What went wrong on your wedding day?

Dh's appendix burst on ours!! Luckily our honeymoon was not right after. We walked into the ER @ 11:30 pm that night!! We stopped home to change into sweats.
DH couldn't eat at our wedding & was in so much pain most of the night but kept it to himself so I wouldn't get upset. He looks happy in our pics. I think we will re-new our vows in a couple of years as an excuses to re-do our wedding.

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I am so sorry this happened on your wedding day. The important thing is that your DH is okay.

A lot went wrong on my wedding day but it's nothing compared to what your went through.

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hiii Jess!

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I'm so sorry for you and especially DH that he was so sick! But I'm glad he's okay.

For me, besides the regular nonsense of flowers being wrong and limo not knowing where it was going, DH's grandfather was LOUDLY complaining that the ceremony wasn't in a church during the ceremony itslef. A few people approached him to tell him to keep quiet. Then my uncle asked him to lower his voice and GF cursed at him. Then there was a dust up at the reception when GF approached my uncle and tried to start a fight.

Besides the talking during the ceremony I didn't really know what was going on thankfully or I would have gotten into the fray and started yelling at GF myself. There were hints leading up to the wedding that he would misbehave based on his comments (like threatening to disown DH if he married me) and if I had gotten wind of his behavior, I would have completely lost my temper.

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Wow, I'm glad your DH is ok. Our problems weren't as bad as yours but here are some:

-Band never showed up for ceremony(yep, walked down the aisle without music)
-no one knew how to tie my dress so wasn't buttoned correctly
-Stepped on my dress creating gaping hole right after ceremony, & spilled wine all over it
-In laws were so rude to me that I will most likely never forgive them
-limo did not show up, had to drive in minivan(yes we confirmed limo the day before)
-BM refused to wear dress
-forgot to wear garter, jewelry
-friends had screaming match on the dance floor
-worst one for me: when FH(at that time lol) was supposed to see me for the first time in my dress, everyone stood waiting for his reaction and to take pics-he didn't realize what was going on and instead of kissing me he yelled at me for having the wrong flowers in my hand

There is more but this is what I can think of right now.

I agree that renewal of vows will be a great idea!

Message edited 8/24/2009 11:28:29 AM.

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Nothing health-related, thank God, but a few snags/annoyances:

- our priest, in the middle of our ceremony, decided to have DH and I discuss the way we communicate when we have a disagreement... in front of the entire church!! We were so taken aback that we were both speechless when he shoved the mic in our faces. I was SO embarrassed and gave him the evil eye the rest of the time.
Oh, and he never pronounced us husband & wife, and didn't tell us to kiss. So when we did, it ended up looking rushed and awkward.

- the BM and mothers' bouquets were not the way I wanted them AT ALL

- the limo did not show up at the end of the reception to take DH and I (and my parents!) home. We had to call and then wait for an extra hour at the RH. They claimed it was not on our contract. Do not even GET me started on that!!

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Wow..sorry about your DH

The weather was horrible..POURING when we left for the church. The pics of me leaving the house & arriving @ church all have me holding my dress up, crinolin hanging out and all

We were severely behind schedule, so never got to take pics of me & my dress.

Thankfully, not much else went wrong

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Sorry to hear about your DH getting sick. Glad hes OK.

What went wrong on ours
- I should have listened to myself and not ask my brother to walk me down the aisle. I did it cause my parents who have passed, would have wanted that. My wedding was a total inconvenience to him and he looked bored. My brother sat with the groomsmen when he wasn't part of our wedding party, stood on the receiving line; never congratulated DH & I; never said good night after the reception. He's no kid. He also He was 46 at the time. That was my only regret of the day-we no longer speak (other reasons too).
-The priest did not follow the sequence of the program and said weird things, i.e. when he was supposed to say, let us pray for those who are no longer here instead of saying my parent's names he said "Joyce's mommy & daddy.
-The priest had a public prayer service before my ceremony and refused to allow anyone in the church early.
-The priest had a large projector screen on a stand in the corner of front of the church which is used to encourage the public to sing at mass (my brother new of this and should have reminded the church)
-The florist screwed up all my flowers, didn't follow my directions and gave me what I didn't ask for in colors. 1/2 my Boquet was dead by the time I walked into the church.
-The cake looked different thanit was supposed to.

Despite those things-it was still a wonderful day.

