What should I do with this besides throw it at DH?

I will preface this by saying I am aware of what an ungrateful, rotten B I sound like so no need to reprimand me.

Despite my showing DH the exact mother's necklace I wanted -the ONLY thing I asked for - which cost a grand total of $30, he decided to go rogue and get a charm necklace from Things Remembered and it cost WAY more than $30. If DH chose to go rogue, he should have either a. upgraded to something with diamonds or b. made sure it came in a little blue box. That would be the only way to prevent the hissy fit that ensued on Christmas night.

Of course he can't return it because it was engraved. Oh and to just continue my rant for a minute he had it engraved "Ds's first name, middle name, LAST NAME". Who puts a last name on a mother's necklace?! This is my one and only kid and I'm 100% on who the baby daddy is thank you very much. No need to clarify via necklace who we are referring to.

He was able to return the chain but now I have an engraved heart with an additional charm heart, a charm cross and a charm anchor on it. What am I supposed to do with that? I don't want to just shove it in my jewelry box because every time I see it laying in there it will p iss me off that he spent so much money on something so stupid so I feel like I need to make use of it to keep my blood pressure at a regular level. Make it into a key chain? Any ideas?

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I am trying reallly hard not to reprimand you, because you do sound like a brat

I would make it into a keychain, if anything. And just remember- it's the thought that counts.

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A keychain is a good idea...but I dont know if you should have a last name on keys.

Charm bracelet or watch? I have a charm watch from coach that I love

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You could prob do a charm bracelet like a PP said.

I know you don't want to be reprimanded, but if I were your DH you would never receive another gift from me unless it had to do with dog $hit cause it seems like he put thought into it and you made him feel like $hit.

For $30 go and get it yourself and feel lucky that he put any kind of thought and time into a gift

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Posted by JennyPenny

I am trying reallly hard not to reprimand you, because you do sound like a brat

I would make it into a keychain, if anything. And just remember- it's the thought that counts.

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Posted by PennyJ923

You could prob do a charm bracelet like a PP said.

I know you don't want to be reprimanded, but if I were your DH you would never receive another gift from me unless it had to do with dog $hit cause it seems like he put thought into it and you made him feel like $hit.

For $30 go and get it yourself and feel lucky that he put any kind of thought and time into a gift

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Vent away girl!
That's what we're here for. Sometimes it's easier to call a girlfriend to talk or vent on LIF. Better than yelling at DH when he was trying.
I do it too. DH helps with a lot, but if something is wrong or he gets lazy (even though he's terrific 99% of the time) we're allowed to complain about the 1%

Like the PP's said. His heart was in the right place. Get yourself the $30 gift for yourself.
Don't do anything with the necklace till you've calmed down and ready to look at it again. Put it away and take it out when you find the perfect keychain or bracelet to put it on.
Maybe have DS make an art project in the future for you, frame it and have the chain hang from it

ETA - from now on get your own gift, wrap it and say it's from him.
My DH does that when we do secret Santa with his family. He wants something then gets it. Whoever has him just gives him the check for what the SS amount was

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Posted by FirstMate

Posted by PennyJ923

You could prob do a charm bracelet like a PP said.

I know you don't want to be reprimanded, but if I were your DH you would never receive another gift from me unless it had to do with dog $hit cause it seems like he put thought into it and you made him feel like $hit.

For $30 go and get it yourself and feel lucky that he put any kind of thought and time into a gift

I know, I know - I sound horrible. I realize that. I actually think he said some of the exact things you just said. LOL

This is just an annoying ongoing thing. Every year he begs me for gift ideas because he doesn't want to be bothered with actually thinking about it. This year I actually showed him the exact thing I wanted and he just did what he wanted because going to Things Remembered was easier and convenient for him. Why harass me about it then? He should just do what he was going to do anyway. I don't get it. If he tells me what he wants, I go buy it. I don't set him up to be disappointed although he hated his sneakers and made no secret of that. We are a match made in gift giving he ll I guess. LOL

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Can you get the last name buffed off and make it a keychain or anything for that matter

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Posted by FirstMate

Posted by PennyJ923

You could prob do a charm bracelet like a PP said.

I know you don't want to be reprimanded, but if I were your DH you would never receive another gift from me unless it had to do with dog $hit cause it seems like he put thought into it and you made him feel like $hit.

