Akward situation...What would you do? With poll (UPDATED)

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Akward situation...What would you do? With poll (UPDATED)

My baby shower was on March 12, over a month ago. My dad (who lives in Florida with his girlfriend who he had a affair with on my mom) made a HUGE stink about us sending his GF an invite to the shower. I did not want her invited and my SIL had to tell me that dad was pressuring her to invite the GF. So I said to keep the peace with my dad, to do it (it would have been one of those things that he would never let me forget). So, we invited dad's GF and she never RSVP'ed. My dad calls the day of and says to SIL you knew GF was not coming because we live so far away, I just wanted her to be invited, yadda, yadda, yadda. Meanwhile, this is the same GF who told my dad that my pregnancy was "hard for her" because she wants kids and her ex never wanted them. Her divorce is not final and that is why her & my dad are not married...WHATEVER! Chat Icon She wants a baby with my dad after they are married. My dad is 55, and is three weeks from being a Grandpa, and she is 46. Keep in mind she told my dad that she was jealous of me when I got preggo. HELLO! You married someone who has grown kids!!! I am 31 yrs old, my brother is 28 one of us was going to have a baby before you & my dad. Chat Icon I just don't get her.

Anyway, so day of my shower my dad tells me that he and his GF went out and bought all this stuff for the baby. He was mailing out the next day. I checked my registry and nothing else came off, so maybe they got it somewhere else besides BRU or did not tell BRU it was from a registry. OK, no biggie.

Well, it is April 25, still no package from my dad. Part of me thinks it would be rude to ask him where it is, yet another part says F this! He is the grandfather for God's sake and his GF probably did not mail it on purpose because she is jealous of my pregnancy. Chat Icon What if it got lost in the mail? Then, if they did send it I look like the B!tch because I did not send a thank you note (they would never let me live this down if it were the case). I am so confused about this whole thing. Plus my dad is coming up aright after the baby is born to see her, so he says. I don't want this to be an issue when he comes up here.

I need advice. This situation is so emotionally charged that I need objective opinions. TIA Chat Icon

UPDATE: They never sent it. The GF is a professor at a university in Florida. Well she had finals, or something and he said it is sitting on the floor of their living room because she did not "have time" to mail it out yet. Meanwhile, they went to the movies this weekend and out to dinner.

He apologized and said that he wanted to get the baby a few more things. I told him that was fine, I just wanted to make sure it did not get lost in the mail. I also told him that I needed to get a few more things for the baby before she gets here. He asked well, is it the stuff on your registry?? I said yes. So, he asked if I can hold off until they decide to mail the package. I told him I could not hold off because this baby could come any day, even though I am getting induced on May 17th. Then he sounded upset and sad. So I told him I would go next weekend to get everything I needed and give him a week. I feel like cr@p now.

How did I end up looking and feeling like the bad guy here?
ARRRRGGGHHHHHH!!!!!! Chat Icon

Message edited 4/25/2006 12:05:27 PM.

Posted 4/25/06 11:11 AM