What would you do? Advice needed (kind of long).

We've been trying for DC #2 for a while now with no luck and we are going to start seeing an RE in August.

Recently I've been doing some research on a career change that I would like to make and I found a 2 year online program that would give me a masters in the field that I am interested in. The program is completely online except for two 4-day sessions (one per year) that are located on campus in East Virginia. If I get pregnant this cycle then my due date would be around May 1, and the first on-site session for the program would be the last week in April, making it impossible for me to go. You can only start this program in May, so if I miss the May, 2010 start then I would have to wait until May, 2011.

Part of me is saying not to skip TTC this month because we've been trying for a while and I don't want to miss any opportunities. The other part of me is saying that we'll probably have better luck at conceiving now that we are going to the RE and skipping this month won't be as big of a deal because of that.

What would you do???

Re: What would you do? Advice needed (kind of long).

I am also going back to school for a career change. I have been TTC for a while now and it hasn't happened yet and I can not hold back my plans for TTC because I did that in the begin. When we started TTC, I made myself crazy over it. I was so let down when it didn't happen. I have to focus on my career now because even if we do get pregnant within this year, the best thing for my family is my career change.
I would not hold off on the career change and if you have to put TTC on hold for 1 month then its okay. In the end you have to do whats best for you and your family.

Re: What would you do? Advice needed (kind of long).

Re: What would you do? Advice needed (kind of long).

Thank you both for your advice. I think I just needed someone to tell me that it was okay to put TTC on hold for a month (even though DH already said so) so that I could do this. It kind of makes me sad but I feel that it is the right thing for me to do.

Re: What would you do? Advice needed (kind of long).

I think you should take the month off, give yourself a break physically & mentally. That way you can do the school thing. I also think it will take some of the stress off if you take a little break. Since you are going to the RE I don't think a month is a big deal. Good luck either way.

Re: What would you do? Advice needed (kind of long).

my advice is this:
First, you have to do what y ou think is best for YOU. I know that is the obvious. However, that being said, I would not put my life on hold and what I mean by that is nothing is ever perfect.

i dont have a house, but we are trying for #2 because i dont want to wait

if i were you and TTC, then I wouldnt stop. You never know what can happen and you cant plan everything.
I dont know if i am making sense; or babbling LOL
careers are important and part of why i didnt get married until i was 34 and then a baby at 35 BUT looking back, i am grateful im done with school, but wish i had started my family earlier


ETA: i also agree with the PPs that said a month or so is not going to be a big deal. A few months wont make too much of a difference if that makes you feel better

Message edited 7/29/2009 7:28:18 PM.