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Posted by Dee0522

Nothing health-related, thank God, but a few snags/annoyances:

- our priest, in the middle of our ceremony, decided to have DH and I discuss the way we communicate when we have a disagreement... in front of the entire church!! We were so taken aback that we were both speechless when he shoved the mic in our faces. I was SO embarrassed and gave him the evil eye the rest of the time.
Oh, and he never pronounced us husband & wife, and didn't tell us to kiss. So when we did, it ended up looking rushed and awkward.

- the BM and mothers' bouquets were not the way I wanted them AT ALL

Sorry to hear about this. Sounds like we had the same wierdo priest. My florist screwed up big time too.

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Its wasn't ON our wedding day but we had a destination wedding in St Lucia.

The Hubs grandma (whom he is VERY close to) fell very ill (due to breast cancer) so his mother and step father had to fly home the day before our wedding. Needless to say they missed the wedding.

His Grandma passed the day after our wedding. We had to live with that through our entire honeymoon knowing we had missed the funeral and didn't get to say goodbye but she made us promise not to leave St Lucia for her and she meant it!

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my priest showed up to the wedding a half hour late the bride and groom was on time but the priest shows up late I was so mad

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that is terrible!! i'm so sorry your DH was so sick! Way to start "in sickness and in health" right from the start!

The biggest thing that went wrong at the wedding was that the reception hall forgot to hand out the favors (carefully selected, freshly baked that morning at their bakery and not to mention the special stickers and ribbons i bought for them and brought to the hall that week). I was NOT happy! Every time DH and I were going to the reception hall for things (selecting menu, tasting, etc) we'd pick up the loaf at the bakery and dream about the favors - so silly, i know. hehe

Then the next day we flew out to Costa Rica and got stuck in Dulles overnight due to mechanical failure. Our travel agent had quit that friday before so DH ended up on the phone in the airport, pushing our trip back by one day at each location. On the flight home, they lost my suitcase, which was finally returned at 2am (not 9pm as they'd said) and the suitcase was soaking wet, insided and out. It got stuck in a hurricane in Miami.

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I'm sooo sorry to hear how your DH was soo sick.

For us, really, nothing went wrong besides a few minor things...but they didn't bother us at all. Like, I know my girls were complaining b/c it was cold out, so were weren't able to take outside photos, but that' OK. Also, we missed CH but we lived LOL. It was the best day of our lives...
But that will soon be taken over once we give birth to our lil Peanut

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i am happy to say the only ONE THING went wrong on my wedding day!

but, that one thing made me so mad i pretty much missed my entire cocktail hour!

i let my MIL book a shuttle to transport my OOT family and OOT guests from three separate hotels to the reception. there was a schedule -

Fox Hollow in Syosset at 5:45p
Fairfield Inn in Syosset - 6:00p
Hilton Garden Inn - 6:25p

Reception started at 7:00pm

My OOT family who was staying at the Fox Hollow decided to drive, so when the shuttle got there, no one was there. instead of going inside and asking where people were and instead of just leaving and going to the next hotel, he sat in the parking lot of the fox hollow for ONE HOUR! no phone call, nothing!

so, my family and OOT guests were all late to teh cocktail hour and i was FUMING!

and, the same shuttle who was supposed to take people back to the hotels was supposed to run until 2:00am and it stopped running at 1:15am.

yeah, i was mad!

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i'd have to say the one thing that DH and I are still upset about is our sand ceremony - or actually what happened afterwards. We had our pastor join in the ceremony with a third color to represent God and it was a very sentimental thing. After the ceremony was over and we were all at the CH, someone from the hall packed up the sand by dumping it out of the vase and into plastic bag and packed it up back in the box with the vase and the pourers. Keep in mind the vase had a top that was on it after we poured the sand. Who would have knew this was going to happen. We didn't find out until after the wedding was over but it still stings to look at it everyday. So now our sand is a big blob mess and looks nothing like what it did that day.

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I was about to say nothing bu then my friend reminded me that I slipped during my entrance... I didn't fall but it was noticable!

I was devastated but almost a year later I almost forgot.

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I'm sorry to hear about everyone's mishaps!

