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Tracy705
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What would you do in this situation? Long
I know I have shared one story on here before about my new neighbors. I live in a very unfriendly and self absorbed neighborhood. This is a bit long but my anxiety is super high.
I have lived here 8 years and there is a lady two houses down has never even looked in my direction or spoken to me. Never even a wave. When we got our driveway done she came screaming down the block at my contractor (while I was talking to him) that their was mud in the street by her house and he was making too much noise (he worked from 9:30am-3pm everyday). Another time we had a party here and she came knocking at the door that one of our guests were parked in front of her house and they needed to move it because the fire truck and fire men were coming for dinner at 6pm (it was 3pm) and my guest were long gone when they finally showed up at 9pm. There are many more stories about this house but, these are the two that effect me directly. You can just see this woman is crazy and I am just trying to keep my distance.
Anyway, about 2 weeks ago I am unloading mulch from my truck, she comes down to tell me that her car got robbed. I am keep it short and tell her thank you for the information. I felt like saying after all this you want to talk to me? 8 years you don't even know my name.
Well, Monday she has her 6 month old grandchild in a walker and walks by my house. My windows are open and she keeps making loud comment for the child to stay off my grass, I am not a nice lady, I am nasty. I am choosing to ignore it. I can't fight crazy! She is making it a point to walk by and turn around at my property line the last 2 days. My windows are closed but, I am sure she is out there running her mouth. I really don't need this and I don't need my kids to hear this.
What would you do in this situation? The woman is clearly not sane. I do not want to confront her personally and add more fuel to the fire.
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MrsM84
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What would you do in this situation? Long
I think you answered your own question when you said "I do not want to confront her personally and add more fuel to the fire." I know that its annoying and that it bothers you, but I honestly don't think its worth it to say something or even bring it up. I know you said you didn't want to confront her personally -- what would even be the other option? Leaving her a note in her mailbox or on her windshield? Based on what you said about her, she would likely try to blame some car scratch or damage on you. Not to mention, IMO, leaving notes is childish and immature. I say leave it be.
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| Posted 5/7/14 6:43 PM |
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Tracy705
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Re: What would you do in this situation? Long
Posted by MrsM84
I think you answered your own question when you said "I do not want to confront her personally and add more fuel to the fire." I know that its annoying and that it bothers you, but I honestly don't think its worth it to say something or even bring it up. I know you said you didn't want to confront her personally -- what would even be the other option? Leaving her a note in her mailbox or on her windshield? Based on what you said about her, she would likely try to blame some car scratch or damage on you. Not to mention, IMO, leaving notes is childish and immature. I say leave it be.
Thank you! I am just feeling like I am the crazy one here! At this point everyone made it clear here that they wanted to be left alone and 8 years later I feel the same about them! I am just worried about this continuously happening and feeling uncomfortable in my own home.
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| Posted 5/7/14 6:45 PM |
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Re: What would you do in this situation? Long
Do not even respond to her.
It's not worth it to start a war especially if you have no plans to move.
She sounds like she has way too much time on her hands to invent stuff in her head.
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| Posted 5/7/14 6:46 PM |
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Re: What would you do in this situation? Long
Why do you think your block or neighborhood is like that? Any reason you can think of? B/c it seems it's not just her that is unfriendly. Are they friendly with each other and not you? Are you the outcast for whatever reason?
I think you definitely need to watch your back, I would be afraid of this wacko accusing you or your child of something. Why do you think she is targeting you?
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| Posted 5/7/14 7:42 PM |
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alli3131
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What would you do in this situation? Long
Ignore.
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| Posted 5/7/14 7:48 PM |
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Tracy705
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Re: What would you do in this situation? Long
Posted by Goobster
Why do you think your block or neighborhood is like that? Any reason you can think of? B/c it seems it's not just her that is unfriendly. Are they friendly with each other and not you? Are you the outcast for whatever reason?
I think you definitely need to watch your back, I would be afraid of this wacko accusing you or your child of something. Why do you think she is targeting you?
Everyone seems to have had a problem with everyone in the past here. Most of it is over parking and who owns the street. Several of the neighbors are hermits and won't make eye contact as they literally run in the house. I have been told by another neighbor that this woman is a B*. There are a few that will small talk with me but, nothing major. I am good friends with my elderly neighbor next door.
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| Posted 5/7/14 7:51 PM |
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Re: What would you do in this situation? Long
I agree with just ignoring the behavior. It doesn't sound like it rises to the level of any kind of harassment or really affects the enjoyment of your home for you or interferes with your daily life. So I would just try to brush it off and not let it get to you. I am sure it's more about her than you, as it doesn't sound like you did anything to bring on this type of reaction.
It sounds like your neighbors are generally unfriendly, and this one in particular, is rude and always looking for a reason to complain.
Maybe I am a total Pollyanna, but I actually might try some mild friendliness when you see this woman. Not going out of your way or anything, but a smile and a wave if you are getting in your car and she's outside, or if you see her walking out with her grandchild, comment on how cute the kid is or what a nice day it is! It couldn't hurt, and if she responds in kind (and I am often surprised how well seemingly awful people respond to kindness), then it may make things better for you, or at least less uncomfortable.
And if it makes you feel better - My DH recently taped an episode of either Dateline or 20/20 for me, because it featured a segment on real estate agents (doing awful things, but that's another story). Another segment in that episode was about how two neighbors had a dispute over a buying a piece of property, and the one neighbor (who was the town fire chief) turned the entire TOWN (it was a small town in Ohio) against his neighbor who he felt wronged him. The town had a "horn blowing campaign" and for like, 5 years, now, everyone who drives by the fire chief's neighbors house (including the POLICE) honks their horns loudly... early morning, middle of the night, whenever. It was driving them crazy!!! They were totally harassed outcasts.
Makes your neighborhood sound like Pleasantville, right?  But all kidding aside, it does stink to have bad neighbors, but at least you have a couple who you seem to like/be friendly with.
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| Posted 5/7/14 9:16 PM |
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