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NiyNiy
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What to do for a friend that miscarried....
Not sure where to post this, but I have a friend who just lost her baby. She was about 5.5 months pregnant. My husband and i want to do something for them. But we are not sure what to do. Do you ladies have any suggestions. We feel so badly for them. They will have a memorial service for the baby as well.
Any suggestions are welcomed. TIA.
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Posted 1/16/12 10:10 AM  |
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Melissa1013
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
I lost my son at 21w5d. We were in such a fog b/c it was so sudden. Looking back I appreciated people just letting us know they were there for us. A nice card with simply "I'm sorry" or "if you need to talk" will go a long way.
You can also make a donation in her childs name to the March of Dimes. We did that for my son and it made me feel so good to see how much $ was donated.
You can FM me if you'd like. I've got some more suggestions and can recommend some on-line resources.
I'm so sorry for your friend.
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| Posted 1/16/12 10:27 AM |
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lyss4525
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
I am recently dealing with this (as the friend). I made her some comfort food - she didn't want visitors, so her husband picked it up. A phone call and a tray of homemade mac and cheese went a long way :)
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| Posted 1/16/12 10:39 AM |
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Crunchewy
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
My friend lost her baby during a birth and at the time I just made sure I was there whenever she needed me. If your friend has other kids you may offer to watch them for a few days.
We also got her one of those "mommy necklaces" with baby's name and little wings on it. (in Loving Memory)
Example
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| Posted 1/16/12 10:39 AM |
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Melissa1013
My sweet boy
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Melissa
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
Yes! Anything with the baby's name on it...I love seeing my son's name on things.
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| Posted 1/16/12 10:49 AM |
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beachgirl
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sara
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
I am so sorry for your friends loss I would say a nice card and just let her know you are there for her and check in on her with a quick text when the dust has settled in everyone else have moved on. I really appreciated anyone who asked me how I was doing weeks after my miscarriage - when your life is standing still in a sea of sadness and the world seems to have moved on regardless its nice when someone takes the time so ask how you are doing.
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| Posted 1/16/12 11:06 AM |
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neener1211
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
I am so sorry for your friend's loss.
We received plants, flowers and cards. They all meant so much, just knowing that people were there for us.
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| Posted 1/16/12 11:08 AM |
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NiyNiy
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
Thank you all. These are great ideas. I'm so sorry for all of your losses. Its hard to know what to do as the friend, because you don’t want to say/do the wrong thing and we are heart broken for them.
Thanks again!
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| Posted 1/16/12 11:17 AM |
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OffWithHerHead23
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
This is a wonderful website for jewelery....
La Belle Dame
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| Posted 1/16/12 11:24 AM |
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NYchic
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
I would probably just send flowers or maybe even get your friend a gift card for a massage somewhere...something she can use in the future to go unwind and try to relax a bit.
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| Posted 1/16/12 7:59 PM |
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lynnd126
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
Posted by NYchic
I would probably just send flowers or maybe even get your friend a gift card for a massage somewhere...something she can use in the future to go unwind and try to relax a bit.
Not trying to start drama but I would be annoyed at a gc for a massage. I would rather just a card or the march of dimes donation. Even the comfort food bc during such a horrible time you still have to eat and might not want to deal with dinner. The massage is like a luxury and although I get that it could be used months down the line it's something that I would feel sad about. I'm not explaining myself right exactly but I think it's distasteful even though the sender obviously meant well.
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TwinDani
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
I am sorry to hear about you friends loss. I like the idea of a piece of jewelry with the babies name on it. I think I would appreciate a card and just knowing people are thinking of me and there for me.
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| Posted 1/16/12 9:58 PM |
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NYchic
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by NYchic
I would probably just send flowers or maybe even get your friend a gift card for a massage somewhere...something she can use in the future to go unwind and try to relax a bit.
Not trying to start drama but I would be annoyed at a gc for a massage. I would rather just a card or the march of dimes donation. Even the comfort food bc during such a horrible time you still have to eat and might not want to deal with dinner. The massage is like a luxury and although I get that it could be used months down the line it's something that I would feel sad about. I'm not explaining myself right exactly but I think it's distasteful even though the sender obviously meant well.
yeah everyone is different. A friend gave me one after my m/c and it was exactly what I needed. Didn't use it for a few months but I was SO happy that I had that to look forward to. I definitely did not find it distasteful in the slightest.
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MrsRivera
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Re: What to do for a friend that miscarried....
I would cook them a casserole, buy some bread, some dessert, and take the burden of cooking dinner off of them for a few nights. I'm so sorry to hear
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