Honestly, nothing major went wrong at all. With the exception of a few pictures I wanted that were not taken and the fact that my father was only there is spirit, the only thing I was a bit annoyed about, but it worked out in the end, was that around 11pm the Emcee asked me if I still wanted to do the Hora. He said, you're supposed to do it in the beginning, but b/c you had so much music you wanted played, we haven't done it, it's late but do you still want to do it now? Um hello!? YES! It's a jewish tradition, I've been waiting years to dance this with my family and have DH and i go up on chairs! So needless to say, I said Yes and we went up!! DH was scared S**TLESS and I have the pictures to prove it! The video is even better that you can see and hear me pointing and laughing at him and enjoying myself up there!

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So sorry to hear about your DH! Mine got sick that day too, but it was a cold -- nothing like what you had happen!

Lets see, it's been almost 5 years and I can still remember almost everything that went wrong:
-I didn't think to try on EVERYTHING before that day, so when I put on my stockings with the garter belt, it was too big. When I tightened the straps as tight as they could go, they were waaayyyy too long -- kind of just flapping in the breeze. So I had to send somebody out to get me a pair of pantyhose instead. The photographer was at my house already and waiting to start taking pics. We were about 1/2 hour behing schedule because of this. So we got very few pics at home. Finally somebody suggested that I put my dress and shoes on and start taking pics and then put the hose on when they get back. Duh, why didn't I think of that sooner?????
-BMs were supposed to be at my house 2 hours early and get dressed there but showed up about 30mins early already dressed. Not a big deal but I missed all the fun and anticipation of the day. I even had to drive myself to my hair appt. and drive home with my veil already on.
-I had a couple of OOT guests staying with me and they were going to go to the church early to drop off the programs, bells to ring after church and tissue packets, pew bows and alter flowers (we couldn't decorate beforehand because it was during Advent). Well 2 of my BMs gave OOT people HORRIBLE directions and they ended up by the Cross Island, when they should have been in Babylon. Needless to say, they almost missed the whole ceremony! They got there about 1/2 way in. Good thing I was having a full mass or they would have missed it all.
-DH, groomsmen, mothers and grandmothers had no flowers b/c they were with OOT guests in Queens.
-the priest was my uncle and he wanted to be at the back of the church controlling the processional instead of using the limo guy . Well, he made me walk down the aisle before they played "Here Comes The Bride". I practiced for weeks, making sure I didn't go too early or walk too fast and then he took it all away from me.
-I messed up my vows. I said DH's name instead of mine, but everybody laughed so it was ok.
-Priest didn't "pronounce us" and tell us to kiss so it also was weird.
-Photog wanted to take pics inside church right after receiving line so by the time we walked out to limo everybody was gone.
-Reception was mostly ok except that they lost my favors (CDs that I had wrapped and were to be put under Christmas tree). I had to force them several times to go look for and find them. Finally they did.
-We had to stop at 7-11 on the way back to hotel for cold medicine for DH.
-DH's necklace that his stepfather gave him and was very sentimental was stolen from the hotel room.
-On our way to Hawaii, we had a layover in Detroit and the water main on the plane broke so we were stuck there overnight. We spent the first night of our honeymoon in what can only be described as a "No-Tell Motel" with no heat!

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oh wow!

The worst thingthat happened on our wedding day was that i had to curl my own hair! lol

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Hmmm lets see....

- The night before my wedding I only got 45 minutes of sleep... So in the morning I was exhausted and by the time I had to put my dress on my anxiety had taken over with my exhaustion and I got very nauseous. I ended up throwing up in the limo on the way to the hall and feeling sick the whole day. I also look completely drained in alot of my pics.

- My mom must have been half asleep too cause she attempted to make a pot of coffee, but forgot to put in the pot and the coffee brewed all over the floor of the kitchen..

- One of my bridesmaids got the zipper stuck on the back of her dress right in the small of her back.. the dress couldnt be pulled over her head or over her butt. We had to rip the dress off her and have my mom (who barely knows how to use her sewing machine) sew it up real quick. Because of this we didnt have time to go take pics where were originally wanted them before the ceremony and we ended up taking pics through most of the reception at the hall.

- Our ceremony was at Jericho Terrace and the ceremony before us ran a half hour late, delaying our ceremony and cutting a half hour out of our reception. JT tried to make up for it by throwing in the chocolate fountain, cordials bar and wine on the tables.. If i hadnt been so sick feeling i would have fought more about it but i let it go. I thought my BIL was going to kill someone though.

- The videoographer i booked sent someone else to shoot the wedding.

