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maiden
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What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
I was at a playdate with several babies. DD is 7 months old. She was sitting and playing with her toy. She doesn't walk or crawl.
All of the sudden, another baby crawls up to her and steals her toy and starts playing with it. My daughter looked so upset and shocked. I didn't know what to do, so I just gave my daughter another toy to play with. I felt really badly b/c I don't want my daughter to think someone can just take her things and its ok. I know this is a very typical occurance, but I just felt at such a loss. I don't think that the other baby's mother was around.
What should I have done?
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Posted 12/18/09 4:11 PM  |
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mirla122
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
i think you did the right thing. IMO it's no big deal. And your daughter can learn to share. I bring DS to the library's free play time and they all do that.
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| Posted 12/18/09 4:19 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
I think at that age, its no big deal and you did the right thing.
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| Posted 12/18/09 4:21 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
I think you did the right thing. At that young of an age, they don't really understand they are being mean by taking a toy, they just want the toy.
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| Posted 12/18/09 4:22 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
you did the right thing. it's going to happen a lot LOL happens to my DS now at 15 months he fights for his toy like it's the last one on Earth
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| Posted 12/18/09 5:05 PM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
You did the right thing, distraction is a great tool!
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| Posted 12/18/09 5:23 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
My DC take toys from each other all the time. They either try to take it back or go to another toy. At this age, they don't understand sharing. I think you did the right thing.
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| Posted 12/18/09 5:49 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
Exactly what you did. The children are 7 months old. They have many yrs before they need to learn the lessons of life.
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| Posted 12/18/09 5:53 PM |
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maiden
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
Thanks. So at what age is it a concern? I once saw a mom at playdate with her son, about 17 months, and other kids were taking his toy. The mom said "That's ok, let them have it" and gave her son another toy.
But when her son took another child's toy, she said "Thats not nice" and took the toy away from her son and gave it back to other child. It felt like the child was learning its ok to have things taken away from him.
Is this so? Is the toddler learning that it is ok to have things taken from him at 17 months? What age does this issue get addressed?
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| Posted 12/19/09 12:32 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
You did the right thing. I'm big on not fighting all of their battles for them...even as young as your daughter's age. They learn and at some point she will be upset enough to either hold on tight or take it back...end soon she will take other children's toys. As they get older you'll find yourself stepping in to teach the leassons of sharing but for the most part I say stand back and let her handle it.
Hard though...we want to protect them and keep that smile on their faces 
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| Posted 12/19/09 6:37 AM |
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KangaMom
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
We would have done the same as the Mom, not make a big deal out of their toy being taken even though it isn't very nice at any age... Also if our DC took someone elses toy we would have done what that Mom did and given it back and say it wasn't nice to do that...
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| Posted 12/19/09 8:07 AM |
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sunny
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
I think you did the right thing at that age. I used to do the same. As dd got older I used to whisper to her that she was such a good sharer, and it isn't nice to take other peoples toys.
I always want to yell at other peoples kids but never do.
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| Posted 12/19/09 9:11 AM |
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maiden
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
Posted by Ang-Rich
Hard though...we want to protect them and keep that smile on their faces
So very very true.
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| Posted 12/19/09 9:29 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: What should I have done? - Child takes toy from DD
Posted by KangaMom
We would have done the same as the Mom, not make a big deal out of their toy being taken even though it isn't very nice at any age... Also if our DC took someone elses toy we would have done what that Mom did and given it back and say it wasn't nice to do that...
I agree with this (for the second scenario)
If someone takes a toy from my DS (2.5) I will tell him it is ok, and to play with something else, mainly because it isn't my place to tell someone else's child to give the toy back and as an adult, I won't take a toy away from another child.
If I see my child take a toy that another child is clearly playing with, then I will go and tell him that it isn't his turn yet, but as soon as the other child is done, he can take it.
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| Posted 12/19/09 9:35 AM |
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