For $30 go and get it yourself and feel lucky that he put any kind of thought and time into a gift

I know, I know - I sound horrible. I realize that. I actually think he said some of the exact things you just said. LOL

This is just an annoying ongoing thing. Every year he begs me for gift ideas because he doesn't want to be bothered with actually thinking about it. This year I actually showed him the exact thing I wanted and he just did what he wanted because going to Things Remembered was easier and convenient for him. Why harass me about it then? He should just do what he was going to do anyway. I don't get it. If he tells me what he wants, I go buy it. I don't set him up to be disappointed although he hated his sneakers and made no secret of that. We are a match made in gift giving he ll I guess. LOL

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No reprimanding here. I busted out crying on Mother's Day when I realized that all DH bought me were flowers. I know some would love getting flowers, but it was my first mother's day (I was extremely hormonal) and well, he gets me flowers a few times a month (I know, I'm lucky) so it didn't feel so special. I felt like a brat. He felt like s&it. All in all, it was a good time.
Yes, its the thought that counts, but sometimes we can't help but get disappointed. My father used to say, "never expect anything and you won't be disappointed," but my mother is quick to add that he was often disappointed by people.

Anyway, on to your gift. I'd probably make it into a bracelet. I'm not big on traditional-type charm bracelets and such. I have a Pandora (not from DH) that I almost never wear. I'd do something like this...a stack of bangles with a little charm(s). Kind of trendy, but you're also wearing the charm.

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My DH did the same exact thing. He actually got me exactly what I DIDN'T want and specifically told him I didn't want. But he was SO excited that he picked it out and he thought it was perfect. The smile on his face when he gave it to me in the hospital was priceless. So I have worn it simply for the meaning behind it. And we agreed I would buy the necklace I really wanted, which I of course haven't had a chance to do yet.

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oh i hear ya! Last christmas i gave dh the website with the exact neckeless i wanted and how i wanted it to say dd 1st name and birthday. Well come xmas morning im all excitied to open my neckless untill i see it. I wanted to cry it wasnt the exact one i wanted similar but not the one. AND instead of having dd name and bday he had them write Best Mommy... (gag) i was soo mad/sad i kept it in the box for a while but then started feeling bad so ive been wearing it now but im dying for a new one the one i WANTED in the 1st place..
UGH MEN!!! lol

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Make a keychain for DH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...or MIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Go get the one you want. Its a very personal choice and since he did ask you and did tell him, he should have obliged.

If he asked for a golf club would you get a different one just b/c? NO!

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No reprimand here! It irks me to no end when I have to deal with something like that, which is often, LOL.

How about putting a few momentos/pictures and the charm in a shadow box in your bedroom or the baby's? I wouldn't want the baby's WHOLE name out there on something where it might get lost.

Men!

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It's better than getting nothing. DH and I bought ourselves our own gifts this year. But I can't complain... I got exactly what I wanted.

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keychain .. as you beat it up, feel better LOL

Melt it down?

Have the engraved heart removed and use the other two? Not really seeing in my mind what it looks like.

Keep it and give it to your FDIL on her wedding day? So she remembers who he is too? (along with the story of course) - sorry.. had to

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Posted by Xelindrya

keychain .. as you beat it up, feel better LOL

Melt it down?

Have the engraved heart removed and use the other two? Not really seeing in my mind what it looks like.

Keep it and give it to your FDIL on her wedding day? So she remembers who he is too? (along with the story of course) - sorry.. had to

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Posted by FirstMate

Posted by MayBbaby21

That's a good idea! I like that! And yes, I'm already dreading my 1st Mother's Day

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Posted by FreeButterfly

Make a keychain for DH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...or MIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Go get the one you want. Its a very personal choice and since he did ask you and did tell him, he should have obliged.

If he asked for a golf club would you get a different one just b/c? NO!

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don't sound like a B*tch at all... you told him what you wanted and clearly he didn't listen.

but the again how many DHs do?

can you make it into a christmas ornament?

this way it only comes out once a year. maybe have the year engraved and then 20 years down the line, you will be able to tell the story and laugh.

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Posted by AJandCJsMommy

don't sound like a B*tch at all... you told him what you wanted and clearly he didn't listen.

but the again how many DHs do?

can you make it into a christmas ornament?

this way it only comes out once a year. maybe have the year engraved and then 20 years down the line, you will be able to tell the story and laugh.

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I think you should share a picture with us so that we have a better idea of what you are working with!

Next time just ask him for his credit card!!