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AJsMommy122
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Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Either a sister, best friend, whoever was having an Engagement party and you knew nothing of it until you got an invitation in the mail ?
ETA: My DH is the best man, best friends with the groom, and his only brother!
Message edited 10/24/2005 8:01:26 PM.
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dm24angel
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
I would be mad yes
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| Posted 10/24/05 7:38 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Not really....
If they got engaged recently...
I probably would hae just assumed...
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| Posted 10/24/05 7:39 PM |
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by Redhead
Not really....
If they got engaged recently...
I probably would hae just assumed...
Ok well what if they said they were having one... and then changed their minds.
Then you didn't hear another peep about it until the invites went out
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| Posted 10/24/05 7:40 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by AJsMommy122
Posted by Redhead
Not really....
If they got engaged recently...
I probably would hae just assumed...
Ok well what if they said they were having one... and then changed their minds.
Then you didn't hear another peep about it until the invites went out
ohhhhhhh...well that be a tad bit different
I don't know if i would bother being mad but rather strangely confused and annoyed
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| Posted 10/24/05 7:44 PM |
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by Redhead
Posted by AJsMommy122
Posted by Redhead
Not really....
If they got engaged recently...
I probably would hae just assumed...
Ok well what if they said they were having one... and then changed their minds.
Then you didn't hear another peep about it until the invites went out
ohhhhhhh...well that be a tad bit different
I don't know if i would bother being mad but rather strangely confused and annoyed
Thanks!!! 
Its also weird b/c DH is the best man and we see them and talk to my bil almost every day
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| Posted 10/24/05 7:46 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by AJsMommy122
Thanks!!!
Its also weird b/c DH is the best man and we see them and talk to my bil almost every day
Your DH is the BEST MAN...then yes i find that VERY WEIRD
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| Posted 10/24/05 7:51 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
I would be pretty upset.
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by Redhead
Posted by AJsMommy122
Thanks!!!
Its also weird b/c DH is the best man and we see them and talk to my bil almost every day
Your DH is the BEST MAN...then yes i find that VERY WEIRD
Best Man, Best friend and ONLY brother 
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| Posted 10/24/05 8:00 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
I find it REALLY strange especially since your DH is the best man. I would wonder if they were trying to not invite us or something...or maybe hiding something. I might be a little upset because I would be wondering what was going on.
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by BabyAvocado
I find it REALLY strange especially since your DH is the best man. I would wonder if they were trying to not invite us or something...or maybe hiding something. I might be a little upset because I would be wondering what was going on.
I think it MIGHT be b/c he is embarassed. His fiance basically leaves him out of everything. She went with her sister and picked the place and booked it and THEN told him about it.
Also DH's family is known for having really big fancy, expensive parties and this is going to be a breakfast buffet ( Unheard of and unacceptable in my MIL's eyes). And he probably knew his mom ( but not DH) would be mad b/c the place his fiance picked is like more then an hour away from where my MIL lives and at least an hour and a half from the rest of DH's family.
But DH isn't like that he could care less where it is or what kind of food was served, etc.
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
how about if your friend had a engagement party and it was just family and you are going to be apart of the wedding party would you be upset if you didn't go? my friend who got engage a couple of months ago had her engagement party this past saturday with just"family" no friends.
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| Posted 10/24/05 8:11 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
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Posted by BabyAvocado
I find it REALLY strange especially since your DH is the best man. I would wonder if they were trying to not invite us or something...or maybe hiding something. I might be a little upset because I would be wondering what was going on.
I think it MIGHT be b/c he is embarassed. His fiance basically leaves him out of everything. She went with her sister and picked the place and booked it and THEN told him about it.
Also DH's family is known for having really big fancy, expensive parties and this is going to be a breakfast buffet ( Unheard of and unacceptable in my MIL's eyes). And he probably knew his mom ( but not DH) would be mad b/c the place his fiance picked is like more then an hour away from where my MIL lives and at least an hour and a half from the rest of DH's family.
But DH isn't like that he could care less where it is or what kind of food was served, etc.
Then I can kinda understand why he didn't say anything. Maybe he was afraid of having to hear crap from his mom. Maybe he thought that even though you and DH wouldn't care about something like that, but that you might mention it to your MIL and then he'd have to hear it.
