to set expectations on how much work was done during the session. I wouldn't take anything from it.
Personally I think that teachers/therapists hold our kids to higher behavior standards than typical kids and I have/had huge problems with this.
As a behavior consultant I completely agree.
The best thing any therapist can do is get normative data. That means the therapist observes and takes actual data on a group of typical kids that same age so there is a good basis to compare their clients to. I do it all the time. I look at how your average kid same age and gender behaves so I can base my goals accordingly. This way when parents or professionals state what my client is or is not doing, we can have some realism thrown into the mix.
That being said, I don't do as much one to one therapy work anymore (sometimes I do in family trainings) and I might say the child was (crying, silly, a little defiant, etc), but then I say "and here's how I addressed it...." Because the parent then sees it's not a complaint. It's part of the therapy, and therapy doesn't end when I leave. The parent takes on that role and can feel empowered.
I'd ask your therapist what you should do if he acts that way, or what she did to address the silliness. See if he's getting properly reinforced for all of his hard work for her.
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| Posted 11/4/14 9:45 AM |
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nferrandi
too excited for words
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by KarenK122
I think they just tell you that to set expectations on how much work was done during the session. I wouldn't take anything from it.
Personally I think that teachers/therapists hold our kids to higher behavior standards than typical kids and I have/had huge problems with this.
As a behavior consultant I completely agree.
The best thing any therapist can do is get normative data. That means the therapist observes and takes actual data on a group of typical kids that same age so there is a good basis to compare their clients to. I do it all the time. I look at how your average kid same age and gender behaves so I can base my goals accordingly. This way when parents or professionals state what my client is or is not doing, we can have some realism thrown into the mix.
That being said, I don't do as much one to one therapy work anymore (sometimes I do in family trainings) and I might say the child was (crying, silly, a little defiant, etc), but then I say "and here's how I addressed it...." Because the parent then sees it's not a complaint. It's part of the therapy, and therapy doesn't end when I leave. The parent takes on that role and can feel empowered.
I'd ask your therapist what you should do if he acts that way, or what she did to address the silliness. See if he's getting properly reinforced for all of his hard work for her.
She did say this past Monday that he had a hard time settling down for OT because he had PT first. I can totally see that happening since he's playing and doing obstacles in his PT sessions. But I didn't make his schedule- they did. And they aren't able to reverse the order because their schedules are already full.
I get that they're just filling me in, and I love when they tell me what they did in their sessions and what I can work on a home with him. But I can't control or change how the transition goes. I have spoken to DS about it and how he needs to listen to them and pay attention, but he's 4 and once gets caught up in the moment, he just does his own thing.
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Re: What do your therapists say to you after sessions?
Posted by KarenK122
I think they just tell you that to set expectations on how much work was done during the session. I wouldn't take anything from it.
Personally I think that teachers/therapists hold our kids to higher behavior standards than typical kids and I have/had huge problems with this.
You know, that's a good point and I even see it professionally and I work with ADULTS with disabilities (TBI so most were typical, or had issues prior that were exacerbated by their TBI).
Interestingly it's often family though who have the higher standards but I think that generally comes from them wanting their loved one to be like how they were before....
I know I'm slightly off topic but I think this is important to think about when dealing with people who have disabilities.
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