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Tell your families? I just got my BFP this morning and I'm going to try to hold out and tell DH on Christmas morning. I know he's going to want to tell everyone right away. Is that too soon??

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Parents almost immediately, siblings after the first US, extended 12 weeks. Everyone is different with what makes them comfortable. I think the typical worry is if you were to have a loss would you want all these people knowing.

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Wow--I told DH within minutes so I give you major credit for waiting to tell him! As for families, I told my mom early on but not in an exciting way, DH was traveling overseas and I needed someone to talk to and join me at my first appointment. We waited until 10 weeks to tell DH's family and my dad (my mom actually kept it a secret!).

For me, I knew we'd tell these people if we did have a loss but personally I didn't want to get everyone too excited because I thought it was too early. But I think it's a very personal decision on what is best for you!

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My Parents, sister, brother, SIL, one cousin & best friend immediately.

DH told his parents & sister after we heard the heartbeat at 6 weeks.

We told our close family (uncles, cousins, etc) at 12 weeks.

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I told DH right away but family much later. That was a personal thing though bc I had had prior losses. However, I think this is a beautiful time of year to share news like this and if you are feeling it...go for it! It's only more people to love and support you!

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Immediate family I told very quickly. Personally, I only see a reason to delay telling people if I wouldn't want them to know if I have a miscarriage. So like, my sister and mom, I told as soon as I got my positive pregnancy test, b/c it's not like I would keep a miscarriage secret from them. Friends (except extremely close friends), acquaintances, colleagues, I waited as long as possible, b/c I would have kept a miscarriage secret from all of them.

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With #1, I told DH that day, my sister the next day, family after the 1st appointment, and publicly after the results of the NT scan came back.

#2, it was Christmas Day so I told DH right away and my sister later that day, my mom a few days later, rest of immediate family a week or so later, then publicly after the results of the NT scan.

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I told my family with in days. I wanted to tell them in a cute way. So we took a picture of my DS with a sign and mailed it to them so it took a few days. I would love to tell family on Christmas what a cute way. You could do so many things with it to tell the family.

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I told DH about 3 minutes after I took the test. I wanted to cry my tears of joy by myself for a few minutes, then I woke him up and told him. That was a saturday the following weekend we told our immediate families and then slowly told the most important people in our lives. We only waited 12 weeks to put it on FB and tell coworkers and stuff.

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With DS I told ExH right away. We told immediate family within 2 - 3 weeks of that.

With this past pregnancy I told DH right away (although I wanted to wait and find a cute way of telling him but I had no patience). Our immediate families we told within a week, which we didn't plan but they found out accidentally. Sadly that pregnancy ended in an ectopic and I ended up in the ER for surgery. In hindsight, I'm so glad our families knew. We needed them SO much during that time. We relied on them to take care of DS when we rushed to the hospital and we needed them for emotional support in the days and weeks after. So, personally, I don't see any reason to wait to tell them. If your DH is excited and wants to tell them on Christmas, I think it's a great day for you all to celebrate together!

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I told my husband right away and my immediate family within the week. I had been going for fertility treatments so it was a bit hard to hide considering my parents watch my two year old son. Then I told work and extended family around the end of the first trimester.

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DH couldn't hold it in so he told his parents minutes after finding out. I waited until 7 weeks to tell my family. I would have waited 12 weeks but it was the only time we would all be together for a few weeks so I went for it.
We are currently TTC DC2 and I would like to wait until 12 weeks to tell my family.
That's awesome that you are waiting until x-mas to tell him. What a present!

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We wanted to wait until Xmas to tell our families, but just couldn't hold it. We told our moms after our 6 week appt, but we are waiting to tell our siblings, fathers & best friends till Xmas & New Years when we go visit them. I'll be 9 weeks at Xmas. We are waiting until after the 1st trimester to tell everyone else on Facebook.

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Thanks for the input everyone!!!!

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Husband and best friend right away, family after my 8 week u/s

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I told DH and my sister immediately. I told the rest of my family at 14 weeks.

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After 12 week US

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It's really a personal decision. I am currently 8 weeks, and only my DH knows. I have had 3 miscarriages, with an 8 week loss last time, so I am very cautious. I want to tell on Christmas because I will be 9 weeks, and I have a sonogram on 12/23. If we pass that mark, I'll feel ok to share.

Good luck in your decision.

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I shoved the stick in DH's face the second the line showed up.

Told parents at 13 weeks. I also told my boss then because it was becoming apparent that my MS wasn't gong anywhere.

Everyone else at 20 weeks.

Work (besides my boss) when I couldn't hide it anymore- about 26/27 weeks.

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DH after the second positive to just double check ( I was in shock - this is our third)

Immediate family after the initial 8 week u/s ( wanted to see the heartbeat)

Very close friends around 14 weeks

I am currently 18 weeks and have not told anyone at work and still not sure when I will

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#1 and #2: the day we found out
#3: one week after bfp

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With both my kids i told dh and my sister the second i saw two lines

Family and close friends i told around 8/9 weeks after my first US

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Ahhhh! I'm so happy for you :) another 2013 Bride baby! Congrats!

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I told my mom right away and then she told my dad. We told my in-laws last night at dinner at 9 weeks. We plan to tell our siblings on Christmas (10 weeks), and our friends on New Year's (11 weeks)

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I told my DH almost immediately. I was actually bummed that I had to wait an entire day because I wanted to tell him face to face.

We both told our sisters a little earlier, before our first appointment- I needed help covering up the fact that I wasn't drinking at my brother's 21st birthday party. We told our parents right after the first appointment- about 8 weeks.

ETA: Then we made a FB announcement after the NT scan at 12 weeks.

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