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bikramaddict
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Why does family need to be so nosy??
I'm 7 weeks pregnant. In mid August my SIL literally interoggated me about being pregnant. It was really annoying. At the end of the month - by now I knew I was pregnant - my other SIL was grilling me about why am I drinking water. The weekend after she asked DH if I was preggers (he said no). Everyone is pushing! Then she pressed DH parents to see what they knew (they know) then the first SIL who interrogated me did the same to DH when he was over without me. He said 'I can't confirm or deny' and she STILL pushed for more details. Wtf??? He says they are all just excited to congratulate us but I think this is ridiculous. Ugh.
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Posted 9/17/15 1:09 PM  |
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Re: Why does family need to be so nosy??
My family was much the same- at least my mom. That's why I let my sister in on the secret, so she could help run interference. We told them after our first appointment anyway so the cat's out of the bag now and it is much less stressful, thankfully. Like your DH said, they're just excited! For me, I'm the first in my generation so it's kind of a big deal. 
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| Posted 9/17/15 1:19 PM |
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olive98
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Why does family need to be so nosy??
I would just tell her and ask her not to say anything. Did you let he know you guys were trying? If you did I can see why she is doing that. Its annoying but im sure she is just excited
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| Posted 9/17/15 1:57 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: Why does family need to be so nosy??
When 'I'm not confirming or denying' was told to her. She asked how far along am I. He said it's too early and we haven't gone to the doctor yet. So she knows. But I'm just pissed that she couldn't just leave it as 'confirm or deny'. I got angry at DH for not squashing it there.
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| Posted 9/17/15 2:34 PM |
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bringonababy
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Why does family need to be so nosy??
Same boat--SIL asks me, DH, his parents. We were at a wedding recently and when she saw I wasn't drinking, she actually told me to take a sip of her wine because it was so good (she was testing me). Well I took a small sip just to appease her but I could not believe how immature she was.
I wish I was the only person dealing with this--I'm sorry you are too! I know she is going to yell at me for "lying" when we eventually tell her but you know what? I want to tell everyone else before her because she has taken the joy out of announcing.
People stink.
Message edited 9/17/2015 2:51:52 PM.
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bikramaddict
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Re: Why does family need to be so nosy??
Posted by bringonababy
Same boat--SIL asks me, DH, his parents. We were at a wedding recently and when she saw I wasn't drinking, she actually told me to take a sip of her wine because it was so good (she was testing me). Well I took a small sip just to appease her but I could not believe how immature she was.
I wish I was the only person dealing with this--I'm sorry you are too! I know she is going to yell at me for "lying" when we eventually tell her but you know what? I want to tell everyone else before her because she has taken the joy out of announcing.
People stink.
Yes! You worded that well - it takes the excitement out of actually announcing it to them. We won't do anything fun now like we planned because there's no point. They all know.
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| Posted 9/17/15 4:03 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Why does family need to be so nosy??
Wow they are so obnoxious! I honesty don't know why people can't help themselves and mind their own business!
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| Posted 9/17/15 4:09 PM |
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ChristinaM128
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Re: Why does family need to be so nosy??
Ugh, that's so annoying.
We personally decided to tell our parents and siblings (and that was it) right away, because 1) it did make it more comfortable not hiding anything, and 2) should anything have happened early on, I would want these individuals to know anyways and help support me.
But just because that was my decision doesn't mean I think everyone should do that. You should do what you feel comfortable with. It's sad people can't get the hint and just respect people! I suspected my cousin was pregnant from the very beginning and would never ever call her out on it!
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| Posted 9/17/15 4:53 PM |
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MichLiz213
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Why does family need to be so nosy??
People don't think.
When I was pregnant with my son, my grandmother AND my cousin both asked if it was planned.
We had been married three and a half years when I got pregnant.
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| Posted 9/17/15 7:47 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Why does family need to be so nosy??
What is it with nosy SILs? I have one too. She hounded my in laws and then when I saw her, she tried to (not so subtly) trick me into telling her. I didn't bite because I'm smarter than she is.
I don't know about your case, but I think men are delusional about their families (I know my DH is). Most people who are genuinely happy for someone don't poke and prod for info because they're sooooo excited. They poke and prod cause they're nosy and don't consider anyone else's feelings.
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| Posted 9/17/15 10:35 PM |
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seaside
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Re: Why does family need to be so nosy??
I feel like parents and close close family are different. but I wish we could call out the rest of these jokers (I had them too). It's like...this isn't a game or a challenge or a treasure hunt, or a referendum on how close or important you are to me. It's about ME. My privacy, my sense of vulnerability, my comfort with this being known, my ability to share my own good news in my own time.
It's so passive aggressive to try to steal that out from under someone.
If someone really loves, supports, and roots for you, they don't engage in this disgusting behavior. Looking back, I wish I'd just been like "Seriously? You're really trying to do this?"
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| Posted 9/17/15 11:07 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: Why does family need to be so nosy??
Posted by LuckyStar
What is it with nosy SILs? I have one too. She hounded my in laws and then when I saw her, she tried to (not so subtly) trick me into telling her. I didn't bite because I'm smarter than she is.
I don't know about your case, but I think men are delusional about their families (I know my DH is). Most people who are genuinely happy for someone don't poke and prod for info because they're sooooo excited. They poke and prod cause they're nosy and don't consider anyone else's feelings.
I told DH last night that our SIL took away all the fun of announcing it with her interrogations. DH thought I was nuts. Honestly at this point I'd like to not say anything at all and when I start showing just say 'oh yeah, you knew when you interrogated DH so I didn't think there was a need to make a formal announcement.' That's kinda passive aggressive though. I won't do it. But I'd like to.
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