Did your MIL know about the party before you guys?
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by BabyAvocado
Posted by AJsMommy122
Posted by BabyAvocado
I find it REALLY strange especially since your DH is the best man. I would wonder if they were trying to not invite us or something...or maybe hiding something. I might be a little upset because I would be wondering what was going on.
I think it MIGHT be b/c he is embarassed. His fiance basically leaves him out of everything. She went with her sister and picked the place and booked it and THEN told him about it.
Also DH's family is known for having really big fancy, expensive parties and this is going to be a breakfast buffet ( Unheard of and unacceptable in my MIL's eyes). And he probably knew his mom ( but not DH) would be mad b/c the place his fiance picked is like more then an hour away from where my MIL lives and at least an hour and a half from the rest of DH's family.
But DH isn't like that he could care less where it is or what kind of food was served, etc.
Then I can kinda understand why he didn't say anything. Maybe he was afraid of having to hear crap from his mom. Maybe he thought that even though you and DH wouldn't care about something like that, but that you might mention it to your MIL and then he'd have to hear it.
Did your MIL know about the party before you guys?
YES. But she only knew there was going to be one and the date... not that it was far away or a breakfast buffet ( I swear we thought she was going to pass out or have a heart attack when she heard that part) BUT at least she knew there was going to be one!!
Technically we found out before the invitations went out ( they are going out this week and we found out last night) But we only found out last night b/c dh saw his brother looking at favors online and asked why he was looking at favors so long before the wedding ......
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chris
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
yes i would be mad AND hurt
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
If it was a best friend, I wouldn't care and chalk it up to they forgot to tell me. On the other hand if it was one of my sisters, I'd just call her up & yell at her.
If it's DH's best friend, we would both think that he wasn't involved in the planning. DH was in many bridal parties where I had to call and ask the brides where the rehearsal dinner was & when the week of the wedding because the message didn't get conveyed. For our wedding, I called SOs & sent out invites to the rehearsal dinner so there was no mistakes.
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saraH
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
strangly confused and annoyed.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by AJsMommy122
YES. But she only knew there was going to be one and the date... not that it was far away or a breakfast buffet ( I swear we thought she was going to pass out or have a heart attack when she heard that part) BUT at least she knew there was going to be one!!
Technically we found out before the invitations went out ( they are going out this week and we found out last night) But we only found out last night b/c dh saw his brother looking at favors online and asked why he was looking at favors so long before the wedding ......
Yeah, still really weird...why do YOU think they didn't tell?
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by BabyAvocado
Posted by AJsMommy122
YES. But she only knew there was going to be one and the date... not that it was far away or a breakfast buffet ( I swear we thought she was going to pass out or have a heart attack when she heard that part) BUT at least she knew there was going to be one!!
Technically we found out before the invitations went out ( they are going out this week and we found out last night) But we only found out last night b/c dh saw his brother looking at favors online and asked why he was looking at favors so long before the wedding ......
Yeah, still really weird...why do YOU think they didn't tell?
I really don't know. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that shes always the one running the show and doing everything and he has no say in anything. And we are always on his case to stand up for himself and open his mouth... I guess he knew IN A WAY we would have something to say b/c this was all her and he was not involved one bit ( until the bill comes)
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| Posted 10/24/05 9:26 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
Posted by AJsMommy122
I really don't know. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that shes always the one running the show and doing everything and he has no say in anything. And we are always on his case to stand up for himself and open his mouth... I guess he knew IN A WAY we would have something to say b/c this was all her and he was not involved one bit ( until the bill comes)
It sounds like that could be it. Are you close with her? Like would she normally go out of her way to tell you something like this? If not, then I could see him not updating you guys for 2 reasons: 1- what you mentioned above and 2 - because guys are just clueless about this kind of stuff sometimes!
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| Posted 10/24/05 9:41 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: Would you be mad if someone you were very close with...
From what you posted in the past about this woman- I wouldn't be surprised. Are you even suer your BIL knew about it?? It sounds like she is taking everything over and he is just trying to stay out of it. I don't think that this one thing you should be mad about- the rest of the cr*p this woman has done and all of it put together can definitely justify being PO'd
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