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Forum Opinion Poll
go to the shower 0 0.00%
send a gift 6 11.76%
RSVP No-dont send a gift 42 82.35%
dont RSVP at all-like she did 3 5.88%
 

Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

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dm24angel
Happiness

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Donna

Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

This is sorta wedding related sorry..

A fiancee of a close friend was invited to my bridal shower. She never RSVP'D and I found out about the shower, so I tried to get in touch with her or her fiaance to see if she was coming about 3 times. Nothing!

Showed at our wedding, had fun, never mentioned it, so neither did I. I didnt care too much in the end, thought it rude, but whatever.

Well I got an invite to HER bridal shower in the mail. We are not very close, and I know I wouldnt feel comfortable going, BUT DH says, send a check of a gift certificate.

My response was WHY? She didnt even RSVP yes or no to mine, why send a gift. I will RSVP no and thats that.

BUT..I feel bad. Im one of those who doesnt really hold grudges, and I know this is silly, but I dont know if I should or should not send something???

Message edited 5/20/2005 3:05:11 PM.

Posted 5/20/05 8:58 AM
 

Tracey
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Tracey - brideinapril

Re: Would you send a gift??

This is just me but - I would send a gift, I know at first I would be all like "well she didn't respond or send anything to me" but I know myself and in the end I would send something.

Posted 5/20/05 9:08 AM
 

Nik09
LIF Adult

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Nikole

Re: Would you send a gift??

You should definitely RSVP. As for a gift if you're not that close I wouldn't send one.

Posted 5/20/05 9:11 AM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

Name:
Donna

Re: Would you send a gift??

I WILL definatly RSVP..Im not like that, I put it on the poll, but I know I will.

Im still torn. I WANNA send a gift, but at the same time, we are trying to get caught up with our finaces etc..ughh..
I probably will...lol

Posted 5/20/05 9:17 AM
 

Redhead
You Live, You Learn

Member since 5/05

31871 total posts

Name:
Jennifer

Re: Would you send a gift??

FM

Posted 5/20/05 9:35 AM
 

Tany
Becoming a different woman

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Tania

Re: Would you send a gift??

Honestly I would rsvp but I wouldn't send anything. mho.

Posted 5/20/05 9:44 AM
 

MrsProfessor
hi

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Re: Would you send a gift??

Etiquette-wise, you're not obligated to send a gift for a shower you don't attend. And since she is not a close friend (and was rude to you) I would not feel guily in skipping this one.

Posted 5/20/05 9:58 AM
 

Christine
2nd verse same as the 1st

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Re: Would you send a gift??

I think you should RSVP, I think it would be holding not to do that but I wouldn't send a gift. It's really not required when you don't attend the shower, esp for people you are not close too.

Posted 5/20/05 9:59 AM
 

nov04libride
big brother <3

Member since 5/05

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Me

Re: Would you send a gift??

I would send something little. A spoon rest. Yeah, a spoon rest.

Posted 5/20/05 10:41 AM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

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Donna

Re: Would you send a gift??

Posted by nov04libride

I would send something little. A spoon rest. Yeah, a spoon rest.



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Maybe I will check her registries and see whats the cheapest gift! ( shes registered at 4 places, gotta be a $2.99 gift in there somewhere!)

Posted 5/20/05 10:57 AM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

Name:
Donna

Re: Would you send a gift??

HEr spoon rest is $14.99!!

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She registered for 3 complete different bath rooms sets...3 different styles and colors...ITs like $800 worth of bathroom stuff. They live in an apt with 1 bathroom?? Chat Icon

AND registered for...ready...8 placemats in 8 different styles...Im not kidding, so its about $400 worth of PLACEMATS?!?!?!?

And it gets better
2 coffee makers
2 VACUUMS!! ( again apt with 1 rug?)
4 Comforter sets
2 blenders( over $100 each)

Its like 3 peole registries in one? Chat Icon

Posted 5/20/05 11:05 AM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

Name:
Donna

Re: Would you send a gift??

OMG-
I have to keep telling you this..someone needs to explain how a registry works for this girl!

Im onto registry # 3 and there is 2 MORE VACUUMS!!!

4 VACUUMS in total

and two more different colored bathrooms sets...so 6 bathrooms sets in total??????

