What should i do csection vs normal delivery

OB and high risk both think i would benifit from csection due the pelvic separation and pain that i have been going through. They just think it could get worse with delivery. Part of me wants to try normal delivery first. THen baby C started having some decels with contractions on last nst so now makes me wonder. I know the answer is staring me in the face i am just terrified of surgery, spinals and all. I have never had anything like this before in my life. Yes im the nurse i know i should be fine but i am still the biggest baby. I just have to give dr. h answer by this week. Thanks again ladies.

Re: What should i do csection vs normal delivery

I am generally a big fan of trying to go naturally first, but if there is a medical condition that warrants a c-section, then go for the c. From the discussions I have had with my Dr and a nurse who has first hand experience, laboring and pushing then having a c-section can make for a tougher recovery.

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In my opinion if there is any question of risk, I would rather go with the c-section. I had a c-section with my ds, so when it was time to deliever dd my doctor gave me the option. I opted for a c-section. Yes it is surgery and there are risks, but I feel the situation is more controlled with surgery than with a natural delivery or at least it was with my situation.
I just had a c-section 6 weeks ago. I was terrified of the spinal....it wasn't bad AT ALL. The surgery was not painful, you just feel a lot of weird sensations.
Good luck with what you choose!

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I agree, if there is any risk, i would go with the C to be safe.

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I think you should do what the Dr. reccomends and whats safest for your baby.
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Now come on date twin.....you and I both know that if both the high risk OB and your regular OB think a C-section will be better, than you really should listen to them! Especially if baby C is already having decels with your contractions!!!

I'm sure you probably just need our reassurance to help you make the choice, but I think you already know the answer to your question. From what I've heard and read, "trying" a normal delivery prior to getting an "emergency" section makes for a MUCH worse recovery for the mom.....and it sounds like it may place your baby in jeopardy too? So, although you may be a "big baby", you're just going to have to focus on the end results---have a good focal point when they put in the epidural and start the section, and you'll make it through just fine. Put together a little photo montage of your sonos or you and DH together and focus on the pics with some relaxing music playing in the background......maybe that'll help calm your fears and make all the "bad stuff' going on around you a little easier to handle.

AND---you'll get to pick his birthday! How special is that? Best of luck with your decision! I'm sure it's a tough one....but I know you'll make the best choice for you and baby C.

Lots of from your date twin.

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I had a scheduled c-section. Before that the only surgery I ever had was my wisdom teeth.

My dr recommended a c-section because I had a 10lb baby and never progressed on my own.

I dont know if its just me but I will say that all my friends who have had scheduled c-sections had very smooth recoveries. I left the hospital on the 3rd day, but even my dr said I looked like I could leave a day earlier than that.

As for the scariness of hte procedure, for me the worst was having to make the decision to have a c-section. I cried for 2 days, once the decision was made I felt great knowing that my little one was coming. I slept great the night before he was born as well. The spinal was nothing, to me the IV hurt more than the spinal. The L&D nurses are great, so helpful and supportive.

Whatever you choose, do what you feel is best for you and your LO. And know in the end the only thing that will matter is holding that little person in your arms. Every once in awhile I think what if I didnt go the c/s route...but then I realize there is no prize for delivering vaginally, there are no guarantees to have an "easier" recovery, in the end i have a perfect healthy baby and that is all that matters!

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You should discuss the risks for both deliveries- a c/section has risks as well. Talk about future births and how this decision will effect those as well.
You should also do some research on your own and make the decision that is best for you and your baby. You can ask to try natural labor for a time and see how things progress.

Some things you may want to ask about:
-Will your arms be tired down? In some hospitals that is standard and in some it is not. I refused to allow it and I am glad I did. I was able to touch my baby and with a bit of help I nursed her in the delivery room.

-How long will the baby be away from you (baring any unforeseen medical situation)? So stupid but I never asked the question and I was not allowed to have my baby in recovery. I regret not demanding that.

-What type of pain medication will you be given? Discuss all options and how they can effect your breast milk, if you plan on nursing.

-You will want a lactation consultant to assist you a few hours after delivery. Nursing with a c/s has a few challenges. You may want a professional to assist you.

-Bring you own pillow and towels. The hospital ones are awful and very uncomfortable. Also, you a pillow between your seat belt and your incision. Trust me...bumps in the road can hurt but the pillow really helps.

-Discuss photos in the OR with your husband and OB. For me (again, my situation may be very different) those photos are very not happy memories. I found them very disturbing. For others, they love to have them.

- remember it is OKAY not to want a c/s. So often I was made to feel awful about my feelings about a c/s. It is okay NOT to be happy about it. It is a major surgery, not a fun day at the park. Holding a happy, healthy baby is what all parents want. But you can also be upset or have a difficult time pairing that with a surgery.

- for me, the hardest part was being shuffled around without knowing what exactly was happening next. I wish I had not allowed that. Also, seeing medical instruments in the OR..I was NOT prepared for that or the fear they put in it. Talk to your doctor and ask for a step by step of what will happen and what you should expect. Ask what you will see, what you will hear etc...that can help prepare you.

-And remember if you need anything please feel free to ask me.

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I think that the most important thing is your health and the health of your baby. If your drs are both recommending the cesarean, I personally would go ahead with it.

Part of the issue, I think, is your reference of cesarean v. normal birth. It is neither "normal" nor "natural" - the word is simply vaginal. Normal is any way you give birth; natural is without drugs. I think once you get past the stigma you have about it, you'll be ok with the dr's recommendations.

Message edited 1/3/2009 11:47:25 PM.

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i have to say that i had that p ain also during the last 2 1/2 months; but i did not feel it at all during labor or pushing

actually, as soon as baby was born, all of those pains went away

oh and i totally agree with kelly
my IV hurt WAY more than the epidural

Message edited 1/4/2009 4:09:27 AM.