Where do you draw the line with inviting people for 1st bdays or other big celebrations?

For DD1, we did family and friends for everything. Fast forward almost 4 years and we have more family and more friends (with more kids), so it's so tough planning a party. For DD2's christening, we did just immediate and extended family and vowed to have friends at her 1st bday (especially since some of our friends seem to care more than family, but that's a whole other post!).

So here I am doing the list and it's out of control--well over 100 people (counting kids). The place has the space, but I don't want that large of a party. I'm thinking of doing immediate and close extended family (aunts and uncles) and then only our cousins and close friends who have young kids. It's a joint "frozen" party for my one year old and four year old (bdays are a day apart), so it's really more of a kiddie party with games and entertainment. But then I feel like I'm discriminating against my childless cousins and friends. Some of them might be glad they don't have to come, but some will definitely take issue. UGH!

WWYD?

Re: Where do you draw the line with inviting people for 1st bdays or other big celebrations?

I am of no help. I was in that situation and I just invited everyone. BUT, I did tell the childless ones that they shouldn't feel obligated to come and I think they were happy I said that because I got quite a few "Are you sure? Because then we won't come if we don't have to." So win win.

Where do you draw the line with inviting people for 1st bdays or other big celebrations?

I would only invite the ones with kids. Those without will probably be ok with not having to go to a kiddie party. Can you cut a cake at home with those without kids so you dont hurt any feelings? Im sire the last thingg you'd want to do is have another party, but that may be an option.

Re: Where do you draw the line with inviting people for 1st bdays or other big celebrations?

We don't do any childless friends, or anyone that doesn't live really close. Growing up we did a separate family dinner and a friends party.

Re: Where do you draw the line with inviting people for 1st bdays or other big celebrations?

I think its fine to just invite those with kids

Where do you draw the line with inviting people for 1st bdays or other big celebrations?

We don't do childless friends except for my BFF, she is like a sister to me so I could never leave her out.

Re: Where do you draw the line with inviting people for 1st bdays or other big celebrations?

First we invited everyone but drew the line at our great aunts/uncles. We had the space and figured we only needed to throw one birthday so we went all out 2nd we did more of a kiddie party and mil tried inviting the great aunts and uncles. To me I'd rather invite less older relatives and keep friends and their kids bc that's who my kids friends are. It's their party. But that gets bloomers in a bunch. Lol

Re: Where do you draw the line with inviting people for 1st bdays or other big celebrations?

We didn't have religious ceremonies, so we did big 1st birthday parties for both kids. We had close to 100 people for my first DS and well over 100 for my second DS.
For subsequent birthdays we have kiddie parties. Then on their actual birthdays we have our parents, siblings, and their kids over for dinner and cake.
At first that was an issue because my DH families usually has everyone over for birthday cake. But my MIL has 6 brothers and sisters, plus their spouses and children. It's well over 30 people and I was not on board for that. Now everyone is used to it. His aunts may stop by to bring a gift, which is so much better. They stay for a bit, play with DS, have coffee, get more one on one time, and I don't have to feel stressed.