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Elbee
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Re: Serious Question

Posted by Redhead
WOW...this is all news to me
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Message edited 11/15/2005 12:13:48 PM.

Posted 11/15/05 12:13 PM
 
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suvenR
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Re: Serious Question

Posted by Shellyesq

I'm sorry you woudl be offended- but if I saw someone who looked like they could harm themselves or others then I would go to the host to make sure they were aware of it and they were doing something about it. When you invite people to a place you are responsible to make sure that they are going to be safe.

If I were the host- I would be very concerned if someone was getting sick- I would want to make sure they were going to be OK and be safe and I woudl make sure they were- even if I had to take them home and tuck them in myself.


I take back part of what I said- when you deal with adults you are also responible for them, but far more so when its a minor.



Right- if you go to the host while it's happening, that's one thing. But, if you were to go straight to a manager, or wait a few days and then call the host on the phone to complain because you assumed that the host didn't do anything about the situation, that's entirely different.

But, it's sounding like we're pretty much on the same track here...

Posted 11/15/05 12:14 PM
 

Redhead
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Re: Serious Question

Posted by Elbee

Posted by Redhead
WOW...this is all news to me
SO people should stop b!tching about why the Brides do not want children at their weddings Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon
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UH OH........bewiere the spelin polize mayde out and allbout

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Posted 11/15/05 12:15 PM
 

nferrandi
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Re: Serious Question

In all fairness, I drank at family parties before I was 21 and my parents were well aware. I did have a problem at one of my cousins bar mitzvahs that they wouldn't serve me and they got pretty ****** that my sister and cousin were getting me drinks.

Posted 11/15/05 12:17 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
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Re: Serious Question

Scroll all the way down to see the legal world drinking age.



Legal Limits

Posted 11/15/05 12:19 PM
 

unknown1
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Re: Serious Question

Posted by LFitzy79

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Posted by LFitzy79

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Posted by LFitzy79

Wow, I'm so in the minority, and I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I've been drinking at family events/parties since I was 14. The rules were no getting obnoxious, and drink out of a glass (my father doesn't like it when girls drink out of beer bottles). I drink more at family parties than I do when I am out with my friends.
My graduation party was in my backyard, with a full bar and two kegs...granted my dad collected keys and then determined at the end of the night who could drive, but I always drank at weddings, and so did all of my cousins.
My friends and I used to drink all the time when we were 16, whether it was at a house party, or at a restaurant that we knew would serve us, or if we chalked our id's to get into bars.....
Was it that you didn't feel comfortable with the teens driving after drinking, or that no one was in charge? Or just the drinking in and of itself?
It's terrible that it upset you so much...I'm just trying to understand why....




OK now this disturbs me how can you control the fact of getting obnoxious you can't .... and unless your farther was a cop and performed a sobriety test he had NO right to determine who gets to drive home... encouraging underage drinking is horrifying to me... IMO please don't take this personal it is just my opinion but I am truly horrified



you can control how much you drink so that you don't get obnoxious, and that's what the rules were-"know your limits".

as for being horrified by my father being the key holder, and determining who was okay to drive-I have to say-it's not encouraging underage drinking to have alcohol available, if a teens parents doesn't let them drink-then that teen knows they aren't allowed, and if they decide to drink it's thier choice. They are old enough to make the determination.

everyone has thier own opinion and that's great, it's when someone fights to make a point that there way is the "right way" that things get sticky.





I am not forcing my issue I am stating my opinion however sticky or not sticky NO minor knows their limit.. at the age of 14 I should know my bedtime not my alcohol limit....
Old Enough ???? I won't go there .. but I am sorry I don't agree



I never said YOU were forcing your issue. And I don't know why are are getting so heated.

Here is my point- we shouldn't be judging someone else's actions, because we are not all-knowing, and there are a million different variables-and NO ABSOLUTES.

If you don't think minors should be drinking in your home, or at your parties-then don't let them. But it's not your place to tell someone else what to do. Another poster said "it's against the law"-and it is, so those that do allow underage drinking know what the consequences are, and it's thier decision.

The whole point behind my original post was that it's not uncommon for high school kids to drink.




"everyone has thier own opinion and that's great, it's when someone fights to make a point that there way is the "right way" that things get sticky. " I am not heated trust me I am just stating my opinion

Posted 11/15/05 12:29 PM
 
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