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Posted 5/20/05 11:08 AM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

Name:
Donna

Re: Would you send a gift??

Final outcome of searching registries shows:

5 ( YES FIVE!) Vaccuums
8 ( YES 8!) different bathroom towel.rug/dispenser sets
3 Coffee pots
2 microwaves
4 Comforter sets
4 different place sets
and all together 64 place mats ( 64!!!!!!!)

I feel kinda bad, I do not think she understand the whole registry thing at ALL..and maybe didint understand what RSVP meant considering she registered for 5 vaccuums????Chat Icon

Posted 5/20/05 11:13 AM
 

MrsProfessor
hi

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Re: Would you send a gift??

Maybe she is planning to open a home for wayward teenage girls and wants them to live in style (and earn their keep by vacuuming and ironing placemats!)

Posted 5/20/05 11:54 AM
 

dee7772
My Loves

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Re: Would you send a gift??

Posted by MrsProfessor

Maybe she is planning to open a home for wayward teenage girls and wants them to live in style (and earn their keep by vacuuming and ironing placemats!)



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Posted 5/20/05 12:47 PM
 

dm24angel
Happiness

Member since 5/05

34581 total posts

Name:
Donna

Re: Would you send a gift??

Posted by MrsProfessor

Maybe she is planning to open a home for wayward teenage girls and wants them to live in style (and earn their keep by vacuuming and ironing placemats!)


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THATS IT!

Posted 5/20/05 2:59 PM
 

MrsJ
I love my Katie Bug

Member since 5/05

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Kathy

Re: Would you send a gift??

I would RSVP no and not send a gift.

Posted 5/20/05 3:02 PM
 

tourist

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Re: Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

I'd send her bags for all her vacuums.

Posted 5/20/05 3:36 PM
 

june262004
But I love the Snow!

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Kristin

Re: Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

Posted by tourist

I'd send her bags for all her vacuums.





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Posted 5/20/05 3:42 PM
 

Disneygirl
Disney cruise bound!

Member since 5/05

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D

Re: Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

I would send her dirt so she can have some fun w/her 5 vacuums.

Posted 5/20/05 3:46 PM
 

Tracey
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6297 total posts

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Tracey - brideinapril

Re: Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

Posted by dm24angel

Posted by MrsProfessor

Maybe she is planning to open a home for wayward teenage girls and wants them to live in style (and earn their keep by vacuuming and ironing placemats!)


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THATS IT!



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Posted 5/20/05 3:46 PM
 

Sassyz75
Turning a new page

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Dina

Re: Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

Posted by dm24angel

Final outcome of searching registries shows:

5 ( YES FIVE!) Vaccuums
8 ( YES 8!) different bathroom towel.rug/dispenser sets
3 Coffee pots
2 microwaves
4 Comforter sets
4 different place sets
and all together 64 place mats ( 64!!!!!!!)

I feel kinda bad, I do not think she understand the whole registry thing at ALL..and maybe didint understand what RSVP meant considering she registered for 5 vaccuums????Chat Icon



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Posted 5/20/05 4:01 PM
 

BabyAvocado
Happy New Year

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Re: Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

Posted by dm24angel

Final outcome of searching registries shows:

5 ( YES FIVE!) Vaccuums
8 ( YES 8!) different bathroom towel.rug/dispenser sets
3 Coffee pots
2 microwaves
4 Comforter sets
4 different place sets
and all together 64 place mats ( 64!!!!!!!)

I feel kinda bad, I do not think she understand the whole registry thing at ALL..and maybe didint understand what RSVP meant considering she registered for 5 vaccuums????Chat Icon



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If she got you a gift I would not RSVP at all but send a gift. Like the coffee filters for all her coffee makers. That should be about $2.99, right?

Posted 5/20/05 4:22 PM
 

TAD
LIF Adult

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Terri

Re: Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

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I would just get her the cheapest coffee pot she registered for so she or anyone else cannt say you didnt look at her registry. you did and got what she wanted or at least registered for.

Posted 5/20/05 4:23 PM
 

BabyAvocado
Happy New Year

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Re: Would you send a gift?? (updated! CHECK OUT WHAT they registered for!)

Does she realize that she is probably going to get everyone of those coffee makers? TWICE?

Posted 5/20/05 4:32 PM
 
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