- For the last dance the DJ called me and DH on to the dance floor, i went to the middle of the floor, but DH was outside smoking a cigar with his groomsmen, so i stood there, by myself hating, him as the reception ended... I still tease him about it..

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I am so sorry to hear that!!! Good thing everything turned out okay in the end though!

The only thing that went wrong is we got stuck in meggggga traffic going to the RH. It took like 2 hours to get there and because of it I did not get to take pics where I wanted to and could only take them at the RH which kind of upset me. Other than that, I think everything went pretty smoothly. As far as the pics, I love what I got and maybe we will do some professional pics for our one year anniv.

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We had a few minor mishaps but nothing that ruined my day. For me that day I ended up with a horrible ache in my knee but I managed to suck it up and then when I got a tooth ache but my aunt saved me and ran to a 7-11 on her way to the RH and bought my orajel.
My unity candle broke but I didnt find out about that until after the wedding it held in place throughout the church.
My MIL bought Jordan Almonds in a bowl with a pair of tongs to the reception which we had said no to doing earlier that morning, cause we both thought it was tacky and unsanitary - why she still did it I have no idea - I'm so happy I found out about that weeks later - DH saw it that day but smart man that he is never told me.
My dad was supposed to say a blessing and for some reason my mom told him that I didnt want it and he never said one which still irks me, why she couldn't just butt out.
My bustle broke because ppl kept stepping on it during the tarantella so I had to hold my dress half the night but it was light so I didnt care.
And our Maitre'D was a real a$$ all night and tried to force us to do cake earlier than we wanted and was rude to some guests but despite all of it nothing affected me that day at all. By time the reception started my tooth and knee stopped hurting and I had a blast.

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I cannot believe some of the mishaps everyone had to go thru!! We had a few things go wrong but for the most part they were minimal.

1) my veil was put in face down so i had to go back and have it fixed.

2) dad and i were waiting in the Rolls Royce getting ready to go to the ceremony and my girls were loading into the party bus. My sister looked up said "i don't think it's going to rain" and a bird pooed directly on her forehead.

3) after the ceremony i was going to thank the string quartet for doing such an amazing job and the deacon stepped on my train and 8 out of 12 clasps holding on my detachable train got ripped out.

4) taking pics in the arboretum. Photographer had a great idea involving a tree. Dh and i walked over to it and out flew a swarm of mini dragonflies. They flew up my dress and got stuck in the many layers underneath.

5) the flowers were completely wrong

6) the percussionist didn't show up til 9:45 (reception started at 7) and the dj told him not even to bother (which im happy he told him!)

7) during the cocktail hour when the bridal party was in the bridal suite, the kids were playing. What we didnt realize that in one of the crayola packages, there was a trial size of blue paint. My 4 year old niece turned around and had all blue paint splashed all over her white flower girl dress. Somehow my sil who was 7.5 months pregnant at the time washed all the paint out and dried the dress by the time they were announced in.

8) my sisters ended up doing her own hair. she went to a salon and they screwed her hair up twice which made her an hour late for pics.

and i think that's about it. It was still the best day of our lives and i laughed at everything that happened. Dh couldnt believe how calm i stayed.

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RH wise bridal attendent sucked a$$, they broke ,my pillars to my unity candle, fixed them and then when we got home the way they packed them they broke again. When we went to eat our cake they already took it away and never wrapped anything up for us, the bride and groom, that we didnt eat. But everything else was GREAT with the RH!!!
My photographer didnt take all our pics that we wanted and some of yout traditional pics arent there
Our DJ played the wrong version to the song I walked down to, it was my parents wedding song.
He started intoducing us while playing the BP inro song and then when it was time to walk in it was at the wrong part of the song. I made them keep the doors shut til it was on the right part. He did play ALOT of our songs but didnt play alot of FH's songs, so he was mad at that.
Also our florist was GREAT but, the in house florist to the rH sucked and they did the arch for my ceremony.
Mind you I still have to tell each of them how I feel

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Our main photographer drove us crazy the entire day and we think we missed shots with some family because he was a nutjob. Even our 2nd photographer and videographer thought he was psycho. He had us running after geese and had me laying on the ground (albeit on a mat) in my dress at the park. I was late to the ceremony because of him too. He just wouldn't listen when we told him we had to leave.

Other than that, it was seriously the most perfect day.