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Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

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RobeyMuse
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

I would love my child and accept them. Gay or Straight.
DH has a gay sibling and I have gay family members.
It is just part of who they are- not all of who they are.

Posted 9/5/06 1:25 PM
 
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Tumbalina
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

My parents love me for who I am. True love.

Posted 9/5/06 1:47 PM
 

neenie

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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

my brother and sister are both gay, and my parents are totally accepting of it- what choice would they have anyway? we're all close with my parents, and my parents wouldnt jeopardize that just because it isnt ideal to them. I know my mother worries more about the ignorance out there and how it may affect them, but as far as their choice of partners- she'd rather them be happy with someone of the same sex than in an unhappy, miserable, or abusive relationship with the opposite sex.

at the same time, its really not something that comes up alot. No one's repressing it, but the same way our conversations dont all revolve around me being straight, they dont revolve around them being gay.

Im proud of my dad though- he's SO Old school... and he didnt even flinch when they told him. he was basically like "gay or straight... its still your turn to do the dishes" Chat Icon

Posted 9/5/06 1:51 PM
 

Lanabean
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

Posted by neeniebean86

he was basically like "gay or straight... its still your turn to do the dishes" Chat Icon




good for them! that's great! what a cute line....

Posted 9/5/06 1:53 PM
 

JenniferEver
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

I would of course accept my children for who they are and embrace our differences. Everyone is special.

I would feel worried about the kind of life they would have to live with all of the homophobia going around, but hopefully I would have raised them to be strong and proud of who they are. Chat Icon

ET: And of course I would accept a partner, and I would have just as much fun planning my child's commitment ceremony as another child's wedding.

Message edited 9/5/2006 2:01:41 PM.

Posted 9/5/06 1:54 PM
 

emilain
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

I would have no issues with it, 3 heads, purple hair, or a spoue of the same sex doesn't change the way I would love or provide support to my child. I would just worry for my child who would have to face the cruelty, ignorance and stupidity of the world.Chat Icon

Posted 9/5/06 1:58 PM
 

~Colleen~
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

Posted by RobeyMuse
It is just part of who they are- not all of who they are.


Excellent point that I think sometimes gets forgotten along the way...

Posted 9/5/06 2:27 PM
 

Maathy317
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

I have two daughters and when they were growing up this conversation came about. I told both of them I couldn't care less what their sexual orientation was; all I wanted for them was that they were happy. They are my children and I love them unconditionally and if they were gay, so be it and I would accept any partner they chose. To me, it's not a big deal. You are what you are and I would not love them one iota less.

Posted 9/5/06 5:52 PM
 

lucyloo
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Message edited 3/4/2013 12:06:08 PM.

Posted 9/5/06 7:20 PM
 

Baboots
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

It wouldn't bother me either. As long as they were happy and heallthy.

Posted 9/5/06 7:26 PM
 

Jesaroo
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

Posted by Colleen9304

I am not a parent but I could not imagine turning my back (ie: not supporting, disowning) on my child b/c they are gay. I certainly wouldn't question myself - thinking it was something me or my husband did to "turn them gay" since I don't believe it's a learned behavior.

A part of me would feel sad about the life they will be living - a life filled with homophobe's and ignorant people - but I hope I would be able to give my child enough strangth to overcome those obstacles.



ditto.

Posted 9/5/06 7:31 PM
 

VirginiaDeb
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

Posted by lilqtny

OMG, did anybody read "The Perks of Being A Wallflower"

This issue came up in that book. The young boy was beaten by his father when his father found him with his "boyfriend".

I don't know how anybody could do that. The person is still your child. I think I would be able to accept it.

I think I have some family that would be hard on them but we'd work through it.



I love that book!

But anyways... I agree with SweetTooth. I would never turn my back on my child and would love any grandchild that he/she brought into this world, but I think I would still be a bit sad about not being able have a wedding, etc.

Though, I hope that by the time I have a child that is old enough to wed that Gay marriage will be legalized.

Posted 9/5/06 7:50 PM
 

DebG
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The cure IS worse!

Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

If the "worst" thing I can say about my child is thay he is gay. Well then, I will be pretty daumn happy!Chat Icon

Posted 9/5/06 7:51 PM
 

missus-hbradio
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

I would absolutely accept it wholeheartedly. One of my sisters is gay and my cousin (passed last year) is gay so I grew up around that lifestyle. I would want my child to be loved and be free to love whoever they want as long as they are happy.

Posted 9/5/06 8:03 PM
 

MissJones
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

My uncle is gay and as his niece, I love him to pieces. He has had a hard life and although my grandfather has difficulties with his sexuality (well, it's not ALL that, he's got other issues on top of being gay), he is still loved immensly and supported tremendously by everyone in the family. He was open pretty much all his life, which made things difficult for his school years. He got more hell from school kids. However, I'd be sad for my own child...not because of him or her being gay, but rather because of all the hate that ignorance comes with. The hatred of others would hurt me as a parent.Chat Icon

Posted 9/5/06 10:11 PM
 

Faithx2
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Re: Sort of parenting but not really: thoughts on having a gay child.

I would completey accept it. My DD has two aunts(that are married) and that's fine by me Chat Icon

Posted 9/6/06 7:50 AM
 
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