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Jessica
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Dumb question about wedding RSVP
So today I received my cousin's wedding invitation in the mail. Within a couple of minutes, I filled out the RSVP and mailed it out since I was going out anyway to do errands.
My mother said that it looked horrible and pathetic that I send my RSVP too early. She said it looked like I was aching to go to the wedding. So now she's not going to send the RSVP till the day its due.
I'm not married and have no idea about wedding etiquette, but I always send the RSVP early because I thought that is what the bride wanted and she's already stressed enough.
Who's right, my mother or I?
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MRSE
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
I would say you......I know I send all mine out right away, and I know from experience that I was annoyed with all the straglers.....
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| Posted 2/23/06 4:56 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
IMO I don't see anything wrong with it.
I got so excited when my first response came in.
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| Posted 2/23/06 4:56 PM |
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Shanti
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
Posted by Jessica
So today I received my cousin's wedding invitation in the mail. Within a couple of minutes, I filled out the RSVP and mailed it out since I was going out anyway to do errands.
My mother said that it looked horrible and pathetic that I send my RSVP too early. She said it looked like I was aching to go to the wedding. So now she's not going to send the RSVP till the day its due.
I'm not married and have no idea about wedding etiquette, but I always send the RSVP early because I thought that is what the bride wanted and she's already stressed enough.
Who's right, my mother or I?
I do what you do, and as a bride, I appreciated early responses!
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| Posted 2/23/06 4:56 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
as a former bride
EARLIER the BETTER!
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skprmiss
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
Send it when you get it...plus you could write something like...can't wait or with bells on...
one less thing to remember plus it's exciting to get!!!
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| Posted 2/23/06 4:57 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
If anything, your cousin will be excited that you are looking forward to her wedding too.
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MrsS2005
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
You're right. I'd rather get the responses all within the first few days and know the head count. It doesn't look desperate at all. Most people appreciate prompt responses.
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| Posted 2/23/06 4:57 PM |
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Marcie
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
I think the bride will appreciate your early response. Honestly, I didn't like when people responsed later 
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| Posted 2/23/06 4:58 PM |
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Eva Luna
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
Posted by Redhead
as a former bride
EARLIER the BETTER!
For real. Your mom is the kind of person brides hate!! 
You on the other hand, brides love!!  And it shows that you are happy to be invited and anxious...nothing negative!! 
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| Posted 2/23/06 4:58 PM |
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Jessica
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
I KNEW I WAS RIGHT!!!!
My whole family are either very late reponderss or don't respond at all because they think it's assumed.
Wow, I can't wait till I get married
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| Posted 2/23/06 5:09 PM |
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oneday
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
Definately earlier the better!!! B/f my wedding, I was one of those awful people who waited till the last minute- not because I was on the fence about going (and most of the people knew I was coming anyway) but just cause I would forget. Once I was the bride, I realized how much I s*cked! So, now I try to send them out right away. I LOVED getting some of my responses 2 days after I mailed them out!! It was such a happy feeling!!!
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| Posted 2/23/06 5:09 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
No, you are right. I was so happy when I got early responses
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| Posted 2/23/06 5:11 PM |
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Bri
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
Nothing is wrong with that at all . . .
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| Posted 2/23/06 5:14 PM |
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capricorn75
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
I'd be willing to bet that the bride has a couple of other things on her mind rather than "hmm...this response is early, they must be over-eager to come to my wedding, what losers." 
I always send them right back out. I don't think it's pathetic, I think it's thoughtful.
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| Posted 2/23/06 5:16 PM |
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skew
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
not to be rude but your mom is flattering herself to think that the bride would analyze when she receives an RSVP. all we care about is that we receive the replies and not have to resort to calling the guests.
Message edited 2/23/2006 5:34:00 PM.
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pinky
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
i always send it in right away.
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| Posted 2/23/06 5:38 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
Your mom is way off base on this one!
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| Posted 2/23/06 5:43 PM |
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MissJones
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
I love sending them back right away and I write something on them, too! It was the highlight of my day when the mail came!
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| Posted 2/23/06 5:57 PM |
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YOU ARE CORRECT!
I am sure your cousin will be elated to receive it early! Trust me!
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| Posted 2/23/06 7:40 PM |
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oakslady
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
you are - why whait if you know if you are comming - your mom is totally wrong why wait till the last min?
that makes no sense
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| Posted 2/25/06 1:11 PM |
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julz33
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
Posted by Redhead
as a former bride
EARLIER the BETTER!
ditto
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| Posted 2/25/06 1:32 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
I always send RSVPs out right away b/c i know how exciting it is for the bride and groom when the responses start coming in. You are definitely right here!
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
I would say to send it as soon as you know you're definitely going. My friends & I used to try to get ours in first.
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wowcoulditbe
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Re: Dumb question about wedding RSVP
i was excited to see who was coming and wanted to know....i think you were right on!
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